Average Rating: 2.50 [Total Votes: 2]
Now, I'm going to reveal the single most powerful thing you can demonstrate with your personality to get any woman interested in you. It's so important that I put aside what I was working on today to get this out to you.
Have you ever noticed how we love to rate things?
We just love to give something a grade or a rating.
- "She's a 10!"
- "Two thumbs up!"
- "I gave her an 'A' for effort..."
- "He'll never make it to first base..."
Have you ever been to the web site where you get to rate people? They flash you a picture of either women or men, and you get to click what you think they are on a scale from 1 to 10. It's actually addicting when you sit there for a while, because you start to get invested in the process of grading people based on their looks.
The shame of it is that there's one important thing that's left completely out of this process.
There's nothing to indicate if this person is even likable or not. What if she's a bitch? What if she's a selfish little me-monkey?
You can't tell from the picture. (Well, most of the time.)
As a result, I won't ever rate a woman as a "10."
You can't make that high a grade with me without having a good personality and character. Nobody gets a rating higher than 9 without having the complete package.
Now, I realize that I'm a little different. Most guys will easily give up the highest rating for a woman based on looks alone. In fact, they'll even fall in lust over a woman and start selling their blood plasma based on her appearance.
In my book, that's the worst kind of mistake to make.
Why? Because there's no QUALIFICATION going on.
Remember that, because we're going to come back to it again.
Back to the whole "rating people" thing.
They've done studies where they compared the features of men and women, and had people judge whether they were attractive or not, just like on that web site I was talking about. When men graded the women, they found a standard of what was considered "attractive." They could even pinpoint it to a ratio of proportions on a woman's face.
Distances were standard between the eyes, from the eyes to the mouth, from the eyes to the nose, etc.
What they found was that what guys found "hot" was actually pretty predictable.
When the women rated the men on their appearance, they found that they were more scattered. Women had different criteria. Some things were standard, sure. A strong jaw-line was important - for most. But really there wasn't a lot that they agreed on. Tastes were all over the map. Some liked big noses, some liked small ears, some liked facial hair, some didn't.
If you've ever been around women rating guys, they are just like this. Very few will agree on what they find "attractive."
Why is this?
It's because women know they need to know the guy before they can make that call. Women take time to decide whether or not they're attracted to you because they know that your CONFIDENCE and ATTITUDE really stack the deck.
Now back to qualification...
You may have even heard of this term before.
What does it mean?
I came up with a simple definition that works: Qualification is when you decide to be CHOOSY.
Really that's all there is to it.
It's the attitude that says:
- You're not going to settle for just anyone
- You're not desperate
- You're not "sold" on her yet
- You're might even be a little suspicious
When you make a snap decision that a woman is worth chasing and pursuing without any kind of qualification, you immediately become less attractive in her eyes. Your attitude changes in a hundred different ways that you don't notice. You do "little things" that clue her in to the fact that you're NOT very choosy.
And most guys don't even realize they're doing this.
After a few hours in front of a computer screen rating women, you start to forget that they are not just pretty faces, but they have personalities.
And a lot of them have personalities that could make you potentially VERY miserable.
You've got to TALK to these women.
You've got to tolerate being around them for longer than a few hours at a time.
I once dated this Russian girl that was unbelievably hot. I'm talking 9+ on most guy's scales. She was FINE.
I actually met her when I interviewed her for a position at an Investment Bank where I was working at the time.
She was also really cocky and sure of herself, and her attitude just rolled me over.
I couldn't hire her for the job, but I called her and asked her out. We had a decent first date, with a little face-sucking at the Palace of Fine Arts here in San Francisco. (For those of you who have seen the movie "The Rock," it's the place where Sean Connery meets his daughter to talk to her.) Nice. Romantic.
The next time we went out, I had my goal in mind. But what I was beginning to realize was that I was dreading being around her.
She was constantly talking. Yap yap yap. ME this, and ME that.
"Look what I've done. I'm so proud of myself..."
It was starting to get sickening. But she was so HOT! AND so damn annoying...
I distinctly remember going back to her place on the third date and hanging out there while she read me a truckload of her bad poetry. I was all "That's great!" and "How beautiful!"
What I forgot was that I should have had standards. I didn't QUALIFY her.
And in the end, she ended up pushing me out the door and telling me that she wasn't going to sleep with me, after making me tell her how much I thought of her and how great an a$$ she had. Talk about humiliating.
Ever since that experience, I remembered my lesson, and I kept it on the front of my mind so that I learned from it. (You might notice that I have no problem telling you about my mistakes because I want you to realize that I've made a lot of the same ones you have.)
The "Big Lesson" was this: I got her interested in me and demonstrated my Alpha Power when I had first INTERVIEWED her.
THAT was what got her interest spiked! I was Qualifying her that whole time, demanding that she tell ME why I should be interested in her.
If I'd just kept qualifying her a little more, called her on her self-centered behavior, told her that her poetry needed a few less five-syllable words ... and basically kept qualifying her the way I had been from when I was interviewing her, I would have been able to either satisfy my "carnal curiosity" ... or dumped HER instead before she drove me nuts.
And since my "Big Lesson", I've done just that. I reject women all the time when I sense that they're going to be pills to deal with.
Let me tell you, it feels GREAT! And my posture of qualification drives them crazy with desire.
Now YOU need to be the one to decide whether a woman is worth your time and energy.
Don't give up the reigns of control so quickly just because she's got a pretty face.
Or pretty anything else...
Repeat after me: "Beauty isn't enough!"
Until you have a chance to learn more about her, you can only say TSTR! "TOO SOON TO RATE!"
I don't give up a 10 for ANY woman until I've gotten to know her, and find out if she's a QUALITY woman.
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