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Most men HATE the idea of “rejection”. I’m not talking about “don’t like the idea” or “wish it didn’t happen”… I’m talking HATE here.

The idea of walking up to a woman and having her REJECT you causes most men to instantly feel sick in the pit of their stomachs and literally feel a horrible combination of nervousness and confusion.

A guy can psych himself up for an hour to go talk to a woman, but when the moment comes to actually DO IT, EVERYTHING changes. The heart rate shoots up, breathing quickens, eyes dart back and forth, thoughts of rejection fill the mind, and eventually the pressure becomes too much to bare.

Most men find this state so scary that they end up deciding to forget about approaching the women… just to end the discomfort.

The temptation is great to just “walk away” because just as quickly as the intense nervousness is triggered by the moment one decides to ACT, it goes away when you decide to “forget about it and walk away”.

The fact that “choosing to walk away” leads to the “instant gratification” of the nervous feeling going away makes it the most popular option. Most of the time (and I’m talking about probably 99% of the time here) men just walk away. They give up before they’ve even started. I find this topic fascinating.

If I just think about it, I can remember MANY times in my past where I wanted to talk to a woman, but I just didn’t do it.

In fact, many of them are so vivid that I can remember the exact setting, what the girl looked like, who else was there, etc… and I’m talking about situations that happened YEARS ago.

These moments obviously made an impression. I can also remember kicking myself for DAYS afterwards for not approaching and talking to these girls.
Can you relate?

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ACTUAL REJECTION AND THE FEAR OF REJECTION

I think it’s important to realize that there’s a BIG difference between ACTUAL rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the FEAR of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I’ve found that for me PERSONALLY, my FEAR of rejection is actually FAR, FAR more painful and difficult to deal with than ACTUAL rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren’t “rejected” very often!

If a woman isn’t interested, she usually just says “I have a boyfriend” or “No thank you”… or she’ll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I’ve approached women, I can’t remember any time that a woman has yelled “Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!”

I’m sure it’s happened to SOMEONE, but it’s never happened to ME.

The worst I’ve had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away.

No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling.

But here’s the kicker…

You can experience an intense FEAR of rejection EVERY time you consider approaching a woman.

Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy. You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have FEAR of rejection… which will prevent you from approaching a woman.

Ah, the power of the human mind.

HOW TO DEAL WITH REJECTION

A lot of guys ask me, “How do I deal with rejection?”.

The answer: Don’t worry about it.

If you get “rejected”, you’ll be fine.

Really.

It’s no big deal, and it doesn’t happen that often.

And when it does, you’ll recover shortly thereafter.

You’ll find yourself telling your friends about it, and laughing together. Rejection from a woman is about as painful as getting a “D” on a test.
It’s basically insignificant.

The REAL question is “How do I deal with my FEAR of rejection?”

If you can overcome your imaginary FEAR of rejection, you’ll be on your way. (Some guys have a type of fear that they might call “terror” when thinking of approaching women.)

WHY WOMEN REJECT MEN

Now let’s talk about those rare instances where a woman actually REJECTS a man.
For the sake of this discussion, I want to define “rejection” as a woman doing something that lets you know that she’s upset and offended that you started talking to her, and she responds in a mean or vicious way to make you go away.

I do NOT consider a woman walking away without stopping to talk to you, her saying “No thank you”, or any other time when a woman just simply doesn’t engage to be “rejection”.

If you DO consider these things to be rejection, please stop reading now, call your mom into your room, and tell her that it’s time you grew up and moved out… and that she’ll get over the fact that she can’t choose your clothes for you and hug you when you have a boo-boo anymore.

I digress…

I’ve found that there are a few main reasons why women actually DO reject men (by the way, it’s VERY rare that I actually get “rejected” anymore… it’s probably happened to me once in the last 100 times I’ve started a conversation with a woman… because I don’t do dumb-ass things anymore).

Here are the main ones:

1. The guy isn’t paying attention, and he does something stupid to begin with.

Some guys think it’s appropriate to walk up to a woman, put their arm around her, and say, “Hey baby, you sure do look hot tonight”.

Some guys don’t see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, stalkerish look and saying, “You remind me of my sister”.

These are bad ideas.

2. The guy doesn’t stop when he should.

If two women are sitting alone at a table in the corner, and one of them is obviously upset, and you walk over to them and say, “Hi, can I buy you a drink?”… and the upset one looks at you and says, “No thanks, we’re in the middle of a conversation” (then looks away from you back at her friend)… and you say, “Aw, cummon, have a drink. You need to lighten up and have some fun”… and she looks back at you and says firmly, “We’re busy”… and you say, “What, are you in a bad mood or something? I’m just trying to buy you a drink”… and she says, “We don’t want a drink”… and you say, “Well maybe your friend does”… and the friend says, “No, I don’t want one either”…

OK, hopefully you get it.

If you ever do something like this, you are a dumb ass, and you deserve to be slapped and have 47 drinks thrown in your lap.

3. Making a woman nervous with your body language.

If you start talking to a woman, but your posture is weak and slumped, your eyes are darting around but not meeting hers, and you’re wearing an unbuttoned flannel shirt with one of the tails tucked in, you’re probably not going to get a favorable response.

If you creep a woman out, things aren’t going to work for you.

4. Not understanding a woman’s body language and other communication.

When you start talking to a woman, she will let you know within a very short time if she’s receptive to talking to you.

If you’ve been reading too many books that say “A woman will signal her availability and interest by flipping her hair, licking her lips, and cocking her head coyly at you”, then get over it.

This stuff happens to Brat Pitt, not to YOU.

And if it DOES happen to you, then skip this part.

When you first start talking to a woman she’s either going to keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way or she’s not.

She’s either going to act like things are cool or she’s going to act like they’re not.

This is an amazing thought, but women get nervous too. They will often stop talking just because they can’t think of anything to say, etc.

But you need to pay attention. Experience is the best teacher here.

My simple point is that MOST GUYS CAUSE REJECTION by what they’re doing. They aren’t paying attention, or they’re doing things that are offensive.

If you just avoid a few major mistakes, learn how to start conversations with women, and do a few simple things RIGHT, you’ll all but totally avoid “rejection” from the women you approach.

HOW TO OVERCOME FEAR OF REJECTION

The REAL obstacle here is the FEAR. As I mentioned, FEAR of rejection, or IMAGINING rejection when you should be imagining success, leads to walking away.

You know the old saying: you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.

Ironically, I’ve found that the best way to overcome my own fear of rejection was to see that it wasn’t going to actually happen.

The more times I approached women and started conversations and the more I saw that women usually responded positively, the less I imagined things going wrong.

This led to a positive feedback loop of me wanting to approach more women and have more success.

Here are a few ideas for overcoming your own FEAR of rejection:

1) Go out to a bar, and watch men approaching women.

Take a Saturday night, and just go out alone. Find a seat at the bar where things are busy, and just watch.

Make sure you visit a place that is REALLY busy, so you can see a lot of people interacting.

Now, pay attention.

You’ll begin to pick out the guys who are approaching a lot of women, asking them to dance, buying them drinks, etc. Watch what happens.

You’ll be able to see for yourself that most of the time, even if the woman isn’t interested, nothing bad happens.

You’ll also see that when a guy tries to grab a woman who’s walking by, makes a crude sexual comment, or just keeps talking when a woman isn’t interested, that the woman’s feelings might escalate and she’ll respond negatively.

You can watch what works and what doesn’t right in front of your own eyes.

This will start to reprogram your mind that women don’t usually “reject” men, even in the most intense situations where they’re being approached all night.

2) Start small.

If you have to, start by talking to women who are PAID to talk to you.

Go to a mall (one of my favorites).

Stores in malls hire attractive young women.

Walk into every store, and start conversations.

Practice making eye contact.

Come up with a few jokes that you can use in any situation (“So, do you own this store? Perfect, then you won’t care if I just take some things…”)

Ask the salesgirls to smell your new cologne (the one you sprayed on your wrist next door) and give you her opinion.

The more you do this, the more you’ll get used to starting conversations with women you don’t know, and having comfortable conversations.

3) Choose one default thing for each situation.

It amazes me that guys don’t think ahead.

They don’t plan what they’re going to do.

As the old saying goes “By failing to plan, you plan to fail”.

You really need to figure out a DEFAULT thing you can do to start a conversation with any woman, anywhere, anytime.

Once you come up with your idea, mentally rehearse it until you could do it in any situation.

Then get out and do it.

HOW TO AVOID REJECTION AND INCREASE SUCCESS

Human beings tend to want to “save face” when it comes to relationships.

We don’t like the idea that another person has outright “rejected” us, and we ALSO tend to not want to “hurt other people’s feelings” by rejecting them.

This is one of the reasons why women will often lie and say “I have a boyfriend” when they don’t.

You must become aware of these “subconscious” processes and motivations, work with them, and eventually become the master of them.

Learn to recognize when a woman is “politely saying no thanks”, and move on.

If a woman isn’t interested in you, forget about it. It doesn’t matter.

Go to the next one. There are plenty.

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David DeAngelo

4 comment(s) Click Here to Leave a Comment Below

A10tiongrabber
I remember a girlfriend of mine saying that she just can't believe how ball-less men could get. They would stare at her all night BUT they don't have the guts to talk to her.

YES, women love being approached (the RIGHT way of course). And I'm talking about smoking hot women here like my friend.

And even if you get rejected, what's the BIG deal? It's NOT like you will lose your limb for it.

I like this post. Really spot on!
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A10tiongrabber at 06:14PM, Nov 1st 2010.
Ridwan Hussein
Heey!

Guys I really need the all help that I can get.
I'm 16 years old boy, who lives in Norway.
I i'm sick of being Virgin.
All my friends are very good at the way they talk to girls.

I will do anything to learn, but i just need help to get started.
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Ridwan Hussein at 09:07PM, Mar 3rd 2011.
Ivan Dyn
There are good tips. I would like to add that sometimes we have very deeply stuck patterns that were planted in us from the past. They can come from years of "abusing" relationship with your parents (and by abusive I don't mean physically abusive, but more "verbally" or "emotionally").
In addition to the tips mentioned above it's important to become AWARE of these patterns and interrupt. This can make the process faster that just the trial and error approach.
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Ivan Dyn at 02:50PM, Mar 28th 2011.
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