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One of the biggest challenges guys have with online dating centers around their profiles.
Why are some guys profiles sleek and captivating - while you’ve tried everything imaginable and still feel like your profile isn’t all that great?
I’ve got good news for you…
First off, take a DEEP breath because your profile is NOT even the most important piece of the online dating puzzle! It’s actually the 3rd most important piece behind the initial email, and then your photos.
There’s a formula I want you to remember, and you might have heard me talk about it before… I’ll tell it to you until I’m blue in the face:
Mystery = Intrigue, Intrigue = Interest
Pretty simple right?
So what the heck does this have to do with your profile?
A MISTAKE ALMOST EVERY GUY MAKES WITH THEIR PROFILE
I’ve noticed a KEY difference between the profiles of guys that have a lot of success meeting women online and the profiles of guys that aren’t getting ANY results online.
The guys that aren’t successful usually spill their guts and let a woman know TOO much too soon.
Their profiles aren’t REVEALING enough MYSTERY!
Quite simply your profile should be mysterious, causing a woman to be intrigued and wanting to know more… the more she’s intrigued, the more interested she becomes.
This is all taking place WITHOUT you having to email a woman or speak a word to her!
It’s like a spider web.
What’s happening is you’re using a psychological trigger to activate a woman’s ‘attract’ mechanism.
This ‘attract’ mechanism is hardwired into every single woman’s brain and it’s been there since the beginning of time.
I can hear you already saying:
‘So, Dave what does my profile have in common with a woman’s skirt?’
Just like a woman’s skirt, your profile should be revealing, not too much, but just enough to stimulate the person looking at it.
If a woman’s skirt is too short, you’ll look, but you won’t really be interested in anything other than 1 thing. If it’s too long, then odds are you’re not really going to look.
My point is in your profile you want to convey a sense of what your life is like.
Remember this is the first time the woman reading it has seen anything about you, so you want to give her a feel for what YOU and your lifestyle are like.
Never talk about negative things about your life or about yourself. Focus only on the positives.
But don’t go into too much detail, this is where most guys mess up big time.
A GREAT TACTIC TO SPICE UP YOUR PROFILE.
Some of you guys are going to think I’m absolutely nuts for saying this but trust me, this WILL work.
One of the best exercises I’ve found to help me write my own profile is going through other guys profiles which live in my area.
I know I know, it’s not something you want anyone catching you doing so make sure no one’s around, but when you’re able to see what the rest of the guys have on their profiles, and you start to see the patterns of just how boring they are, you’ll immediately know if your current profile needs a quick ‘tune up’.
Remember this: one of the best ways to learn what TO do, is by learning what NOT to do.
A great way to learn what not to do, is to see what most guys are doing and to NOT do the same thing.
This way you’re able to take the best ‘gems’ from each guys profile that fit with your personality and integrate them within your own profile.
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