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So often you and I try to relate to what she says. That is fine. However, we want her to be relating to us as well. We value ourselves when we only drive down two-way streets. So how in the world do we get her relating to us? Take my workshop and find out. Okay, until that time here is a hint: Talk in a way that is relatable. Sometimes we need to listen to ourselves. Women many times WANT to make conversation with us but we make it hard. How is she supposed to conversationally relate to, "I am from the city of Angles." It is difficult to relate to things: For example, 1 2 3 relate to the word 'Lamp Post.' See? It's f*cking hard. Now how about relating to, 'I was playing around in my car in a parking lot, making reverse donuts in the snow when to my surprise, BAM, I backed right into a lamp post I hadn't seen.' (I actually did do this once) Now, I bet you can more easily relate to that AND you feel more comfortable with me (I'm just a silly monkey-boy human like you.)
People don't relate to 'things' very easily. They relate to feelings. While you talk try to answer the question, "How do you feel about it?" Own it! Use the 'I' word. Say, "I feel _________. That made me feel __________. Jessica Simpson makes me feel __________ in my pants."
I took surfing lessons for the first time recently. When I finally got up on the board I waved to my friends on shore. 'Look at me. I'm surfing!' This lasted for about half a second and then splash - fell off the board and was pounded by the wave.
Speak in a way that women (and everyone) can see and feel. That is when they get excited to talk back to you and begin to make a commitment to the interaction. They may never have gone surfing but they can relate to the feelings of learning something new, of being proud of yourself and then wiping out. We can all relate to that.
Check out How to Meet and Connect with Women - it contains the philosophy that I have worked years to learn and refine:
- The Interesting/Interested model of interaction.
- Rapport and Vibing: You know, that thing that is 95% of your conversation.
- EXACTLY how to approach. Body language. How to ask questions.
- The difference between sexual obsession and sexual interest.
- Being the Alpha Buddha and giving away your approval.
- Simple things you need to know to keep a conversation moving.
- Statements of Intent: When to put your hand on the table.
- Making presumptions: Have high expectations for everyone you meet.
- Finding comfort and presence in silence.
- Moving towards intimacy and closing.
Also download my free 32 page interview pdf where I give insights into inner and outer game.
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