Man, I feel for any guys that are trying to get the truth on what to do when it comes to meeting and keeping a woman, and who are bombarded by all kinds of hogwash masquerading as "help". There's a lot b.s. floating around, and it's not JUST from the "buy her flowers" guys. It's also from the "bang them now!" school of attraction as well. Interesting how both extremes are false. Let's deal for now with the b.s. spread by the "bang them all now!" philosophy.
What they're not telling you is what TYPE of woman you will get, and what attracts what type of woman.
The greatest single lie comes from the false idea that your desire for stability with a chick makes you some kind of "uncool" guy.
So they try to mold you into a guy who ABHORS exclusive relationships, (the real reason they do this is because they know just how difficult it is to get the combination of hot plus great personality plus stable, in a woman, and because that is difficult to mass market, they simply say that that is a bad goal, and replace it with the new easier goal: "bang" all the "easy" chicks who themselves "bang" tons of guys! Yay!)
The truth is, that most of the chicks who are hot that you will meet at clubs, again, I repeat, ESPECIALLY if they are HOT, are flakey, imbalanced, unstable types when it comes to long term relationships. Heavy smokers, drinkers, etc.
You'd have to be pretty nuts to get into a long term relationship with them. If you did that, you'd end up draining all your energy into it, with nothing to show for it. No results. It would negatively affect your energy, your business, your life.
Especially if you are the type of person that IS stable emotionally, and that does not take drugs, smoke, drink, etc. Then the mix of you and her will be even more unstable.
THIS is why the guys who DO go for these types of girls, if the guys are not clueless, they make sure to have tons of other girls going on at the same time. Because it would be pretty stupid to think long term when it comes to these chicks.
So if you are going to go for these types of women, you have to keep the dopamine chemicals inside your head going by having plenty of chicks going at once, so you can always have at least SOME chick trigger those chemicals in your brain that make you feel good.
Also Known As: Sex.
So you're in a perpetual haze of chemicals that keeps you dazed. Like a buffer zone to chase away the reality that it's really pretty sucky.
It's not the worst feeling, but compared to the chemicals you experience when you are actually with someone you LIKE, well compared to that awesome experience, (which is chemical as well, I don't argue that it's not) it's pretty short-lived.
In the "bang them all now" philosophy, you end up with a situation where the natural chemical release in your head doesn't go beyond the sex. You don't really LIKE the girl, you can feel that truth right away as soon as the sex is over.
See, this is why I call myself The DATING Wizard. Because sex, well sex itself is pretty easy. Lots of sex with every chick that moves will not suddenly make the right woman appear and in fact may very well push her away, as she is incongruent with those values.
When it comes right down to it, the truth is that most guys want sex AND they want it with a girl they actually LIKE on both levels, sexually and personality wise.
It just FEELS better.
That's the bottom line.
But that's all a big no-no in the "getting laid guru" circles. "GET LAID! NOW! HAAA YOU STUPID FOR NOT GETTING LAID WITH HOES!!! HAAA ME HAVE WAY MORE HOES THAN YOU!!! HAAAA"
Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but sometimes a man has GOALS in life besides just sex with hoes. Maybe, just maybe, he actually values sex with a girl that has the right values, the right personality, as well.
In fact, maybe that's part of his IDENTITY.
In fact, maybe just maybe, that's the thing that DOES make him congruent FOR A QUALITY WOMAN.
If you are just looking for sex, you have no CLUE how EASY that is. Most chicks are hornier than guys. Give them a couple drinks, and you're off to the races with a little challenge, a little humor, and a nice dose of physical escalation.
But if you're looking for long term with a chick, you need a chick who has some emotional stability and some logic in her. If you enjoy the high that comes from an actual relationship, you're not going to get it from just hoes and sex.
If you have a life outside of chasing skirts, if you have a career or passion that also takes your time, then you don't have the time to deal with the endless drama that comes from being with an unstable chick.
No, you are not a loser for wanting a long term relationship.
And it's not losers who are IN them.
Unless you think that Wayne Gretzky, Tiger Woods, Sylvester Stallone, Tim Robbins, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Will Smith, Leonardo DiCaprio, Hugh Jackman, Bill Gates, Muhammed Ali, Steven Spielberg, James Cameron, and infinite others are all actually just "losers who just couldn't get any women, so they desperately craved some permanence with any woman".
I think it's obvious such a statement would be a giant crock of you-know-what.
In fact, when you DO have a woman who has got the inner personality and values as well as the outer looks, you are better able to smoothly live your entire life, which enables you to reach your full potential in life.
Hence, the importance of dating, to find the right woman. You don't and shouldn't be DESPERATE about it, but you should be FOCUSED. If you don't know where you are going, you are going to end up somewhere else.
Alright, had to get that clear. Now, onto one more important point:
You hear a lot about how important it is to CHALLENGE a woman.
There's all kinds of reasons for this, but I bet you never even thought about one of the MAIN reasons it's so important.
And KNOWING the REAL reasons will help you challenge a woman in the RIGHT WAY, because you understand the POINT of it, you understand the CONTEXT.
Without understanding the big picture, you can end up behaving like BORAT in a way though that is NOT funny and not effective. It's so crazy, because especially for a woman who is attractive, the fact is, that challenging her is one of the GREATEST things you can do for her POSITIVE sense of self-worth. You see, when you make a woman who gets the "kid gloves" treatment from every guy, it makes her feel as if she will never be pushed to become her BEST in every way including in her own life with such a guy.
That such a guy who kisses her butt will not help her REALLY GROW, because he will give her fake praise, and that he will actually encourage mediocrity from her, since he will accept anything from her.
It's not like she articulates these words in her mind, but it's the general feeling of "blah". A woman who is hot NEEDS that challenge, she ESPECIALLY needs that challenge, as in fact all human beings need it, but these type of women need it more. In fact, because of their "power", they know internally that they can often go "further" if they just pushed themselves, but everyone around them seems to be encouraging the opposite!
Don't be one of those guys!
Be GOOD to her by NOT being one of those guys who will kiss her butt and HOLD HER BACK from being all that she can be. Take off the kid gloves when you enter the ring with her, and I mean that in a playful and good yet very real way. She can handle it, trust me!
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