Or I see a lot of "demonstrations" being done on a woman who is a foreigner who has barely landed "off the boat" and is simply unfamiliar with local custom and so is being extra friendly to avoid coming across as rude, (since she's not sure what is the norm) or where the guy gets a phone number and acts as if that is the same as getting her into bed, when often a girl will give her number just to get rid of a guy.

The truth, is that even a girl MAKING OUT with you, doesn't necessarily mean much in a pickup, if it's a girl you just met at a club and who has had a drink or two, especially if she is a bit of a party girl.

And that is just the TIP of the iceberg of horrifying advice being given to guys.

But yet, because of the bad advice out there, complete with the misleading "proof" given by the "experts" in the form of "demonstrations", there are now thousands of guys doing all kinds of things that are actually REDUCING their chances of getting a woman of QUALITY into their lives. And yet, a woman of QUALITY is what 99% of guys REALLY want.

You might be wondering WHY there would be so much bad advice out there, and the answer is simple: "Flashy" marketing often WORKS, on the uninformed.

Especially if it's wrapped up in an overly dramatic and complex language that seems sophisticated. Kind of like how those late night ads for exercise machines use lingo like "isotronic kinomatic polarity iso-tension super ultra flex" as they show you some weird 3-D CGI image of a human figure with the abs section highlighted in bright colors. And then they show you how the machine supposedly works to get rid of all the fat while you can eat whatever you want like ice cream by the bucket, as long as you do the special machine for 3 minutes a day. Or is 3 minutes a week?

This kind of approach to "helping" people really sucks, doesn't it? It's not helping people at all, just getting them in bigger trouble because they are not being told what REALLY counts, what they REALLY need to do.

So, in this light, I'd like to touch upon just ONE thing today, one thing that ACTUALLY IS REALLY important. As opposed to telling you all kinds of NONSENSE like, "If a girl is ignoring you, or if she tries to leave you in middle of the pick-up, the answer is to put her down, then keep on talking to her as if she never said anything".

And so what is this one thing that I'm talking about?

It's about ABSORBING THE FEAR OF UNCERTAINTY.

Being a man, figuratively, is NOT easy, ESPECIALLY not in an era when we are brainwashed to not even KNOW what it MEANS anymore.

But one of the BIGGEST things that is attractive about MASCULINITY in the traditional sense, is the AURA of "EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY IF YOU ARE AROUND ME".

Listen, life is FULL of all kinds of situations that are CHALLENGING. There is no way to know FOR SURE if you are going to win.

And YET, this feeling of CERTAINTY, of ASSURANCE, of "everything is going to be OK" is what we all CRAVE.

It even is, I'm sorry to say, the reason why FLASHY lies sell so well. Because they give the ILLUSION of certainty, of success. "Hey, if all that mumbo jumbo technical-crap that they used to explain everything is so confusing, and I don't understand it, well then it must be SO ADVANCED it MUST be true! It MUST work!"

But let's get back to ATTRACTION here. As far as women are concerned, it's okay for WOMEN to be emotional wrecks. It's okay for WOMEN to get scared, to have fears, and on and on. And in fact, this is what makes them ESPECIALLY crave the AURA of "It's all going to be OK" from a MAN.

I don't mean the aura of supplicating to her by being a punching bag for her so she can let out all her negative emotions on you, and I don't mean for you to be a CRUTCH for her to prop her up so she feels everything is ok in that sense (it doesn't work anyway that way), what I mean is GIVING OFF THE AURA OF TOTAL CERTAINTY THAT EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OKAY AROUND YOU, BECAUSE YOU ARE THAT DAMN GOOD AT BEING A WINNER. That you can and will survive and those around you will too, because of YOU.

Now, this is the MOST VALUABLE feeling you can give a woman, it's right up there with self-esteem, because it goes right back to SURVIVAL.

It's the one "gift" that you MUST give a woman, and it's the one gift that will KEEP on giving back to YOU in a good, DAMN GOOD way, if you know what I mean.

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Yes, it's a bit of a fantasy for women, but I say GIVE IT TO THEM, as it's the way that WORKS. Kind of like how women are so damn good at knowing what turns men on.

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And if you DO happen to meet a woman who is truly self-actualized, ALL THE BETTER, that would be awesome too, because such a woman would have ZERO need to play any "games" whatsoever and would have a tremendous positive impact on your emotions and your life.

So it's a win-win situation no matter what.

These are all HUGE topics in themselves that you can get the FULL PICTURE on in my programs at http://www.seductiontuition.com/thedatingwizard but I'd like to riff on an important part of this, something known as the "shit test" that women give so well. You really need to have a thick skin to be in this game as well as have INSIDE KNOWLEDGE, especially to handle this phenomenon known as the shit test.

Otherwise you will get melted instantly at the first "shit test" a woman gives you.

So, what IS a shit test, you ask?
It's something that just about every girl will throw at you when you try to pick her up. Honestly. Almost every single girl I have ever met and that you will meet will most likely throw some shit test at you which you have to learn to successfully pass before you make any progress with her.

Women do this often without even thinking about it, it is the result of various social forces and possibly even evolutionary forces.

For example, you may open up a girl at a club with some casual conversation, and she may tell you something to try to throw you off. She may say "you're cheesy", she may say she has to go, she may even feign anger that you are interrupting her friends.

Now, it takes SKILL to know when she REALLY means it, and when she is just testing you, and when in fact she is doing all this to try to game YOU, or to try to protect herself from getting hurt.

Yes, if you have REALLY TIGHT GAME, and the girl you are chatting with does NOT feel too confident in herself, she will often do what seems like bizarre things that she does not do with most other guys. For example, with most guys, since she is not interested, she just acts normal with them, as she feels no attraction and so acts with them in a very platonic manner.

But if she feels attracted to you, and yet also feels insecure about being able to attract a guy like you, she may very well try to show you she is not so interested by being kinda bitchy.

This often happens with 7s, and sometimes with 8s. Again, I hate to use numbers, and beauty is often partially based in the eye of the beholder, but it's helpful for getting the idea across here. Girls who are 9s and up tend to feel confident enough that they have you attracted so they don't need to act this way once they already like you. Or rather, if a 9 DOES act bitchy, it's not because she is trying to "game" you but rather because she is testing to see if you are in control.

But with a 7 or often an 8, the mere fact she is going OUT OF HER WAY to act bitchy with you is ironically a SIGN of her interest. But you have to be honest, because this only happens as her sign of interest when your game is relatively tight, and when the girl doesn't feel massive confidence in her own value.

Often, the best way to deal with a bitchy comment like this, i.e. "So are you recently DIVORCED or something?" is to say back to her a REFRAME such as "and what makes you so attracted to recently divorced men?". The funny thing though is that such her comment might REALLY be her protective way of finding out if you are single because she wants you! You could also instead say something like "And you would like to know, wouldn't you?", all with a mischievous smile. Or you could even say "Are YOU?".

The key is not to let any of this ruin her STATE of attraction, because in fact she IS attracted and starting some kind of argument will only reinforce her fears that indeed you are too good to be true, (even though it would be her fault for being a insecure person that triggered this, but hey, that's why YOU are smarter now and know how to deal with it.)

And, even if she wasn't particularly attracted off the bat, it's still a good idea to never argue with her bitchy comment, because you show MASSIVE VALUE by NOT reacting emotionally to her statements, and THAT in ITSELF will attract her, and also by NOT GOING INTO THE NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL ZONE, you nurture the RIGHT atmosphere for you to create the FUN EMOTIONAL SEXUAL PLAYFUL states that allow attraction to SKYROCKET.

Now, regarding girls that are not insecure, they will also often throw out "shit tests" but for different reasons. They are not doing it out of trying to protect themselves, but rather to see if you are a guy that means BUSINESS, a guy that is a MAN.

I've had girls tell me and my friends that I am interfering in their party/conversation/etc only to be having these same girls coming BACK for more within SECONDS.

All because I knew it was a shit test, and I knew how to handle it. Sometimes women act as if they are NOT into you, to show you and their girlfriends that they DON'T allow themselves to get "picked up" easily, and so they have to act "hard to get".

But if you GO for this act of them being hard to get, you only REINFORCE their frame and now they must CONTINUE their act of being hard to get, even though deep down they really wanted to meet you!!!! And the irony is that if you CAN'T pass this test, they figure you are not a man anyway and they will shut down their attraction to you.

If you get offended easily, especially when you know that deep down the girl really WANTS you, you won't get anywhere in this area.

In way, this is about more than THICK SKIN. It's about KNOWING YOUR OWN VALUE regardless of the messages that are being sent to you verbally or non-verbally from her.

Kinda reminds me of the story of the guy who thought the weight was lighter than it really was and nobody told him. So he ended up lifting the super heavy weight that no one else had ever done, simply because he didn't get the message that he could NOT. So he DID. Same thing with your interactions with women, it doesn't matter what the heck they say to you initially when it comes to you creating attraction. In fact, if you take all that initial stuff too seriously, you will turn them OFF! Women are not looking for a guy that bases his reality on getting the approval of a woman who hasn't even done anything to show her quality of character.

Sometimes a shit test occurs when a girl has to meet you for a first date, but is feeling a bit awkward about it since she is not sure if you are a pick up artist cheesy untrustworthy guy, or if you are a cool guy that just happens to like her and met her outside of the typical social circle of her friends. She might be late, but if you get pissed off before you even know WHY she was late, you can ruin a potentially good thing.

Maybe she was late because she was so nervous trying to fix herself up to look good, maybe she is late because she's unsure of you, maybe she's late because she doesn't want you to think she's easy. If she seemed like a pretty damn good girl to begin with, then there might be a good reason for her being late. Don't let your own insecurities from the past spoil the present and the future.

It's something ELSE if you allow a woman to walk over you, but until she KNOWS YOU, and you find out a bit more about her, you really don't know what is going on, especially if she is woman who is attractive and has no idea yet of the difference between you and the zillion other guys "hitting" on her.

That's why you should be living in the same reality as her, meaning that if you had tons of women interested in you, you would not be so insecure or needy to get jaded so fast. At the same time, you would also not be idealizing some woman who you don't know yet. You would simply be doing the SMART thing, which is being chilled out and finding out more about her with time.

So until you are actually getting intimate with a girl and have some trust and rapport seriously going, it doesn't make sense to make conclusions on everything.

It takes FINESSE sometimes to handle a shit test. You have to show that you don't accept less than 100 PERCENT respect, but you have to also show that you are THE MAN and that you have enough self-security to not get too emotional so fast and also show her that you are totally aware of the fact she might be feeling a bit awkward, and MOST OF ALL, she just might be TESTING you to see HOW YOU HANDLE HER BRATTY SIDE.

Do you blow up? Do you treat her like a little camper who misbehaved, in other words you are cool and composed and clearly in a superior position?

Are you THE MAN?

Often a sense of humor helps pass a shit test. If a girl says to you for example, "It's my friends birthday, leave her alone" she might just be trying to show her friend that she is not forgetting about her and that she is not going to allow a guy to get in the way of her and her friend. HONESTLY.

You have to be able to detect the vibe of what's going on, of course, which comes with experience, but also just KNOWING that this is a possibility as opposed to her really not wanting to chat with you is important.

So a good response might actually be to just call her on her shit, in a controlled way, calmly saying something like "haa, you guys are tough, I need a tough girl that can handle me, who has enough confidence. This is a dangerous area and I'm looking for a bodyguard. A female bodyguard would be harder for anyone else to suspect, so that would be more effective than having some guy beside me. You can be like my own version of that show VIP! Which bodyguard would you guys be?"

I've actually done stuff like this, and turned a girl who was trying to show how indifferent she is and disarmed her this way, making her and her friend laugh and get into the conversation in a fun way. By reframing her behavior as something kind of silly rather than anything serious, she herself has to re-assess her own behavior, and since she sees that I'm not some kind of needy desperate guy trying to get her, and that I will just let the vibe do it's thing, she and her friend feels that this is a guy who will not force anything, yet at the same time doesn't take shit, yet at the same time is fun and not taking the whole thing too seriously.

All this takes a combo of right attitude, right frame of mind, just the right amount of dominance in your tonality and body language, with the right sense of humor.

Which flows from having the right thoughts and emotions, and INSIGHTS.

And it takes a solid understanding of the social forces acting upon women that makes women behave this way in the first place. For example, the fear women have of being labeled sluts for talking to guys they don't know.

Sometimes it requires persistence to break through a difficult set of girls. You have to assert a certain amount of DOMINANCE to take over the set while at the same time being relaxed about it and playful about it, which might seem like a contradiction but it isn't.

One of the biggest mistakes that guys make in real life, even if they have tons of memorized material to say to a woman, is that they come across as "weird" to women. As if they are cold robots spewing out words regardless of whether anyone was really listening or not.

They are not CALIBRATING the response from the woman to figure out just what this woman is about internally and what makes her tick, they are not PAYING ATTENTION to what is happening and they are not being in the moment, they are not REALLY coming across as playful, they lack the TRUE comfort in themselves.

Now, because the material some of these guys memorize is so funny or intriguing, they STILL manage to keep the girls listening, but the women can tell something is NOT right and eventually the guy gets blown out or the woman will easily "flake" on him later.

Another problem I notice is that a lot of guys get hung up on trying to be Mr. Super Don Juan Who Takes Any Girl He Meets Home On The First Night. Instead of having a good conversation, attracting her, building up some solid rapport and then meeting her again later that week.

Look, dudes, the fact is not ALL girls go home with guys on the first night!!!! Sure a LOT do, but very often the best girls DON'T. I think that maybe a lot of guys KNOW that deep down they didn't establish a good rapport/attraction with the girl, and that she will "flake" later on, so they figure it's either all out tonight or nothing.

But if they developed a good connection with the woman in the first place, then they wouldn't have this flaking problem later on nearly as much.

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The problem when guys hear this, is that they think this means "bad" in some type of negative sense.

And NOTHING could be further from the truth. Sure, some men and women who are low self-esteem pursue those who treat them badly because they really feel that is what they are worth. Usually however, even these people wake up one day and realize something is wrong.

So the truth is that attraction has nothing to do with abuse.

The truth is that the only version of "BAD" that works for any sustainable period of time is "BAD" in a sense of being SEXUAL, FUN, UNPREDICTABLE, WILD, and CHALLENGING, and yet still...underneath it all, ALSO having a HEART that deeply cares about her, and will protect her, etc.

Not only that, but ALSO the truth is that virtually NO WOMAN wants a guy with a negative "mean" attitude. That is not being "bad" in a cool sense at all, that's just "bad" as in "crappy".

You hear a lot about "mysterious" tactics for how to attract a woman. Everything from hypnosis to "magic secret subliminal code words" to ideas that are "new agey" i.e. energies and chakras.

The TRUTH is that you can give any FANCY MARKETING NAME you want to what works, but the fact is when something works in this area called attraction, it's ALL because of the SAME thing.

So if the fancy name thing is putting what I'm about to describe into action, then it WILL work. And if the fancy name thing is NOT putting into action the things I'm about to describe, then it WON'T work.

What a lot of guys aren't understanding (and this is not most guys' fault, because NO ONE has ever made it CLEAR before) is that this whole idea of "bad" is totally more along the lines of having a cool "EDGE" and not being "bad" or "jerky" at all.

So you see, in general, people DO appreciate the "GOOD."
At least when it's GOOD for THEM.

The problem is that:
A. We are living in a VERY CYNICAL society that RUINS people's faith in each other, thereby creating a lot of damaged people, who then damage other people. All this makes it tougher for men and women to be giving to each other.

B: We are also living in a society that pretends it's COOL to "one up" another person, to get the "edge" over the other person in the relationship, just look at all the magazines aimed at men and women, and of course by the way notice how they thrive off making their readers insecure so they will keep on needing to come back.

This kind of "one upmanship" DESTROYS the most vital key to unleashing the deepest levels of passion, and this key is known as TRUST.

It's really bizarre, since the idea of something being "cool" that actually destroys you and your happiness makes no sense at all.

But it's nothing new.
For years, cigarettes were SUCCESSFULLY marketed as cool, even though they cause stinky breath, ruin your lungs, cause you teeth to look ugly and deteriorate and oh yeah, they also cause death.

C: We are also living in a culture that does not EMPHASIZE the POWER and the VALUE of APPRECIATION.

Every once in a while, something happens, be it a piece of music, a film, an event, a true story, SOMETHING, that REMINDS people, men and women, of the power of ULTIMATE LOVE AND ROMANCE, and it shakes them up, but then, most people get emotionally lazy, and they let the jadedness of most people creep into their perspective and ruin the potential for something amazing in their life.

Something so amazing it would be WORTH every last drop of sacrifice and effort.

But then....most people, they start to get lazy and weak. They look for evidence to back up their jaded perspective to justify their existence.

Until once again, something happens to SHAKE up their emotions and REMIND them of something so much greater, something that they know CAN exist. But then again, they lose inspiration because the let the poisonous attitudes of most people creep into their beliefs as well...

All this is what messes so many people up. deep down, on a certain level, we all KNOW it's fundamentally screwed up, but few dare to CHALLENGE it. And yet, if you want a great relationship, a woman of quality in your life, you will have to be THE MAN and lead the way away from the madness.

And good things come to those men with the courage to challenge the insanities of our society. By the way, you don't do this by TALKING directly about it at first, you do this rather by LEADING BY EXAMPLE.

Right now, as a society most people believe that NO ONE will appreciate them for the full person they are. Women who are attractive also fall under this sphere by the way, and in a way they are right, because a lot of men will only be able to view them ONLY as sexual objects, which is just not enough for a human being. It's cool, but not everything.

In fact, kissing up to a woman who is attractive and not mentioning her beauty is in a way making it even MORE CLEAR that the guy is just doing this because she is beautiful. So this stuff is not as simple as it sounds.

But the main thing is that we have a low self-esteem society. This creates a vicious cycle where men and women are too afraid to put their ego on the line, because they don't want to get hurt. And, in order not to get hurt, they never show their appreciation for the other person, because that would make them open to getting unappreciated or hurt or whatever.

And of course, this means that the other person will eventually start to behave in unhealthy ways, since they are being starved off the CONFIRMING FEEDBACK that they NEED as a HUMAN BEING.

When a person is cut off from this "oxygen of the soul", they will feel low self-esteem and will behave in unhealthy ways, such as playing jealousy games or other types of relationship damaging behavior.

You see, as human beings, we will do ANYTHING to get a sense of self-esteem. Sometimes, people are feeling SO LOW IN SELF-ESTEEM that they are even willing to EMBRACE abuse if they think that they can at least get SOME self-esteem reward from it, such as some form of approval from that person!!!!

The games are the product of insecurity.
This is an unhealthy state of affairs.

As such, all the fruits of those games will eventually lead to DOOMSDAY between the man and the woman, even if only ONE of them is playing games, and even sooner if both of them are.

The only hope they have is to both DROP the act as soon as possible.

And ABSOLUTELY, for any LONG TERM relationship, the ego games are doomsday.

I find it really funny that some "seduction experts" say that the key to a successful long term relationship is to first "cycle" endless women through your bedroom, so that you can somehow find the magic woman that way.

It's not about that, it's about INTELLIGENT SCREENING for the kind of woman you want.

It's not about arbitrarily going through every woman on the planet till hopefully something shows up that makes sense.

That could literally take forever, even if you could live for a million years. That's like saying if you just pick up grains of sand on the beach for long enough, eventually you'll find gold.

Not only that, but even if you look at guys like Hugh Hefner, the guy who created Playboy, you see that it did nothing to help him at ALL have a long term relationship or marriage.

When he wanted to get married, and he genuinely did, his marriage didn't last. And if anyone was "cycling" the women, it was certainly him.

And he never even PRETENDED to say that his experiences helped him become better at his relationships.

So there is absolutely zero evidence for "cycling" being a good strategy for getting a woman who is a good prospect for something meaningful.

So let me get to what DOES count, and not just count, but counts a WHOLE LOT:

TRUST
Especially, mutually SHARED and mutually VALUED trust.

I'm not just talking about that kind of MINIMUM trust that most women need even for a one night stand or for whatever physical thing they are doing.

You see, men AND women can get to the physical stuff pretty fast and DEAL with it not being a necessarily a "serious" thing, but still there needs to be a CERTAIN amount of trust that they will be respected.

So I mean, that level of trust is REALLY EASY. Still though, a lot of guys mess this up, even that minimum level of trust.

But this minimum level of trust is what most of the "get laid experts" make a big deal about. It's really almost nothing, but then again, for a lot of guys, they still didn't realize this, so it's important for them.

But I'm talking about a WHOLE OTHER LEVEL of trust. Like, another UNIVERSE of trust that makes the other level look like a Fisher-Price toy plane for children next to an ACTUAL piece of sophisticated military hardware like an F-16 fighter.

When there is a MUTUAL level of trust of THIS caliber, between a man and a woman who have already ignited the sparks of attraction, you have something VERY, VERY POWERFUL.

This TRUST is about MANY things, that I could not possibly do full justice to in one article. But let me just say that SOME of those things include absolutely never, ever, ever being taken for granted, never being disrespected, never being abandoned, never being disloyal to, on ANY level, etc.

Why is this SO POWERFUL?
Because again, SELF-ESTEEM is the MOST MAGNIFICENT power on earth. People will do ANYTHING for it. It's FAR more powerful than ANYTHING else, than ANY other drive.

People don't realize this, because it's SO POWERFUL that it actually creates NEW EMOTIONS that the person doesn't realize was ACTUALLY CREATED by the self-esteem!

So for example, a lot of people "cheat" because they think they are getting more SEXUAL excitement from someone else.

But what is USUALLY GOING on, is that this OTHER person has given them GREATER SELF-ESTEEM, and THIS makes the receiver of that emotion NOW FEEL MASSIVE SEXUAL CHEMISTRY toward that person!

So what seemed like it was all about S-E-X was actually all about self-esteem.

See, we're living in a society that wants the instant fast food without health repercussions. It wants the orgasm without putting in any thought or time or feeling. It wants CONVENIENCE. It wants sugar without the calories. It wants the fit body without the workout or diet. It wants to take without giving, it wants the double standard. It wants to demand respect without giving it. It wants to be trusted without earning it.

It wants SOMETHING FOR NOTHING.

Now, the IRONY is, that when you are REALLY not looking to take without giving, when you REALLY are not needy but you have high standards for yourself and the people around you, you will be able to excel at ANY type of interactions you want. If you are looking for a one night stand, you can get that super easily. If you are looking for something on a higher level, you will be able to find and attract that as well.

And when you are doing a pick-up on a total stranger who you don't know yet anything about, AGAIN, being a guy who truly understands the concept of being a cool guy, a "bad boy" who is really a sexy damn good guy, a fun wild man with a heart, a man who can be trusted, all this stuff gets COMMUNICATED THROUGH THE MOST SUBTLE things in your demeanor and expression and thoughts--thoughts which end up creating emotions in you, emotions which create the PERFECT THINGS TO SAY FOR THE MOMENT AND FOR THE PERSON, because they are all REAL and genuine. They reflect the way you really feel about yourself, the way you really feel about her. They create the sexual vibe, in both of you.

There's another point I want to get to, which is this whole idea of "cheating".

Once you understand the causes for this stuff, you start to look at it in a very different perspective.

But before I get into that, I just have to nuke some of the hogwash out there. Whenever I hear about people who are trying to brainwash guys into "open relationships" with the logic that "naturally, human beings are polygamous" or with the stats on the high levels of infidelity, I have to wonder what these guys would say in the face of a GRAIN of LOGIC.

I have nothing against open relationships per se, EXCEPT for the fact that I haven't met ONE PERSON on earth who was happy in it long term, male or female.

Also, I notice that usually, the people who are so obsessed with convincing OTHER people that it is the only way to go, are the people who simply cannot get a fantastic woman to stay with them in the first place, or who don't believe they have the value to get a woman who is fantastic to stay with them.

Or they are men who have been hurt badly, which is something I TOTALLY understand, but I also realize that we have to get over our own history.

These guys who obsess with convincing others that they are fools for wanting a relationship, well these "gurus" are the same guys who need to "show off" how many women they have been with.

This is ALWAYS a key symptom of a guy who is NOT happy with the women or woman in his life. The more you VALUE the person you are with, the LESS you want to chalk them up as simply "another notch".

The irony of ironies, is that these are the same guys who keep on saying how important it is to not kiss and tell, meanwhile, they spend ALL their time telling! They have a NEED to tell, because they seek, ironically, the approval of other MEN!!! Never mind that these men are usually CLUELESS and have never been in a satisfying relationship in their LIFE.

Honestly, this social pressure of insecure clueless people that have a need to brainwash others is the thing that I have fought my whole life, so that I could come to conclusions based on my own research and thinking and not based necessarily on what most people are doing around me, not unless it made sense.

So, the only thing "natural" for human beings is EATING and SLEEPING. And even the ways human beings have found to do THAT differ in about a billion ways.

When it comes to everything else, from how we survive in different parts of the world, to how we celebrate, to how we LEARN, to how we spend our every SECOND, to how we relate to each other, to our parents, children, friends, relatives, it's VASTLY different from culture to culture to region to subculture to individual to individual, it's CRAZY different.

And it all feels quite "natural" to each person.

So when it comes to humans, no one can tell anyone what is really the "natural". All because as human beings we have this thing called CREATIVITY which is what makes us both worse and better than most animals. i.e. Animals only kill each other for food for survival, they don't have wars. But humans are able to also help each other on a scale that animals don't.

And, when it comes to STATISTICS on being faithful, well that is REALLY something I laugh my head off when guys try to use that as their model for their own behavior.

You see, if we are going to base our behavior on statistics, well then, MOST PEOPLE don't accomplish their goals in life. MOST people are not too happy. MOST people are overweight. MOST people are not eating right. MOST people never improve their self-esteem much. MOST people never even ATTEMPT to pursue their goals!

So, if we are going to base our LIFE on what MOST people do, then we are in REAL trouble.

I personally don't aim for what MOST people do. If you are reading this article, you are the kind of person who is trying to improve himself in an area that most guys will never work up the courage to do. That makes you already NOT like MOST men.

So, you CAN have WHATEVER type of relationship you WANT, as long as you are not a HYPOCRITE, as long as you don't want something for nothing, as long as you are prepared to LEAD BY EXAMPLE.

Any level of psychological state CAN be achieved, from sustaining attraction to feeling even greater attraction over the long term. It just becomes a simple question of deciding what you WANT, and then doing what is required to get it.

It may take some learning, some skill, some wisdom, but you CAN get it.

And of course, you have to be ready to not waste time on the women who are too emotionally damaged to be able to let go of the toxic attitudes they have received from other damaged people. You give a person a chance, you lead by example, but you can't spend your time on changing a person, as that's a waste of time and doesn't work.

Oh, and about that thing called PASSION?
If you want to have LONG TERM PASSION in a relationship, then ALL THE THINGS I mentioned above become even MORE IMPORTANT.

In the beginning, passion is easy. It's all novelty and new and new stimulation. And that's cool, but not enough for life.

But that doesn't mean passion becomes LESS with time, unless you both get LAZY.

It can actually get BETTER.

Remember what I said about not taking the other for granted?

So, for example, taking your TIME with each other, to heat things up slowly, so that you don't feel like you're on a mission to have to get anywhere in particular. You spend the TIME, so that you both can let your bodies and minds flow and escalate when they FEEL like it.

Forcing something is the best way to create an internal resistance, in yourself as well!

But by just taking your time and chilling with each other and having the right kind of foreplay, and just the RIGHT amount of sexual tension and playfulness and seriousness, and by expressing to each other the most MEANINGFUL AND SINCERE COMPLIMENTS, ranging from the sexual and physical to complimenting the deepest recesses of each other's souls, you both start to fully realize the MASSIVE VALUE you both have in each other, and your mutual self-esteem skyrockets on both sides, which tends to UNLEASH the sexual animal IN BOTH OF YOU as well.

In order to have this kind of relationship, there has to be TOTAL TRUST. This trust was EARNED over the LONG TIME you got to know each other. And when you have this level of trust, you will feel something INSANELY powerful and sexual in you.

And when SHE feels this level of trust in you, she will be able to not only continue to unleash her freakiest side of herself with you as well, but also unleash other parts of her sexual feelings for you that she is only NOW feeling, because these other dimensions of her emotions have now matured into EVEN DEEPER feelings for you.

The highest quality emotions are not developed overnight.

And let me tell you, a lot of the "tactics" out there by "seduction experts" for getting a woman into bed may SOMETIMES work for the short term, but are HORRIBLE for creating REAL trust, and in fact may make the long term level of MAXIMUM trust IMPOSSIBLE.

While, on the other hand, if you do things the RIGHT way, you can get a woman physical with you fast, and ALSO have the level of trust to take things to a higher level as well, and not ruin the potential for the ultimate level connection later.

The key is you can't FAKE it. You either mean it or you don't. And for guys who really don't mean it, it's no wonder the girls are taking off and never coming back.

So, for example, even if you are just doing a pick-up with a total stranger, STILL the deeper vibes of trust will ONLY help you. Because, your beliefs and attitudes will be INJECTED into your tonality and your expression, and I must say, this has NOTHING to do with being NEEDY.

A lot of guys will MISREAD this advice and think that the trust thing is about going up to a girl at a bar and telling her you don't want to just use her. That is absolutely NOT COOL and absolutely NOT what I mean at all.

Rather, for example, let's say you open up the chat with "What you buy yourself a drink, and not even me, a cool sexy stranger?" And she giggles and gives you whatever friendly/playful response back. The KEY though is that the way you SAID it was along the vibes of being playful, AND your tonality was ALSO saying "Hey, you do realize that if I'm TALKING to you, on some level I must be INTERESTED, I'm just keeping this FUN and not too serious".

And then from there, you are now in close to her, maybe gliding your finger up her arm gently, maybe a bit of a sly smile, but sexual too, and she asks you about yourself. So, by responding with something that says you DON'T take yourself too seriously, i.e. "I'm a mannequin for a store" you show that you are not so insecure as to have to need to get her to WORSHIP you, which ironically is actually showing massive security and playfulness, which actually is a huge turn on and a sign of what I have for YEARS called "SUPERIOR INTRINSIC VALUE".

It's INTRINSIC because it's not about your money or your fame or anything like that, it's about YOU, it's YOUR identity she is attracted to.

And it's not only sexier, but this type of behavior of not showing off your job also makes it easier for a woman to TRUST that you are not some guy who would try to use his power or titles to make her feel BAD. This actually makes you seem COOLER too, as if to say you know you have enough s-e-x appeal to not have to resort to artificial things.

So what starts to happen now is that she feels ATTRACTION, and NOW it's up to you to not screw it up on a deeper level, if you want to take things there. A lot of guys don't know where to draw the line one the playful stuff, they don't understand that the playful is not a tactic, it's an EMOTION, and when you are bonding on a higher level, there are OTHER emotions as well, such as deeper levels of trust where it becomes important to communicate THAT stuff. And then AFTER that you can go back to the playful stuff again.

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And guess what?
Just about EVERY guy has these “glitches”, because it’s almost impossible to NOT have them in a society that gives contradictory messages about women to men, from the time we are small to the time we are adults. i.e. “Women want a guy who doesn’t just want sex” is one message, but then we notice that women’s magazines are FLOODED with articles on sex. We know that women actually talk about sex a LOT with their girlfriends. And we know that being non sexual with women may seem to be “nice” but it also seems to not work to build attraction either

And this is just the TIP of the iceberg.
There are THOUSANDS of contradictory messages.
And by the way, once you understand the reason for these contradictions, it’s a massive relief, as it all makes sense, and it’s not some evil force or some type of conspiracy, or anything like that.

So, again, just about EVERY guy is AFFECTED by all this stuff in a way that WEAKENS the vibe of his interactions with women. Unless he learns how to fix this glitch, he will often keep going in circles, repeating the same mistakes and not even realizing what his mistakes are.

This is a HUGE issue.

On the other hand, the reality is, that just about EVERY GUY who is NOT doing well with women, actually has MASSIVE potential to do amazing with women. And I promise you, this is not something I just say to make anyone feel good. It is the TRUTH.

For example, I've noticed that just about every guy who might SEEM boring, is actually NOT boring, if you JUST GET TO KNOW HIM and he actually feels COMFORTABLE with you. He is often actually VERY FUNNY, or VERY WITTY, or has some great talent, or is great at understanding things, or is very creative, or has some type of COMBO of the above.

The problem is, that when it comes to WOMEN, the guy can't seem to figure out how to APPLY his personality in that area of his life, OR his personality goes into "AUTO-SHUTDOWN" or "sleep-mode" and he is giving off maybe 1% of his "vibe" potential.

And 99% of the time, a HUGE reason for this is because there is an emotional "GLITCH", however SLIGHT it might be, it can cause MASSIVE problems when it comes to making any progress in his love life.

If this GLITCH could be REMOVED, suddenly he would start to make SPEEDY progress, and all the knowledge and insights that he learned about women would then go IMMEDIATELY into effect.

Think of it like a computer that has had the spyware and viruses removed and how fast it goes then compared to how it was being slowed down like crazy before.

When I work with clients, I draw upon my years of experience helping different guys, to DETECT the emotional "virus" that is the GLITCH holding them back from success with women.

It's not always an easy process for the guy, or for me, but it's ALWAYS worth it. There are so many different potential glitches, that it would take forever to try to list them all here.

But for example, some guys are holding themselves back from even STARTING any real interaction with women because they are convinced it will end in PAIN, such as the pain of REJECTION. And the visuals created in their MIND then get associated with ALL KINDS OF HORRENDOUS painful experiences going back all the way to childhood.

Other guys are holding themselves back because they feel that they will GET the girl, but that they can't KEEP the girl, and so that will HURT so much, that they don't even bother to START.

Other guys are holding themselves back because they feel the girl has to be PERFECT, and spending any time with a girl that is NOT perfect means, in their mind, that they are "cheating themselves" from achieving PERFECTION. And that they in fact may be being mean to the other person since after all they are with them even though they think they are so IMPERFECT, as if this is a big insult, as if anyone on earth is perfect, including themselves.

I could go on and on forever on this, but I'm sure you can start to see just how complex this emotional glitch issue can be.

The OTHER problem created by the emotional glitch issue, is that GIVING IN to the GLITCH only REINFORCES the power of the glitch. Because, after all, if you give in to the glitch, you have AVOIDED pain, and so that feels good.

By giving in to the glitch, you never even REALIZE that actually THIS avoidance tactic is the real pain, compared to MISSING the JOY of experiencing what you deep down would like to have with a woman.

The glitch is therefore one smart devil, it knows how to sustain itself forever UNLESS some third party comes in to RESCUE you from it. The glitch doesn't like a guy like ME coming into your life for obvious reasons.

Step one though is for you to be AWARE of EXACTLY what the glitch is, so you can learn how to best ELIMINATE it.

Am I some type of God?
NO.
I do, however, have a lot of experience, and I've helped a lot of guys to GET RESULTS in their life when it comes to meeting and attracting the women they want.

As the saying goes, I've put in my dues, showing it works not just for myself, but for my clients, over and over again.

On a related note, I want to talk a bit about one easy way to help DEAL with a "glitch" that you can put into effect IMMEDIATELY. This does not mean that you should be ignoring the DEEPER INNER WORK on eliminating the glitch itself, which is one of the many crucial factors for success with women that I deal with in my Seduction Mastery Apprenticeship Program CD Set.

Now, you may have noticed that in the process of picking up a woman, the guys who are good often tend to get the woman LAUGHING. This does not mean that you have to be so funny, but it should show you that the vibe that is conducive to creating attraction is consistent with feeling good, relaxed, playful, etc.

The PROBLEM though is that guys see this and then TRY HARD to be FUNNY with a woman.

This NEVER works.

If not for the GLITCH, the guy would REALIZE that this never works, but the glitch is such a painful mother-f****r, that it drowns out any messages from your intuition for better judgment.

Do you know TRYING HARD never results in being FUNNY?

It's because when you are trying hard, you are SEEKING a reaction from HER.

So the unconscious message being relayed by your most subtle expressions is TAKING OVER and saying "PLEASE LIKE ME BECAUSE I'M NOT LIKEABLE AND IT SUCKS." It's as if the joke is being silenced, while the sucky message about yourself is being BLASTED at full volume.

If you want to create an emotion in another person, you have to feel it yourself first.

For example, one of the most famous comedians on the planet, Jerry Seinfeld, LOVES being FUNNY even when NO ONE is around. So if he is driving somewhere, or walking down the street, by himself, he's THINKING about what's FUNNY, because he ENJOYS laughing and enjoys FUNNY STUFF.

He is NOT doing it just so he can tell it to others. He actually ENJOYS it himself.

Similarly, most artists and performers who are the best in their field enjoy the emotional experience (be it comedy, drama, intrigue, suspense, romance, ANY emotion they love to experience) even on its own without having an audience. The audience is what makes it ALL THAT MUCH BETTER though of course. Human beings feel GREATER emotional impact when everyone ELSE is doing the same thing. This is why you have concerts with tons of people, this is why religions have all the followers that MUST all worship together, etc etc. Ever wonder why people in a movie theatre laugh HARDER at a joke than if each person was watching it at home? It's because it FEELS MORE INTENSE, when everyone else is doing it. It's a form of "social proof".

But again, though, to be MOST EFFECTIVE, you YOURSELF must FEEL the REWARD so powerfully that you don't NEED an audience, that you aren't DOING it because you need HER response.

In fact, THIS non need for a reaction is a form of "IMPLIED SOCIAL PROOF" that you REALLY ARE FUNNY or whatever other emotion it is you are creating. Because, the subconscious thinking in her mind goes, "the only way someone can be SO into it on their own is if he must KNOW that EVERYONE AGREES he is funny".

Plus, she figures, there's no way you could be so non-needy for a reaction unless you were the "real deal". So this makes her FEEL like you are actually FUNNIER.

And the same thing applies with whatever emotion you are creating, i.e. if you are telling her a story that is exciting, and you clearly are not looking for her to be reacting to you, but rather that you yourself totally believe in the passion and the power of the story.

Similarly, you can't be seeking reactions from women no matter WHAT you are doing with them.

This does not mean you don't CARE about them.

In a way, it's the OPPOSITE!

CARING about someone doesn't mean you have to NEED their reaction!!!!

This is part of what makes a guy a "NATURAL" with women.

So, for example, instead of suddenly trying to "be funny" when you meet a woman, instead, LOOK for the humor in your LIFE, for your OWN enjoyment, whenever you can. This way, you'll develop a TASTE for enjoying this, and it will be no different to you than saying "hi" to a woman, except that this will get a way better response.

Humor will then become one more way for you to communicate anything.

And this idea of being in that head-space on your OWN and not for a woman, is NOT just for being funny.

Whether it's a COMPLIMENT you are giving, or being a playful challenge, or naughty, or WHATEVER, it has to be free-flowing from what you are actually feeling for REAL, and not from what you are trying to MANIPULATE out of her in the form of her reaction.

Once you make this LEAP, it's so liberating, as everything you do is no longer calculated, AND of course it actually has GREATER effect.

You realize that you can be GIVING, as long as it too is coming from a REAL place inside of you and not from a reaction-seeking place.

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It's not about sounding smart, it's not about sounding flashy, it's not about porn, it's not about fantasy. It's about GUYS GETTING WOMEN.

I would say "A" woman, but usually in order to get THE woman, a guy is going to have to learn how to get "THE WOMEN" in general.

You'll see why as we go along here.

As you probably already know, since I've first started with this whole thing, I've taken the teaching of this stuff VERY seriously.

That doesn't mean I haven't had any fun along the way, and it doesn't mean that I haven't enjoyed the vast majority of it.

But ultimately, underneath it all, I have NEVER forgotten just how painful this area of our lives can be if we don't know how it works and if we don't put in the effort to get the skills.

A lot of pain.
Or maybe it was just me.

Let me get one thing straight before we go any further, about what the FUNDAMENTAL challenge is these days in order to attract the kind of woman you want and not only attract this woman, but get her to be so into you that she's screaming your name out in pleasure night after night.

The fundamental challenge, at least in Western societies comes from the fact that women have not only made progress, but there has actually been a BASHING of men's status and a BASHING of men's self-esteem, as well as a simultaneous WORSHIP of women's physical beauty - an ARTIFICIAL inflation of women's looks, if you will. I'm not blaming anyone in particular, as the blame game is not only useless but also far too complex to pin on anyone.

In fact, in a huge way, men are just as responsible for all this as women, so don't go start hating women after reading this. It all started with good intentions, i.e. not having women as second class citizens, etc. And obviously, I'm all for that, but things have gone pretty crazy since then.

The bottom line is that today, a woman who is attractive is simply walking around with a massively inflated sense of sexual value. Her spoiled behavior is not proportionate to her beauty, it's WAY beyond, it's totally beyond proportion.

I could give you billions of examples of this, but let's face it, you ALREADY have EXPERIENCED this, you just might not have totally been awake to the why, or maybe you thought it was you, or maybe you thought "this is the natural way that unfortunately it has to be and always was".

And this inflated sense of value that a woman who is attractive has, equates to a massive sense of POWER over men who are interested in her, which is, of course, most men.

So let me get to the SOLUTION.

The solution is to learn to "JAM" her frequency. What I mean by this is that, (and from now on instead of writing "a woman who is attractive" I'm just going to write "a woman" or "chick" or what have you, because I hate repeating words, and also because the truth is, that these days a woman who is just BARELY attractive is already considered a big deal, where tons of guys act like pathetic worthless ass-kissers for her) a woman is only as powerful as she is FEELING at any given moment.

Don't get me wrong, this is not about making her feel BAD. That would be a big mistake that would get you very little return on your actions. It's about getting her right into that SWEET spot where she feels that YOUR value is just a little bit ABOVE hers, (but for most guys this is actually going to require them to behave in a MASSIVELY different way than before) at which point you then help HER bridge the gap in a GIVING way making her feel that not only are you more desirable than her, but that you also APPRECIATE her and that somehow she is lucky enough to have found a guy like you who can do this.

I know that sounds very clinical, but it's not much different than when you go to the store and you see a fantastic product that you would love to get but you think it's out of your price range, and then suddenly you find out that you have a bit more cash and that you could now ALMOST afford it, and then you find out that because you are ______ (insert whatever makes you special) you are entitled to just enough of a special so that you can GET IT!

So you go home ECSTATIC.

Now all that is simple in theory, but in REALITY, accomplishing this takes a LOT of insight, a LOT of finesse, and a LOT of emotional self-control.

Why does it take so much emotional self-control?
Because attraction is a PROCESS of not only learning lots of things, but of FEELING different emotions as well. And of having different emotional reactions to things than you USED to have.

At first, this will be TOUGH.
Because your old beliefs will make you feel BAD when a woman undervalues you in the early part of the interaction.

Most guys will BREAK emotionally, and they will SHOW it.

THAT is the kiss of death to attraction. THAT is where guys FAIL most miserably.

There's more to attraction, but you will NOT FAIL with women, you will NOT be blown out, if you can just PRESERVE your TENACIOUS GRIP ON YOUR MENTAL FRAME.

This CANNOT JUST BE ACHIEVED BY THINKING ABOUT IT. Thinking is PART of it, and I get into all the best ways to do this in my programs as well as explain tons of other crucial stuff, but you MUST GET EXPOSED TO THE SITUATIONS OF PICK-UP so that you GROW STRONGER and learn to KEEP your frame, KEEP your emotional state from being affected by HER "jamming" your internal state with her behavior.

In one way or another, MOST GUYS MOST ABSOLUTELY WILL FAIL at this, it's just NOT WORTH it to them, THE EMOTIONAL COST IS TOO HIGH, they'd rather RUN FOR THE HILLS!

You are going to have to TOUGH IT OUT until you can see the FRUIT of your work, which will then give you a whole new perspective and a whole new, empowering, even CALMING emotional reaction to the things that would make most men run for the hills.

You see, you don't go from ZERO to her wanting you to BANG the living daylights out of her. Or to use more intimate words, for you to "make love" to her.

No, what happens, is that a woman will FIRST think not much of you. Nothing bad, but nothing good. Then, you will interact with her. She will size you up on this. She will STILL not be convinced you are FOR SURE a great catch even if you do this initial interaction WONDERFULLY, so she will CONTINUE to treat you as if you are a bit LESS than her.

Here's where I used to EXPLODE years ago.
See, I had no PATIENCE or tolerance for this horse-s**t. I knew in my gut that I could never actually LOVE someone that behaved that way, EVER.

The problem though, is that I still was massively sexually driven and still felt massive attraction to girls who were hot. And although I wasn't being used by any girls since I dumped them before anything could happen, I also wasn't getting much "action". And trust me, it's not like all I cared about was "action".

All I really wanted was a woman who was decently hot and NOT spoiled.

But if you think you can get that without having some insights and skills, forget it unless you are some movie star or celebrity. Even THEN if you don't have these skills, you can STILL be in for some major trouble.

If you think "Ahh forget it, I'll wait till I meet a woman who loves me automatically", again, FORGET THAT.

I'm not saying AT ALL to just go for any woman, you SHOULD have standards. I have high standards in many ways, i.e. women who don't smoke, who are high self-esteem, educated, have a sense of purpose beyond material things, etc.

What I AM saying though is that when it comes to how to treat men, women are spoiled. So if you expect to meet a woman here who is not spoiled, in this specific way, then all I can say to you is good luck.

Hey, maybe Leprechauns, Santa Claus, and the tooth fairy also exist, just like women who are hot and not spoiled when it comes to men are everywhere as well.

Listen, if you live in the West, (and from what I hear from guys who live in other countries, it's not so great always there either) chances are slim to NONE that you are going to get a woman who is attractive (did it again) and who will AUTOMATICALLY go for you and who will AUTOMATICALLY respect you right off the bat. Nope, instead, you are going to have to INTELLIGENTLY DEAL WITH HER INITIAL CRAP-STORM in order to turn things around and totally have her chasing you.

I know this letter sounds a bit dark, and I'm a HUGE believer in positive thinking, at the same time I'm also a HUGE believer in TRUTH. Truth is more important to me than anything. Once you have the truth, you can work with it. You can and SHOULD then be as positive with it as possible.

When you INTELLIGENTLY deal with her initial crap-storm, it is ONE example of the beginning of the "JAMMING HER FREQUENCIES" process.

You see, her frequency for guys is pretty much set to "VAPORIZE ALL GUYS AND BASK IN THE GLORY OF ENDLESS VALIDATION THAT GUYS GIVE ME" mode. And then get depressed to the highest degree over something like why her daddy didn't buy her cookies on her birthday when she was 6 years old or why her girlfriend did something not nice to her. And feel like life is terrible.

But as far as her frequency to GUYS, it's set to VAPORIZE. Why? Because simply put, our society has got her to believe that most guys simply are NOT WORTHY.

But triumphing from her crap storm, (her disrespect toward you, however slight, whether it's her expecting you to meet her at her far away location rather than vice versa, or any of a MULTITUDE of disrespectful behaviors) is only ONE part of success

As soon as you BEGIN the interaction, the first WORDS you say, count to a degree as well. You want to JAM HER MENTAL PATTERN of vaporizing all guys before it can start, or at least before it can go off full blast. So, for example, by opening up your interaction with something that gets an EMOTIONAL RESPONSE from her, from laughter to excitement to shock, you are FORCING HER MENTAL PROGRAM TO CHANGE PROGRAMS, because it's IMPOSSIBLE to be in to two places mentally at once.

If she is LAUGHING, she is OVERTAKEN by that emotion. She can't BLOCK you out. She's too busy feeling GOOD.

If she is emotionally taken over by INTRIGUE from what you say, again, she is now UNABLE to think about blocking you, as she is NOT THINKING AT ALL, she is FEELING now.

Feeling and thinking don't go well together. At least not at the exact same time.

So you have to learn how to get her EMOTIONAL as soon as possible, otherwise she starts THINKING again, and you're FINISHED.

You ONLY want her to start thinking once she's BURSTING WITH SO MUCH EMOTIONAL OVERLOAD, that at this point, her emotions will now TOTALLY shape her thinking, and her thinking will now go into reverse rationalization mode as she starts to justify WHY she is feeling everything for you.

Learning to do all this shit isn't always easy. This is why I have all types of programs, including PRIVATE ONE-ON-ONE BOOTCAMPS where I will be YOUR TRAINER who shows you EVERYTHING in real time on real women, for three days and three nights.

This is not some marketing scheme.
It's simple- me showing you how it's done, then me making sure that YOU are doing it right.

I need to say also that one of the toughest parts of this skill is having the FAITH that it's going to work, because when a chick is initially NOT going for you, or she is going for you but giving you some crap, the GUT instinct is to say HELL with this. For some guys, it's because they can't take the blow to their self-esteem. For other guys, it's BECAUSE their self-esteem is so high, that they can't take the crap.

So what happens is that most guys never see the OTHER side. The side where the woman is now totally into YOU.

And the other thing I need to mention is that ONCE YOU START TO GET MANY WOMEN AFTER YOU, you suddenly are able to become TOTALLY SUBJECTIVE about the whole thing.

Why is this?
Because you ALREADY KNOW YOU HAVE THE ACE IN THE HOLE. Oops, pun not intended.

The point is that you already HAVE what you want, so you don't get emotionally affected by the PROCESS.

And THIS, THIS MY DEAR FRIENDS, is PART of what takes you into a WHOLE NEW LEVEL OF EXISTENCE.

Where all the "tactics" and "strategies" become TOTALLY INSTINCTIVE AND A NATURAL PART OF WHO YOU ARE BECAUSE IN FACT YOU ARE NOW ON THE SAME MENTAL PLANE OF REALITY AS THE WOMAN!!!

IN FACT, YOU ARE ON A HIGHER PLANE. You feel it internally, and you show it on every dimension of communication, from your sense of humor, body language, voice tone, from your lack of having an emotional response to her misbehavior and thus showing she doesn't have that much value relative to yours, and from SO much more, it all simply GELS into one thing: ATTRACTION that she feels MASSIVELY for you.

That's why getting the FIRST woman is always the HARDEST, because although you are working on the SELF-CREATED EMOTIONS you have learned to generate, and though you are working also on the brilliant THEORY you have learned, it's much easier to do it all PROPERLY and to do it all BEST when you ABSOLUTELY KNOW it works!

All of sudden, when you have even just ONE success behind you, you become WAY MORE EFFECTIVELY AND EFFICIENT. You already KNOW it works, so you are not being bogged down with mental viruses called doubts and fears, like a computer program that is running slow because of a virus.

You are then free of the mental virus, FREE TO TRULY FOCUS ON USING WHAT YOU LEARNED rather than wasting half your energy on doubting what you have learned.

Plus, your instincts will now start to YELL at full blast that all that you have learned indeed IS true.

You now GET IT on an instinctive and primal level. You now have the advantages of BOTH the theory AND the instinct, so that you are truly firing on all cylinders.

And if you think about it, it makes sense that she WOULD be into you.

Let's face it, a woman's prime starts when she's 17. It's already WANING by the time she is 26. That's barely 9 years, and she is losing value in this department every day after that. But you wouldn't think so by the masses of men kissing up to women everywhere at every age.

That's not me being MEAN, it's just a fact that is important to realize in a society where a woman who is a bit attractive thinks she is GOD over men.

Here's another fact to remember- the pursuit of material wealth that most women are so adamant about often leaves them with no guy in their life, because they were so busy trying to be independent from men and trying to be masculine and tough and in charge and superior, that no guy in his right mind would want to be with her when she is not even hot anymore. For after all, she may very well have no personality AND no looks at that point.

You'd think women would be smart about this, and be on the lookout for a good guy, so they can avoid this predicament, but they aren't.

And you'd think that they'd realize that any guy who is smart and skilled enough to get HER, can probably do the same thing again on ENDLESS other women, and therefore he will never truly feel she is "special". After all, her CHARACTER really wasn't special, so why SHOULD he feel special?

A smart woman would be wise to make sure her man DOES feel special, by showing him MAXIMUM respect. After all, he knows how to get other women if he got her.

Unless he's one of those guys that doesn't know how, and thus she will probably abuse him for life. Which happens a lot.

But if you are man who has learned these skills, and you get her, and YOU KEEP ON DOING THE RIGHT THINGS to maintain the attraction, trust me, as time goes by she realizes more and more how her value is DROPPING and yours is INCREASING.

She will treat you so well that you will suddenly start to FEEL all those wonderful emotions inside of you. And trust me, I think those emotions are AWESOME, just also trust me that you need to realize what TRIGGERED those feelings inside her for you, and you must never forget these skills. The good news is that from using them all the time, they will become instinct.

AND the good news is that you will then start to realize the full value of ALL the skills I teach you, because learning to make a woman feel GREAT is just as important as making her feel YOU are great, but most guys never get to the point where the woman is DESPERATELY WANTING THE GUY'S APPROVAL.

But once you are at this point, it's VERY VERY CRUCIAL that you learn how to INTELLIGENTLY AND EFFECTIVELY MAKE HER FEEL LIKE A MILLION BUCKS.

However, most guys never get to this stage.

And even if they do get a woman, the problem is that most guys then lose their manhood and start to kiss up so badly...ALL BECAUSE they are SCARED SH**LESS of losing that guaranteed s-e--x.

And sometimes, the guy is not even GETTING that, but is STILL tolerating her disrespect because he is afraid of losing her!

So it's very simple - if you want to get the kind of woman you are ATTRACTED to in your life, you're going to have to GEAR UP and LEARN how to MANEUVER into a woman's mind until she is OBSESSED with you.

FEW MEN will be able to handle this task. It's NOT easy.

It takes SKILL, and it takes GUTS, and it takes MASSIVE SELF-CONTROL.

If you think you can handle that, then maybe you're ready to change your life.

The most powerful step you can take of course is my PRIVATE, EXCLUSIVE, ONE-ON-ONE BOOTCAMP .

It's just you and me, and all the ladies, as they say. Everything you learn will be in the most intense environment - the real world.
And it's at:

http://www.seductiontuition.com/thedatingwizardbootcamp

Now, if you are living far away from me, it's not the end of the world. I have put together my most advanced program, a project that took YEARS of experience actually demonstrating and SHOWING guys in real life how it works as we would be doing pick up on women in every type of venue imaginable.

It's the SEDUCTION MASTERY PROGRAM. It contains 10 CDs and is over TEN HOURS OF PURE GOLD content, AND includes a special book that will help you organize EVERY SINGLE POINT you learn.

Here's an email that just came in today from a man using this program right now.

***LETTER FROM A MAN USING THE SEDUCTION MASTERY PROGRAM***

Michael,
I think you deliver true value, and your passion can be felt throughout the program. I love the values that you stand for. Your integrity and spirituality have won me over.

I just wanted to let you know that your program is THE BOMB. It seems to fill in all these tiny holes along the journey, immensely streamlining the journey. A great number of lifelong confusions have dissipated forever.

It's been a while now since I singled you out as my mentor in this area, and you have never let me down. The focus on being, on knowing as opposed to techniques means everything for real success and I feel very privileged to have this program. However, it is important to go through the program again and again and bridge over to the real world until things get fully internalized.

>>>MY REPLY<<<

Thank you for that detailed and awesome testimonial. It's good to know that my insane passion for this stuff, (triggered mostly by pain, that has been at least effectively channeled into something good) is actually making a difference. And absolutely, the goal here is to ACHIEVE that level of BEING, as opposed to forced memorizing of "techniques". And this level of BEING would be almost impossible to achieve otherwise, without having experienced it, so this program can truly save a guy YEARS of time.

And the great thing about it, is that if you get this program and THEN take the Bootcamp, you will get WAY MORE out of the Bootcamp as well.

You owe it to yourself to get this program if you want to have 24/7 access to the most powerful insights on earth for attracting the women of your choice.
And it's at:

http://www.seductiontuition.com/thedatingwizardseductionmasteryapprenticeship

And if you haven't yet downloaded my eBook, The Dating Wizard: Secrets to Success with Women, then do that now. It's where the journey starts.

It's at:

The Dating Wizard eBook

Till next time,

Michael W

It's been a while since I've BEEN in front of this computer, as rather than writing or dreaming up new products or marketing schemes, I've been DOING a lot of this pick-up stuff. So I decided I'd simply GIVE YOU some damn good tips that have made a big difference for me. Stuff that I've used as recently as today, in fact.

ONE: FIND, FIND, FIND!

This is something that I have found to be MASSIVELY important, but that most people NEVER talk about, as if beautiful, ravishing, intelligent, non-stuck up, sparkling personality, warm women were EVERYWHERE.

I wish this was so, but the fact is, it's not. At least not in most areas.
No matter how good your skill is, it's USELESS without there actually being a large pool of women to CHOOSE from.

The fact of the matter is, if there aren't enough women to choose from in your area, you have to TRAVEL.

You might have to travel to the other part of town, you might have to travel to the other part of the planet, the fact is, it doesn't matter, whatever you have to do, the first thing is to have a lot of women to CHOOSE from so that you can find what you want.

If meeting the woman of your dreams is important to you, then you must embrace this fact and take action.

TWO: KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT

Me personally, I know EXACTLY what type of woman I am attracted to. I know what type of personality, what type of body, even what type of face. I know EVERYTHING about the type of woman I like. I even know what she SOUNDS like.

This doesn't mean I don't have any flexibility, but it does mean I know exactly how far that flexibility goes and exactly what I need to feel that OOOMPH factor as they might call it.

I know this not from theory, but from EXPERIENCE. This is an important distinction, because a lot of guys will dream up in their MIND a certain type of woman, but have never actually met the right quantity of women to actually know for sure what DOES and what DOES NOT work for them.

So, before you make up your mind on exactly what you want, you really have to get OUT THERE and MEET a lot of women, so that you know what ACTUALLY lights your fire, so to speak.

And if you happen to use online dating, you MUST meet the woman before you say yes or no in your mind, as IN PERSON is the ONLY way to know FOR REAL if you are interested or not.

A woman can look really hot in a photo and not be hot in person.

A woman can seem just "okay" in a photo and be way hotter in person. Or less hot, of course. But I HAVE seen it work BOTH ways.

In person makes a BIG difference.

THREE: GO WITH THE SEXUAL VIBE FROM THE GET-GO

A lot of guys confuse being a "gentleman" and being "civilized" with being NON SEXUAL in their approach, conversation, behavior, etc, when first meeting a woman they'd like to know better.

Don't be like those guys.
Instead, you're FAR BETTER OFF to go MORE sexual than less sexual, and you can always TONE IT DOWN if you've gone too far, but it's much harder to INTENSIFY the heat if you've never LIT THE MATCH to begin with.

You want to create a sexual vibe from the GET GO. Women ARE absolutely, indeed, very much so, MASSIVELY sexual beings. JUST AS MUCH as you are when you are at your craziest and wildest.

THIS is the dimension of a woman you want to REACH, and reach FAST.

THIS is how you prevent going into the friend's zone.

I ride the wave of this sexual feeling and it often CARRIES the whole pickup for me. It takes care AUTOMATICALLY of so many things, as for example, it's hard to NOT speak in the right tonality when you are feeling the hormones, the masculinity, the dominance.

Your mind is designed to LINK UP associated behaviors and thoughts. So when you GO SEXUAL in your MIND, your will ALSO do the right body language, the right tonality, and have just the right balance of dominance with playfulness. Your playfulness will be upbeat without coming across as a CLOWN.

Keep getting BACK to the sexual, without being TIRESOME. So whenever you do this, just make it GOOD.

For example, if a woman tells you, "I'm gonna finish late, can I call you even then?" You can reply "I'm an all night man ;)"

This is not only FUNNY, it's CONFIDENT, and totally sexually laced, and will get her feeling turned on, feeling happy, and feeling excited in anticipation, and feeling that you must be the man, and confident as hell.

This is a great one, and I just came up with it, not by sitting around at my computer, but by actually being in the moment, which is another point you'll see further below

FOUR: STOP AVOIDING REJECTION

A lot of guys are looking for a way to approach a woman without having to risk rejection.

And I know that what I am about to say goes AGAINST all the popular advice on ways to progress an interaction and avoid rejection.

But the TRUTH is, the attitude and the tactics of trying to avoid rejection will WEAKEN your WHOLE VIBE.

Instead, EMBRACE the OPPORTUNITY for GETTING the woman you want, and focus on THAT, rather than on focusing on how to prevent rejection.

You either learn all the ways to SUCCEED, or you learn all the ways to NOT LOSE TOO BADLY.

You CAN'T really do both.

And really, who cares about not losing too badly here?
What, are you risking millions of dollars here?
What does this attitude of avoiding rejection give you in this area of your life?

"Not losing too badly" in this area of your life is really just an EMOTIONAL PERSPECTIVE that is LUDICROUS, as the main thing is either you SUCCEED or you DON'T.

As Yoda said "Do or do not. There is no try."

Yes, success is NOT always guaranteed.
HOWEVER, I DO GUARANTEE YOU THAT THE BEST WAY TO GET IT IS TO FOCUS ON IT AND NOT ON AVOIDING REJECTION.

If you are focused on avoiding rejection, you WON'T do the things that are CRUCIAL for ATTRACTION.

You won't be SEXUAL.
You won't PUSH the interaction beyond the typical boring comfort zone.
You won't rock the boat at all.
You won't be edgy and playful and daring.
You won't invade her "personal space" soon in the conversation, in a confident way that actually turns her on with your confidence.

If a woman is sitting in a group of ten female friends, you won't work your way into her, you won't risk losing the approval of the group, you won't risk being rejected in front of them, you won't risk "pushing your luck" by moving to their table, or playfully telling them to move over because you have to tell her something,
etc.

SCREW THE IDEA OF AVOIDING REJECTION!!!
You can't win BIG TIME if you are focused on that.

Instead, think of rejection as the GREATER glory (since you actually BATTLED VALIANTLY to get her compared to going for the 100% EMOTIONAL SAFETY option).

You are a MAN now, and that means that MOMMY can't always TUCK YOU IN and make all the boo-boos go away.

SO WHAT?
You see a woman you like, you don't look for the ways to AVOID REJECTION. You look for the ways to GET her.

In fact, if a woman sees you are looking for ways to avoid rejection, well THAT is uncool.

She's just a woman, and though she may be a feminine wonder that Mother Nature designed to make you feel ALIVE, (and I know what that can do to our minds), but still, she is just one woman, and there ARE many more. So rejection is NOT a big deal. Trying to AVOID it is the real problem.

That's the irony, if you don't want to get rejected, then EMBRACE it as a TINY COST compared to the AWESOME FEELING OF GETTING HER!!!!!!

A lot of guys think that being sexual may be giving her the impression that SHE is the prize and not you. But the thing is, as I explain in MASSIVE detail in my advanced CD set, ultimately you DO want a woman to feel MASSIVE SELF-ESTEEM. So, as long as you are showing super confident body language, tonality, and demeanor, then the fact is that your being sexual now will only FURTHER PROVE your confidence and your value, ESPECIALLY if you can add in a bit of playful spice to make this a FUN experience and not a "confrontation" at all.

So, once you are a guy who comes across with TOTAL COMFORT, EASE, PLAYFULNESS, AND CONFIDENCE, well then your sexual demeanor is WELCOMED and DESIRED.

The trick is to do this while still having a classy overall demeanor. A bit of humor helps. Think more Bond and less Jackass.

It makes her feel GOOD that a desirable guy WANTS her. And more than just that, it simply FEELS good for her to be aroused in a sexual way. And she wants more of that.

Buying a woman dinners and doing her favors does not arouse her in a sexual way, to say the least.

FIVE: BE IN THE MOMENT

David Letterman is a GENIUS at this stuff. He has a way of being totally comfortable and casual and still FRIENDLY while poking fun at EVERYONE in a non-mean way, and he even does it to himself which shows he is secure.

He can FLIP the entire frame of something around in an INSTANT, i.e. if someone teases him, and he can show superior status, while NOT being a jerk. Most of all, he does this all while not only keeping everyone feeling good vibes, but actually getting them laughing as well.

This comes from an insane does of feeling comfortable with himself and of feeling playful vibes and of being pretty damn socially intelligent as well.

Being in the moment also means USING whatever is at your disposal at that present moment of the situation.

And you can't be in the moment if you are focusing on how to avoid rejection, as that's focusing on the future, and not being in the moment at all.

One more thing about being in the moment, is that even little tiny things are more powerful when they are happening right now. If a woman tells you something like "They called me into work for an extra shift because so and so was sick" and you pause with a relaxed smile and then say "And you are just such a generous soul" in a playful way, even though it might not be the most brilliant comment of the year, because it was in the MOMENT it will have way greater VIBE.

SIX: ANY EXCUSE SHE GIVES YOU IS OVERRIDDEN BY THE FACT YOU ARE SO DAMN GOOD OF A DEAL.

She tells you her friends already have a meeting with her? Well then you let her know that since they are her friends, they WANT her to meet a sexual guy like yourself.

She tells you she is busy on Monday because of a work meeting? Tell her she will improve her work performance because or the awesome state she'll be in from meeting you.

And so on and so forth.

Even if she doesn't cancel her other plans, this is STILL something that will enhance her attraction to you.

SEVEN: DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT YOU DON'T HAVE, INSTEAD MAKE IT UP IN THE BED!

So, you're not rich?
Who cares?
Give her a great time in bed.

So, you're not a porno star?
Who cares?
Give her more passion in bed.

So, you're not a male model?
Who cares?
It means that she can feel like SHE is beautiful and that you're not full of yourself and that you'll take care of her in bed. She doesn't need YOU to be the beautiful one.

So, you think you're not that great?
Who cares?
Give your game THAT MUCH MORE focus and you'll be that much better and she'll drag YOU into bed!

And that's it for now, I'm stopping at 7 because I like the number 7. As a kid, I loved 7-Up. And Cherry Coke. Don't drink soda much anymore though. Man, being a kid ROCKS if you forget the bad stuff. I think if I was a kid again, I'd drink 7-Up and Cherry Coke and hang out with the hottest of women all day. Yeah....

And if YOU want to have the time of YOUR life with the women or the woman that drives YOU wild, then you have GOT to get the BEST RESOURCE on the PLANET for being great with women:

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To get your FOUNDATION before going on to the advanced concepts in my Seduction Mastery Program, download my eBook—
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Till next time,

Michael W

Let's cut to the chase:

***LETTER***

Hi Michael,
First I would like to thank you for sharing your knowledge about dating, relationships and that stuff with the rest of the world.

After I broke up with my ex girlfriend, my friend who read your book advised me to buy it and read it. So I did so.

It was great! I just could not believe how "stupid" of a nice guy I was. Being THE MAN as you describe is the most powerful thing that could have happened to me.

And it is only because of you / your book. My relationship with my ex girlfriend with whom I was almost two years broke down because I was a "nice guy".

7 days after we broke up I found a new girl. During those 7 days I read your book, of course.

First I decided to act as THE MAN, as you said, and then it sank in finally, I actually became THE MAN.

I just can't explain how she is crazy about me. How much I am desirable to her... sexy... and so on.

And not just that about her... there is so much good about me. I became stronger! And it is so wonderful.

However... during this time, almost 3 months in this new relationship, I talked to my new girlfriend about her relationships, but discreetly. And she told me everything about that. I also asked her if she ever had a f*&k friend...and her answer was NO. At least she said so.

But I clearly let her now that if she ever lied to me, it is over.

And what happened now...
Last night some of my friends told me that before me she had a f**k friend.
WTF?

Of course, I didn't believe him because I KNOW her and we talked about everything, and especially because I know the girl who told that to my friend and that girl is a b*(ch.

But anyway a small seed of doubt is right now in me. So I need your advice!
Of course even if there was a f**** friend, it is just a part of her history. But what is s(*t about that is that potential f*&k friend is my friend who didn't tell me anything about that. It even doesn't look like as my girlfriend and he were ever together...

I am just thinking to ask her to tell me the truth while I am just totally
cool and calm...

Suggest my what to do, please.
Thank you for your time!
Sincerely,
Peter K.

>>>>MY ANSWER<<<<

Thanks for the props on my book and my materials. For guys reading this by the way, the problem with "nice guys" is that the "nice" is coming not from a place of strength, but from a place of weakness. So, to make my point clear, let me give the example of Superman vs. Clark Kent:

Superman is not a "nice guy", even though he does tons of good things. Clark Kent however, IS a "nice guy"!

When you do good things out of conviction, it's being a MAN.

When you do good things only out of fear, you are a "nice guy".

This is, ironically enough, why jerks and nice guys have a lot in common, even though they are so far apart in other ways. And both jerks and nice guys get very little results with women of quality.

The idea is to be a super MAN.

Now, unless you were born on Krypton, the way to BE this man is to learn how to develop all the incredible parts of your identity that create that awesome emotion known as attraction.

Regarding your email, I'm going to get right to the point here:
First of all, you have to watch out what other people say, because they could just be jealous and trying to ruin what you have.

Second, you yourself mention that the girl who said this stuff is a b**ch.

Third of all, why would you ASK her so fast if she had such a thing in her past? You see, you have to ask yourself the real reasons you were motivated to ask this question. Is it from insecurity? Or is truly because you were just curious? Or was it because you are religious and are looking for a religious girl?

What you want to be doing is creating TRUST and good vibes. Now, there IS a way to ask such a question, but most guys will do it wrong. Because it's coming from an angry place inside which of course makes the other person become defensive.

The MOST important thing, though, to understand is that even if she DID, it is just a part of her history, and could very well be something that ended up not being all that cool to her. Let's face it, if that stuff WAS and IS so cool to her, she wouldn't be with YOU.

ALSO, it may very well have been that she considered it MORE than a f**k friend but it ended up BECOMING a "ff" situation.

This is what often happens in real life. Most girls are not exactly into ffs, because sex is far too easy for them (as it is for guys as well who understand how this whole thing works) and therefore it becomes all about QUALITY and not quantity.

But anyway, my point is that what happens is if the girl feels that her relationship is sinking, she still feels mixed emotions, i.e. bonding emotions are still there, some chemistry might be there but it's all DILUTED and TAINTED and confusing because of lack of trust or other issues, i.e. the guy NOT being the MAN. So some "ff" situations are like that.

But the whole thing is IRRELEVANT anyway, because it's all about how she is treating YOU. Maybe she learned from that situation what she DOESN'T want and makes her desire you even MORE.

The part of what you say about the potential "f**k friend" being your friend who didn't tell you anything about it might be because he feels weird about talking about it, and like you say it might not even be true.

I suggest you don't worry about it as long as your chick is treating you right, and you will find out ALL the truth anyway in time, ESPECIALLY if you DO NOT MAKE HER FEEL "EVIL" for her past.

If you are the man, then you REALLY DON'T CARE, because you KNOW that YOU are all that she cares about anyway!!!

Remember, what counts is that she is into YOU. And by continuing to be "THE MAN" as I explain, you will KEEP her into YOU.

And now, time for our next letter:

***LETTER***

Hi Michael,
I have been reading your newsletters for a while, and I truly respect the way you present valuable information to men.

When I can afford it, I am going to buy your eBook.

Two years ago, I lost my true soulmate and 21yo fiance, #######, in a freak car accident when she was modeling in LA.

Subsequently, as a result of the grieving period, it created a severe financial situation and I am still trying to eliminate those debts I have incurred.

I realize you charge for your services to have a question answered but I am financially stricken at the moment and was wondering if you could really help me out this one time.

I ask a kind favour in only answering a predicament for me that has frustrated me for quite some time. No one I have asked in the past, has been able to give me a definitive answer. Perhaps you are my only hope?

I started to date online 6 months ago and I am on 16 dating sites.

I feel being on as many dating sites I can find will only increase my chances of finding what I am looking for. I am a man who will not settle for second best and would rather stay single than to be with someone that's not right for me.

I am a very confident & secure person.

My standards are such that I a want a hot looking girl who is emotionally intelligent and intellectual.

Much like the caliber of my late fiancé, #######... she was a Torrie Wilson (WWE Diva) look-a-like. She was also both compatible and complimentary to my personality.

Now, I am not looking to replace her or want to find someone exactly like her. I want to find someone of that caliber.

I get loads of online women emailing me directly, overwhelmed by how good I look and how good I sound. I even get comments on a regular basis of women telling me I sound too good to be true or that I am every woman's dream guy...these women literally throw themselves at me... but unfortunately they are all women I don't find physically attractive in any way.

Yes, I am extremely fussy and have very high standards in the looks department. I don't mean to sound shallow but a strong physical attraction is of major importance to me.

When I make the approach of women that I find are of the caliber of Torrie Wilson, I keep my email short.

I always say something completely different and interesting to what most needy, submissive and insecure men would write to them.

It's always something that I feel you would condone me saying. It's to the point, a few sentences long and I always make a reference to something in their profile that is either common to us with a slight twist or something that intrigues me, put in a way that ordinarily should get their attention.

Most of all I write an email to them, to give them a clear indication that I have actually read their profile and not sent a template email.

My question to you is this:
Why is it that over 600 hot looking local girls of all ages, that I have contacted on 16 different dating sites, over the last 6 months, have never replied to me or any others have not approached me directly from my profile?

Now I will tell you, I am 38 years old. I live in Australia. I am a very attractive guy, extremely handsome, look 10 years younger as I look after myself very well (and all those opinions are not mine, that's generally what all women say when they approach me).

I am masculine in all the right ways, athletic and 6'3" tall. Now... can't imagine 600+ women not finding me attractive at all and just deleting my email.

There has to be some of those women who want a hot looking guy? Right? I believe I am following your principles exactly and it just doesn't seem to be working for me?

I have cut and pasted my online dating profile below, as it appears on any of the sites I am on.

What is it about my profile that puts these women off? Are they intimidated by me, don't think my photo is real, don't find me relatable or their insecurities choose not to want a guy like me?

I would really appreciate your input, as I am at a point where I just don't understand why I am not getting any responses when my late fiancé was a super hot looking girl who chased me like there was no other man she wanted on this earth.

My profile description:
"When I get the urge to run around naked, I just drink some Windex. It keeps me from streaking! I'm just kidding .... if I really did that I would seriously look like a blue tongue lizard :) On a serious note, is it true that women are like domain names? All the good ones are taken?"

"I am here to find out, no matter how long it takes, there must be one left somewhere."

"I am very much a versatile person who sustains a lot of depth, yet can be affectionately playful, spontaneous and adventurous with a witty sense of humour. My personality is expressively pleasant and I enjoy life to the fullest. The respect I have for a woman is such that my approach is always genuine, honest and sincere."

"I am primarily looking to explore an opportunity with someone complimentary and compatible to see where it may lead. I'm well educated with a university degree and previously worked in the teaching industry but now pursuing a more creative passion."

"I'm very easy going with a down to earth nature and a positive attitude. Expressive, articulate, creative, intelligent and resourceful. I'm described by many as tall, dark and handsome with a kind heart that is always considerate. Always a man that is loyal, unconditional, compassionate, courteous and reliable to the point you can always count on me."

"I have the confidence to be a real man not a mouse and I know exactly what I want out of life. I am emotionally intelligent to give a woman the very best of me and make her feel truly appreciated. As I value the benefits of emotional intimacy between a man and a woman."

"I enjoy travel as much as anyone, often I drive to Bunnings and check out their tool section but my favourite destination is Pick-a-Part when the weather is good. So if you would like to come for a scenic drive to Autobarn one day, just drop me a line!"

>>>THE DATING WIZARD RESPONSE<<<

First of all, I'm sorry to hear about that tragedy.

Regarding your question, though, it almost sounds from the online profile you included that you BROKE every principle I discuss.

I say this not to criticize, just to help you realize that there is a REASON why you are not getting results, which means you can CHANGE THIS AROUND at WILL.

Without turning this into a sales pitch, this is part of the reason why getting my actual materials will help so much so you can get the FULL picture of how things work with women.

Before I dissect your profile, I want to also mention to all the guys reading this who think it's all about "looks" to finally get that limiting belief out of their heads. A guy can have "the looks" and still not get anywhere.

It's about creating the right EMOTIONS in women from the way you BEHAVE. And without doing it, you can have all the looks in the world still have a tough time, although of course it will initially open the door with most women at first.

That's why you hear a lot of women say stuff like "It was all good till he opened his mouth."

Regarding your profile description, it would take me HOURS to re-write it, but let me IMMEDIATELY point out some of the things that are RED FLAGS waving wildly.

WINDEX
1. The Windex joke with streaking, you tried to be funny. So I give you props for trying. But the problem is the image we picture there is NOT FUNNY, it's a bit weird. A cross between goofy and dorky and trying too hard to be funny.

It doesn't paint you in a SUPERIOR light. This is NOT the way of the MAN.

The only time a self-deprecating comment works is when CLEARLY you are in the superior position, or when EVERY GUY goes around saying some comment about how cool he is, i.e. HIS JOB, so then in fact YOU sound cooler by NOT trying to prove yourself.

When I used to work in advertising at one of the biggest advertising firms in Toronto, when girls asked me what I did, and they found out, I would call it "bottom of the barrel" work.

Why? Because every other fool would try to show off about it, trying to PROVE HIMSELF because he has nothing else going on for him and because he feels the need to show off to impress her. Which actually not only makes him seem uncool, but also seem like a jerk, an asshole.

ALL THE GOOD WOMEN ARE TAKEN?
2. The second thing I need to point out here is when you basically ask:
"Are all the good women taken"?

What you have to realize, you see, is that this isn't the way to start off with the right kind of VIBE.

It sounds a bit sad, a bit desperate.

DEEPER DESPERATION
3.Then the "blasphemy" against the ways of THE MAN continue- by going into REALLY DESPERATE territory when you say, "I am here to find out, no matter how long it takes, there must be one left somewhere."

I can hear the lilting strains of a sad love song coming on.

This is NOT THE WAY to get off to a good start.

STOP QUALIFYING YOURSELF
4.You then mention all types of things to QUALIFY yourself, as if you need to PROVE something, like an inferior. Inferiority is the ANTI-ATTRACTION.

TOO MUCH LOGIC IS BORING
5. Not only that, but by getting into all this LOGICAL hogwash like "I am very much a versatile person who sustains a lot of depth" you are committing one of the CARDINAL SINS in the game of attraction:

You are NOT FOCUSING ON EMOTIONS.

You did the sin of trying to get her through LOGIC.
You were trying to get her through making SENSE.

Look, if it worked THAT way, then all a guy would have to do is SAY he's great, or explain it, and presto-he would have the woman.

Instead, what you must do is SHOW IT, not say it. BE PLAYFUL, don't just SAY you are playful.

Your profile should BE playful if you want to convey playfulness. Your profile should BE intriguing if you want to convey intriguing. Your profile should BE cool if you want to convey cool.

TOO MUCH "LEAVE IT TO BEAVER" STYLE
6. Then you go on with "my approach is always genuine, honest and sincere."

WHOAH. MAN.
This ain't my STYLE.
This AIN'T in any of my material.
This is ANTI-THE MAN stuff!

I DO believe in being honest, but I don't believe in this logical boring stuff at ALL for creating the initial attraction.

It doesn't work, it's just been heard too often and it's too boring and the reason guys feel the need to say it is out of desperation and the women you want know this.

SOUNDS LIKE A RESUME
7. Then you go on to MORE LOGICAL stuff:
"I am primarily looking to explore an opportunity" etc.

Sounds like a RESUME or cover letter for a job interview!!!

This is S-E-X and FUN and GOOD TIMES, not the workplace!

AGAIN, TOO MUCH SINFUL QUALIFYING
8. "I'm well educated with a university degree".

You may as well just say "I desperately hope you like me" because women will read it as the same thing, or they will simply be neutral, since this stuff is NOT making the visceral juices flow.

It would be different if you articulated about the education stuff in a way that DID make emotional impact, i.e. speaking about how in fact formal education may be important, but the most important things you learned from LIFE experience.

THE "NICE GUY" CLINCHER
9. And THEN comes the CLINCHER:
"Always a man that is loyal, unconditional, compassionate, courteous and reliable to the point you can always count on me."

Oh MAN!!!!!!!!!
See, this stuff is what you say to a a woman who has TRULY EARNED your respect and affection, not to total strangers.

Otherwise, saying that stuff is what I recommend guys say to women who they WANT TO REPULSE!!! Seriously!!!

Now, you had some points with the "the confidence to be a real man not a mouse and I know exactly what I want out of life" comment, but then veered off again with "make her feel truly appreciated."

Regarding the tool comment, I'm not even going to make a joke there. I think you might have done that as a joke, but the way you put it makes it sound like that's your idea of FUN.

Again, no emotions created.
It might be different if you wrote details about how you enjoy something like ice mountain climbing, if that was something you were interested in.

And definitely, by the way, you don't need 16 dating sites.
A few will do, if you just get the SKILLS down pat.

Hope that helps!

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