It's a fact that when you want something from a woman it will automatically sub-communicate lower value and that you need her. Here is a very handy and easy technique I use whenever I'm getting something from a woman.

To solve this problem we use distractors whenever we want to get something from a woman. This is something I use in phone game and text message game especially. So let's say your goal is to get her to come out with you. The average guy will say:

• "Hey let's go out."
• "We should hang out."
• "Come with me to X."

And the thing is, all of these are okay, except that you need to add a distractor afterwards. No woman wants to say "yes" without adding more to the sentence because it will make her feel uncomfortable (bad comfort game). So, we want to add something and make it like this:

• "Hey, let's go out, but you gotta buy me a present; I'm high maintenance."
• "We should hang out. I'm at the gym right now so I can only hang out after 8."
• "Come with me to X. Just so you know, if you're friends with me you have to love white wine, otherwise we wouldn't be able to hang out."

This takes away the pressure of saying yes, and she can even deny the distractor but still agree to the activity. "Oh no, I'm not buying you a present; I'm broke" means she can still say no to something in the sentence and say yes to the real purpose.

The same theory applies when you say something like "I like you." That can make a woman uncomfortable, but if you add "too bad you're such a dork" to it, it becomes easier for her to respond because it's not so serious or heavy. Remember, we want to stay away from heavy vibes and be playful!

You want to be the guy that tells women not be so stressed out. In fact, I have a tease that goes "Why are you so tense? You're such a dork!" (said in a playful way), that works great.

Dahunter is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

While in the comfort phase, you don't want to tease in order to punish a woman for bad behavior, simply because it's a waste of time and it's going backwards in the process. You will start to banter, which leads to a playfully fighting vibe. This is the complete opposite of what you want once you are in comfort. In comfort you want to make her say to herself, "where was this guy all my life?"

[For more on comfort, see Chapter 9: Comfort of Magic Bullets .]

Inevitably, however, there will be times when a woman will do something that you don't like, and it's imperative that you make her understand that this is unacceptable. I have deconstructed the process you need to follow in order to modify such behavior for good.

Change your behavior

Fall silent or otherwise change your attitude to be more dismissive and display a willingness to walk away. The main point of this is to show that things will never be the same unless she changes what she just did. It's unacceptable.

Wait for her to bring it up

She should realize that you are upset without you having to say anything about it. Remember that 90% of communication is non-verbal? This is the right time to apply that. Turn your body so that you're not facing towards her, don't look her in the eyes, be dismissive, and keep your answers short.

Explain what the problem is

Once she asks what's going on, explain that her behavior is unacceptable. The key to this is to be reluctant to explain it, like you didn't want to say anything but she had to force it out of you. Once you do start explaining, make sure you let her know that you have a rule against that and you will not tolerate such behavior.

Put a hoop

The key to solving the little drama you just created is by putting a hoop to a new behavior or frame of mind she must accept in order to continue being with you. If the fight is because she flaked out, then the hoop would be that she has to bring you a present in order to make it up to you. Don't be afraid to make it a big hoop as this is her chance to prove that she likes you after she messed up and it proves that you are willing to walk away if she doesn't live up to your high standards.

Reward

Once she jumps your hoop, reward her and let her know how awesome she is/the two of you are together. Make her feel like you were meant to be together and that she is great. You can even surprise her (with whatever you may want to do for her), or give her a compliment about her personality after she jumps your hoop.

Now you have a girl that is learning what you like. Here's the process again in a nutshell, after she does something you don't like:

• Change your behavior
• Wait for her to bring it up
• Explain the problem
• Put a hoop
• Reward her for jumping your hoop

Dahunter is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

This is a question I got from a live workshop student and I'm answering it here with his permission.

Dahunter,

It's XX from the recent LA workshop(you know, the guy who people kept opening because they thought I was my brother who's on TV). So I've been practicing like crazy ever since the event, and I'm really beginning to develop my own style. I remember that you were especially skilled at immediately transitioning from an opener to banter/qualifying. I was really impressed with how you were already qualifying with them within the first 5 seconds.

I was hoping that you could give me your basic structure of the first few minutes of an interaction. Maybe give me an example of your favorite opener, then the woman's response, then some bantering/qualifying lines that follow naturally, then the few routines you go quickly into, and the banter lines that easily follow. I remember you used strawberry fields, so maybe you could give me the easy banter lines to use that naturally and follow from a woman's response to the routine.

Thanks a lot Dahunter, this will help me out a ton. One of my weak points has always been getting quickly into an bantering/qualifying frame, and since that seemed to be your strength this would help me out a ton.

Look forward to hearing from you,

XX

The best way to transition, in my experience, is a cold read. Others use different transitions, and occasionally I do as well, but as a standard I will do a cold read. It's usually something lighthearted and funny, and it's basically just telling them my first impression of them or running the best friends test.

The thing that I do that I consciously worked on is that I talk down to a woman in a playful way in the beginning. The things that I say come out of nowhere. I don't have a logical reason to bust out with something like "are you giving me shit?" It absolutely makes no sense yet I say it in a loud way, 100% congruent, and in a very assertive manner so there's not one ounce of doubt in my mind that it will work, and that is the key.

It's not so much about practicing the lines as it is practicing the delivery. What I would suggest would be to grab one common theme for teasing like the "are you giving me shit?" line and practice it until you have it polished.

Other lines I use in combination with "are you giving me shit?" are:

• I'll kick your ass.
• Are you kidding me? You'll be on the ground in 30 seconds.
• I eat girls like you for breakfast.
• Be silent, little girl.
• Go sit on the corner and I'll bring you a bucket of crayons.
• Yeah, you're like the karate kid on crack.

These are lines that I use, with great success. So, commit to learn all of these, and master the delivery.

For example, a set of mine will go like this:

Opener
    "Hmm, you guys are funny (with a conspicuous look on my face). This is my first impression of you guys:"

Point to the first.

"You seem like you're the mother of the group; you're probably the one that takes care of all of them."

Point to the next.

"You seem like you're the shit starter; you're probably the champion at any drinking game between you guys."

Point to the last.

"And you, you're like the quiet one."

Her inevitable reply:

"I'm not the quiet one!"

You respond with:

   "Oh, now she talks. Are you giving me shit?" (You're challenging her, like asking "are you a tough girl?")

• "What? Are you trying to start a fight with me?"
• "I'll take you down little girl!"
• "Go sit at the corner I'll bring you a bucket of crayons."
• "Listen, don't start shit with me. I eat girls like you for breakfast."
• "Let me see your arm... Oh my god, you're like the karate kid, but on crack."

At this point I would either assess the situation to see if I need more attraction or if she starts asking me questions. Usually you don't need that much, but sometimes I'll ask a question like "so who are you anyways?" because they'll usually ask "who are you!?"

What I want to do is bait her so she keeps asking me questions. To do this I use lots of canned open loops, always around the same topics. For example, right now I'm in Atlanta so I will say "I love Atlanta; every time I'm here I have such a good time." The automatic question this provokes is "where are you from?"

I will say "I wasn't born there, but I live in Chicago." This will then bait her to ask "so where were you born?"

For all of these responses I have built in examples of my positive qualities that trigger attraction in a pretty predictable rate, and this is why my attraction game is so tight.

So, the key to perfecting your attraction game is to have a general theme for your banter, such as "we're going to fight" or "I'm the popular one, you're the nerd" or "you're so into me it's obvious." Then, throw in all these funny lines back and forth with her until she's invested so much that she becomes attracted to you. Again, borrow the lines I gave you above and polish those until you have the delivery right and then you can come up with new ones of your own.

Once she's attracted she will start asking you question that you will predictably get over and over, so prepare all your pre-canned responses to all those questions with open loops and more positive things about yourself, and then mix it up with some playful future projections. Do that and before you know it you'll have a woman who is completely into you in no time.

To read more, check out Chapter 7: Attraction in Magic Bullets .

Dahunter is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

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Cool Webinar

Last night, my good buddy Vin Dicarlo did a webinar on how to get really consistent results with women using a new method he's developed which he calls"Pandoras Box."

Basically, what his method allows you to do is quickly figure out what 'type' the girl you're talking to is (according to vin, there are 8 types) ...and then gives you a gameplan for getting that SPECIFIC type of girl.

Pretty cool, huh?

If you didn't get a chance to see it, you can just click the link below and you can watch the replay he's set up.

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It's about 55 minutes long and it will play automatically, just give it a few seconds to load.

Enjoy!

NightVision

]]> http://www.seductiontuition.com/rokker/pua-excuses-get-rid-them/ By Rokker

One problem I see at every live workshop, almost every 1-on-1, and whenever I meet someone in the community, is that men are very good at coming up with excuses why not to improve their game. Huh? Don't they want to improve their game? Of course they do! It's just that they come up with excuses all the time why not to approach, why not to go out that night, why everything is stacked against them, why they'll never be good at game... and thus find excuses why not to improve their game. If you can stop making excuses and focus your attention towards what you want to achieve instead of finding reasons why you won't reach that goal, you are almost guaranteed success.

Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone

Yes, this can be painful sometimes. That's why game is a hard (and therefore also very rewarding) skill to learn, because you simply have to do it. Now here's where the excuses arise. We instinctively try to keep ourselves within our comfort zone, probably as an ingrained survival mechanism, and will find whatever reason we can to do so. Now the irony of it all is that the comfort zone you're in is probably a zone you desperately want to escape. You might feel terrible about your life because you have no women in it, but that's now your comfort zone and you are petrified to break out of it and do something that's out of that zone.

Now if we can push ourselves (even if it might sting a bit) and integrate being really social and talking to women constantly (or whatever else we want to bring into our lives) then that will eventually become part of our comfort zone and not a big deal anymore...

There's really only one way to break out of the shackles and expand your comfort zone, and that is to "kill the excuse generator" (concept name borrowed from Captain Jack).

Kill the excuse generator

So how do you kill the excuse generator? Well, first of all you must be aware that you will constantly try to trick yourself. The excuses come in all kind of forms, and some are harder to spot than others. The classic excuses are "I'm not good-looking enough" or "I'm not rich enough." They are what I call "direct excuses" and of course we both know that they are very rarely valid, as we've witnessed both "not classically good-looking" and "not so rich" guys pick up hot chicks. I will list a couple of other excuses at the end of this article and then squash them, so you can identify them as excuses and not valid reasons if they ever pop up in your head.

Other excuses can be a bit trickier to spot, especially when you are using indirect reasons why not to game. These include "Too bad I can't go out and game today since I have to do the laundry" or "Oh, those women aren't hot enough; I don't feel like approaching when they aren't super hot."

Now take a minute and think about what's going on here. In the first "laundry case," is this really a good enough reason why not to go out or is it just an excuse not to push yourself out of your comfort zone? Every time you get a similar thought in your head, figure out if it's a legitimate reason or just a manifestation of your anxiety.

The "they are not hot enough" excuse is probably one of the most common excuses. Is it valid? Almost never. The only time it's valid is when you are surrounded by hotties and someone tells you to "approach that group" and you approach another group because its members are even hotter... well, then you are excused. In any other case, that "ugly" group will add to your experience and help build your social status if nothing else. Realize that this is just approach anxiety in a different form. [To read more about approach anxiety, see Chapter 5: Opening of Magic Bullets ]

The best way to get rid of your excuse generator is to have set goals concerning what you want to accomplish with women, and every time you are halted by an excuse from approaching ask yourself: "Will this action take me closer to or further away from my goals?." (Thanks to Sinn for this.) The answer is almost always that the action will take you closer to your goals, and therefore you should do it.

Common excuses

Here's a run-down of some common excuses:

I'm not attractive enough.

Since we are guys, we tend to judge people by their looks (and think people judge us based on looks alone). How attractive you appear to women (without talking to them) is 80-90% determined by body language, grooming, and how you are dressed and not by your physique. After that you will be attractive when you talk. This excuse is never valid.

I'm not rich enough.

Day game is free. You can find night game venues that have no cover charge, and you don't have to spend a cent on the entire night. [To read more about Day Game, see Chapter 13: Day Game of Magic Bullets ]

They aren't hot enough.

They will still add to your experience and social status. Approach.

I need a drink / to go to the bathroom / to wander around a bit before I approach.

No you don't! What you need is to get rid of your approach anxiety, and now is the best time to do it. Approach!

I'll never be good at game because X, Y or Z.

So you think you are the only one with problem X? Instead of quitting and feeling sorry for yourself (that won't lead you anywhere), change your state of mind into something constructive. "What can I do to get around problem X? How can I change this into something positive or at least something that doesn't interfere with my progress?" We all have our problems but the ones who get good develop this sort of thinking instead of feeling sorry for themselves or quitting.

Conclusion

Killing the excuse generator is one of the biggest steps you can take towards mastery. It will be hard at times, but ultimately very rewarding.

Nothing in life worth having comes easy.

Rokker is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

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Anyways, just wanted to keep you updated. You know I always share the best techniques with you.

Talk soon,

NightVision

The Theory

Have you ever thought about why some people who have been in this community for a really long time still can't approach women correctly? Ever wondered what separates one guy's constant improvement from another guy's struggle? Well, it really boils down to one thing: how well you incorporate your experience from what happens in-field to your skill set.

What really determines your rate of progress from what you were (and are) to what you want to become is your ability to build up your own skill. Imagine that your skill level in meeting women (although this concept goes for every skill) is a brick wall, the more skillful you are the bigger it is. Every time you bring in new information and analyze it you are adding a brick to your skill wall. But here's the rub: in meeting women this has got to be information from experience and not something you've read!

This is why people fail... they have all this theory in their head but they don't really know how to use it because they haven't experienced it. They might think they know how and when to use it, but they don't. Think of theoretical information as bricks lying right next to your skill wall ready to be added, but until you've really experienced using that theory in field that brick won't add to your skill level. It's just not there yet.

Building The Wall

Your objective is of course to build up your skill wall. Now here's the beauty of it: it's really you (and only you) who are in control of how fast you are building that wall. Add bigger chunks by doing a more detailed analysis of every interaction. Add more chunks by being social more frequently. Combined with theoretical knowledge and understanding, you will reach your goals faster than you could imagine and your skill level will skyrocket.

The Outcome

First, ask yourself this question: Is the outcome of the approach the most important thing for you? Say you can run the same approach twice - the first time you run poor game but come away with a make-out, and the second time you run good game but come away with nothing. What would you prefer? Stop reading and really think about this, because it's important.

Here's your answer: As long as you learn something from the experience, the outcome is of less importance! It's generally good to be outcome-independent, but that implies that you actually learn something from an approach in which you ran good game. So if you realized that you ran poor game the first time, analyzed what went well and what didn't, and then added a brick to your skill wall because of that - well, that's better than running good game and not learning anything from it. (I don't think I have to tell you that the best outcome is learning from running good game!)

Approach Analysis

Every approach and every interaction you do should be broken down and analyzed. Don't get me wrong here; I'm not talking about putting on your thinking cap and calculating mad genius equations every time. But, you really should have a grasp of what you did right and what you did wrong in every approach. Depending on your current skill level, these things might be big (like coming in with negative energy or being generally insulting) or small (micro-calibration). You hear a lot of beginners saying: "Well, uh, she was a total bitch." No, she's not a bitch. You did something that triggered her to be a bitch to you. Instead, ask yourself what you did that made her act like a bitch to you.

Did you:

• Have good body language coming in?
• Open correctly?
• Create a false time constraint (give the illusion that you won't be hanging around all night), tease (correctly, not insulting) and start new conversational topics?

The more steps you can break your interaction into, the more you will learn and be able to apply to the next one. This is what analyzing approaches is all about! Break down your interaction and give yourself both positive feedback (as in things you did well and you plan to keep doing) and constructive negative feedback (things you want to get rid of or alter so it benefits you).

Also realize that what you think caused the bad response or rejection could have its roots in something you did earlier in the interaction. It might not be the most obvious thing that got you rejected, but a combination of things.

Constructive Feedback

It's important to give yourself constructive feedback. If you say "well, I certainly messed up that tease," that won't help unless you ask "what can I do to change the way I deliver that to make it work?" afterwards. Find the source of what went wrong and then figure out how to solve it. Just finding the source won't do; that's like finding a flat tire on your car and then riding on it without fixing it.

It's also easy to blame something or someone else if an interaction goes stale. Don't ever do this. Excuses like "the music was too loud" or "she wanted to dance and I don't know how" are just that, excuses. If the music is too loud, talk louder or move to a quieter location. If she wants to dance, find a way to be interesting enough so she wants to stay. The only way to build up your skill level is to be able to pinpoint your weaknesses and work on them.

Wingmen And Pivots

Your "wingman" or "pivot" (a female wingman) can give you feedback on things that you might not have noticed. However, your wingman can't change anything about how you are behaving for you. You have to take that step yourself and change whatever you're doing wrong. Only you can add bricks to your skill wall. Appreciate your wingman's feedback and figure out what you can do to apply it and make a positive change.

Negative State And When To Analyze

When you are out approaching women in a club and get rejected and you don't have a strong inner game, it's easy to lose the good state you are in. Analyzing the interaction right after a rejection can be an even bigger mood-breaker, so what I suggest is to take a "mental picture" of it and remember it for later analysis. Just quickly go over what you think was the biggest key factor that went wrong, store it away for later evaluation, and then get back in that good mood. Don't go around over-analyzing in the club; that will probably only confuse you and make you miss out on more potential interactions. Above that, it's a good way to train your memory.

Conclusion

If you are not already actively trying to learn something from every interaction then you are not progressing as fast as you could be. Focus on yourself and figure out what you're doing wrong as well as what you are going to do to improve.

Only you can build your skill wall as high as you want it to be.

Rokker is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

Getting a woman into a private conversation is a crucial waypoint in every interaction. It's vital that you do, but still I see guys in workshops and 1-on-1s not pushing for it. This makes the interaction much harder than it needs to be.

Why?

The purpose of every group you approach with a target that you are interested in is to build an emotional connection. It's not about building huge amounts of attraction or making her say "Wow, you're the most different person I've ever met!" It's all about building that connection so she wants to see you again or feel comfortable enough to go home with you the same night.

Now, since we approach groups, building that emotional connection is tough when the woman is in a group of friends. Why is that? Well here are some reasons:

• She probably acts differently around her friends than when she is alone.
• She doesn't want to seem too into you and easy in front of her friends.
• Her attention will be divided when in a group of friends as she will almost always try to see what her friends think of the situation.
• You can't really open yourself up in the same way and say the same things as you could when you guys are alone to establish that real connection.

These reasons should be enough for you to move her into a private one-on-one, but there's also another very important thing that it accomplishes: it's a waypoint into qualification and comfort. When you get the woman alone, you know that she is attracted and you can now start running qualification and build comfort.

[For more information, see Chapter 8: Qualification and Chapter 9: Comfort in Magic Bullets ]

When?

Simply stated: get her alone as soon as possible. However, be aware that the earlier you do (or more correctly, the less you've befriended her peer group) the more interruptions you will have. If you are good at handling her friends, then try to get a woman alone as soon as possible. If you want to play it a bit safer, make sure that you get "green lights" from everyone in the group and then go for it.

The most important thing is that you actually pull the trigger and try to get her alone. In the Emotional Progression Model, I would say that the optimal situation to get a woman alone is when you've built a fair amount of attraction and also qualified her a bit with smallish hoops (you want to save the big hoops for later).

However, remember that there's no such thing as "the optimal interaction" and you don't get an Oscar for doing the best lines; just get the job done. For example, I got an ex of mine alone the first time I met her after 30 seconds of conversation, and it was from a two-woman group without a "wingman" for help. I figured I had enough attraction from the approach and sub-communications, and thought I could get away with it so I went for it.

Like most things in dating science, if you believe the attempt will work, it most likely will. If you don't think it will, then you are right.

How?

There are two different types of private conversations, the "mini" and the "full." The first one doesn't require as much compliance as the second, but can be very useful in groups.

Mini

The "mini" is when you still stay in the group with your target (alternatively take a few steps towards the bar or anywhere near the group, but with the group still within earshot of you two). This way you guys have your private little "bubble" within the group.

This is most easily created if you have a "wingman" that can occupy the other women in the group while you are chatting away with the target. If you don't have a wingman and it's a group of three or more, you can always engage the target in a discussion and usually the other members of the group will start talking amongst themselves. The problem with this is that the woman might still not completely open up to you as she might think the other women can see or hear her, and it's also very easy for the other women to interrupt you two in the middle of something important.

What you want to do is to turn the woman so her back is facing the rest of the group (so she can't see her friends). If you have a wingman, make him turn the other women too so their backs face your target's back. This way the women can no longer girl-code each other and your target will pay more attention to you instead of trying to look over your shoulder to see if her friends are trying to say something to her.

I use the "mini" mainly to amp up the last attraction I need, to start making her qualify herself, and also to increase the physical contact.

Full

This is what you are looking for. "Full" is when you two guys are alone away from the group, preferably in a quiet area where you really can connect. It's actually easier than you think to get into a private conversation, and if you are not always trying for this you are lacking a very important piece of your game. Here's one way I do it:

"Hey, I'm going to show you something really cool, but we have to be seated. There are some sofas over there; let's go."

• "Oh my god, the craziest thing happened yesterday. I'll tell you all about it, but it's too loud here. Let's go somewhere less noisy."
• "I need a drink; keep me company in the bar."
• "I want to dance but I'm not sure you are such a good dancer... are you? Well let's go then." I then dance a bit, increase the touching, and then move her to the bar / sofas, etc.

Once by ourselves I tell the woman a story, play a game, or start running comfort. I recommend you have a piece to kick off the conversation, but it's really no big deal... and if you get a complete brain-freeze just run a qualification piece.

This is also the place to start doing some serious physical interaction. With the right moves you will be kissing her in no time.

Rokker

Rokker is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

One of the hardest things for new guys when it comes to cold approach is making conversations seem smooth and unstrained.  This is especially true right after the opener, when you are about to turn the opener into a “normal conversation” (in other words, moving into the Attraction phase).  This is nothing new, and both Sinn and Savoy have been dishing out stuff about this for awhile.  There’s a great chapter in Magic Bullets for transitioning.

The easiest way to transition in my opinion is by using observational transitions.  These carry a number of advantages such as:

1. Piques her interest right off the bat as this isn’t what every guy does and what you are saying is interesting.
2. It involves cold reads, which almost always gets a good reaction (and by a good reaction I mean something that helps you move the interaction forward).
3. You can easily display playfulness and humor with them.
4. They often lead you into another routine.
5. You can build interesting and playful “minimum input” routine series with them.
   

Here’s the basis of delivering observational transitions: when you are about to (falsely) leave the woman or group after the opener, you notice something about a person (or persons) in the group that you just have to tell them about.  The great thing about this is that they actually don’t have to do anything to make you say this!  In other words, you can use the same observational transition for every interaction and create routines for which you use the same transition every time.  You can use this routine as training to get some live experience under your belt and work on your delivery, or you can use it as a back-up whenever you feel like you need it.

“Well, I could build routines with phrasal transitions too” you might say.  Well sure, but in my experience interactions tend to go better and people listen more closely to what I have to say if I use cold reads and get their attention and then jump into my longer DHV stories than the other way around.  Beyond that, cold reads and “observational transitions” are powerful tools that you can throw in pretty much anywhere in the interaction, so it’s useful to learn a few of them anyway.

So what are some ideas for observational transitions?  I have listed a few that I personally use (so you deliver your opener, then body rock as if you are about to leave and then fire out one of these babies):

• “Oh my god I just noticed something... you guys are pretty good friends, aren't you?”  [Go into the Best Friends Test routine]
• “Hey, I just noticed... your eyes tend to slant downwards and to the left when I talk to you.  My ex-girlfriend taught me that people who do that tend to be in touch with their feelings.  They seem to listen and follow their feelings a lot.  Would you consider yourself a person who listens more to her feelings than pure logic?”
  [They answer and I follow up with:]  “Yeah, because I like to do that too... actually, that very trait has led me to some great adventures... [and off I go into a story]
• “I just noticed... you have a U-shaped smile.” [and into C vs. Us routine]
• “Hey, where did you get those shoes?!  I was out shopping with a friend of mine the other day and she was looking everywhere for a pair of shoes like that... you do know that if that pair you’re wearing was the last pair, then you are in some serious trouble!”  If said to the target, I sometimes add: “I think I hate you now.  You and I are so not going to get along.  You made me spend four hours looking for those damn shoes!”  [From here I continue with “Actually, speaking of my friend, she has this interesting theory...” and then off into a routine]
• [They answer your opinion opener]  Hmm... let me see your hands.  Yeah, just like I expected.”  [They’ll ask “what, what?” and you go into Finger Length routine]
• “Geez, it’s amazing.  My ex-girlfriend has this “doppelganger” theory and it basically says that every person has an identical twin in the world, and you look exactly like my last girlfriend/aunt/sister/cousin/the girl I met last week.  [and then go into a story about that person]
• [Pause the opener, look at her and say:]  “The way you stand when you talk to me... [pause] gives me the feeling that you’re pretty confident and friendly... am I right?  (As you may notice this could very well be used in the Qualification phase, like many other cold reads that say something about her.)
• “Hey by the way, did you pick the finger you are wearing that ring on?” [and go into the Ring Finger routine]
• “Hmm... something about you makes me think you are a pretty bad liar.  We have to play the lying game to see if that’s true. [and into the 5 Questions Game]
• “Hey it’s so cute, your nose wiggles when you talk and that totally reminds me of my ex-girlfriend and the time we went to... [and into a story]
  

There you have some ideas for observational transitions.  Play around with these and come up with some of your own.  Now you know an easy way to transition from your opener to your attraction material, which often is a big sticking point for new guys.

A good exercise for in-field improvisation is to make up your own “cold read” (or something you’ve noticed about a person or persons) on the spot.  I like to do this because it’s fun and I get a kick out of improvising.  I’ll say: “Hey, I noticed you have blue eyes, just like me.  Did you know that they say that people who have blue eyes are more spontaneous and adventurous?  Too bad you have blonde hair; you don’t want to know what they say about that...”

Remember, the more natural a transition feels the more likely it will be a good one. By practicing you will make these feel very natural, but if you come up with something on the spot that feels more natural then by all means use that one.

The Love Systems Routines Manual is the foremost resource on routines, with detailed explanations of how they work and when to use them in the phases of the Emotional Progression Model.  All of the above routines can be found in the Routines Manual, and many more.  Check it out here. 

For more advanced techniques, check out Interview Series Volume 1 on Opening and Transitioning with Sinn and Savoy and Volume 9 on Using and Creating Routines with The Don and Savoy .

Rokker is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

We have put up a recording of the exclusive conference call when Braddock and Savoy took every question imaginable on phone and text game for an hour and a half.  Learn from others' mistakes, you can listen to it here:

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NightVision

Let’s see if you can identify yourself with this situation: You get a phone number from a girl but she will not respond to your text messages or phone calls. Sounds familiar?

What you have is a flaky phone number. Most of the time flaky numbers are a symptom of something you did wrong when you first met the girl.

What most guys do wrong is as soon they see the girl is a little bit interested they will ask for the phone number. In other words, as soon the girl is a little bit attracted the guy will see that as a green light to get her phone number.
What is the mistake? You are asking too early for the phone number.

Remember that women live in the emotional moment. This means she may have genuinely wanted to give you her number at that moment and gone out with you, but one or two days later she is not feeling the exact same way she did when you first met.

So when is the right time to ask for her phone number?
The short answer is: once she has invested herself in you.
Invested? What does that mean? Let me first explain what investment is in the dating context. Investment is essential to reducing flaky phone numbers and thus getting girls to respond to your calls. As humans we value things we work for. That is the basic idea behind investment. The more she will invest in us, the more “valuable” we are to her. Let me give you an example. Do you remember when you received money for your birthday? That was easy money because you didn’t do anything to get it. That money was also easily spent. Few years later, you got your first job where you had to work hard for your money. Did you spend that money just as easy? No because you understood the value of money once you had to work for it.

The same idea applies to dating. If women do not work for your attention and interest, they will not value you as much. We want women to work for you and invest themselves into you. That in return will make women more attracted to you and someone who she wants to see again.

Getting woman attracted is not good enough. Attraction is just a fleeting feeling. She might have been attracted to you at the moment you got her phone number, but that attraction might be gone the next day.

When you get investment from the girl you solidify that attraction a little bit more. Within Love Systems we call that Qualification and that is worth explaining in another article. Let me give you five actionable items you can use today that will help you reduce flaky phone numbers:
-Build an emotional connection first before asking for the phone number
-Move her around the venue multiple times
-Bounce to a different venue if you can
-Getting her to save your (nick) name and phone number in her phone
-Hint at meeting up in the future and if she is agrees, then ask for the phone number.

Here is a simple exercise you can do. Go out for a few weeks and don’t ask for numbers unless SHE hints at meeting up with you. Push the levels of attraction and emotional connection to a point where she is almost coming on to you. This is hard to do and not something you can do every time but it’s a good exercise. It will help you see the window of when you should ask for the number.

This is really the tip of the iceberg of what you can do to turn more phone numbers into dates. In my book The Ultimate Guide on Text and Phone Game I have many more tips and techniques on even turning flaky phone numbers into dates. It will be released January 21st, 2010 and you can find more information on it by clicking here. The book was recently released on 21st January and the first 1,000 buyers will get fr.ee bonuses with their purchase. The bonuses will include one audio download ($40), the Phone Game Interview Series ($40), and 3 eBooks ($97) on phone and text game! That is over $177 worth of bonuses and only available for the first 1,000 buyers.

Braddock

Text game is a crucial part of your seduction toolbox. Braddock and I will soon be releasing a revolutionary eBook entitled, “The Definitive Guide to Phone and Text Game”. This article covers some of the basics that we delve into in that eBook.

Almost all of the psychological tools that are used in real life seduction can be used in Phone and Text Game (besides sex of course!). For example, attraction, comfort and even sexual escalation can be achieved by using your phone effectively.

The objective of phone and text game should be (1) to arrange a meeting (a date) and (2) to create the requisite amount of attraction / comfort / sexual tension so that the date goes well (i.e. hopefully leads to sex!).
This article will cover some of the basic principles of text game – in particular:
(1) the things that you can and should do once you get her phone number; and (2) some guidance on your first texts to her.

Seeding The Text

This is a technique that Braddock and I refer to as ‘seeding the text’. Basically what it means is that you prepare her for the first text somehow. So for example, immediately after getting her phone number, you could say something to her like:
“Text me when you get home” or
“I’ll text you my first impression of you”

A good technique is also to call her the minute you get her phone number and create a fun role-play. For example, you could say something like, “Hi, this is [your name]. I met this really cute girl at the bar tonight but then I started talking to her and found out that she is kind of weird and stalkerish. I’m calling because I need advice as to how to get rid of bar stalkers.” Another example is to say something like “I’ll get my secretary to call your secretary” and then tosend a follow up text saying something like “Hey this is Candy, [your name]’s hot, busty assistant. Is 7:30 tomorrow OK? ;)”.

Finally, an interesting gambit that I have heard about is to use a pen and paper and to say something like “draw a picture of yourself so I can remember what you look like“ while you get her number (credit Kid44). You can then tease her about her diagram.

Immediate Follow Up Texts

A follow up text is when you text her within 0-10 minutes of meeting her. Follow up texts (or phone calls, as above) are an ideal way to (1) get her used to the idea of texting you (2) contact her later that night for the same night lay.

Ideally, a follow-up text shouldn’t include a question so it doesn’t require much compliance from her.  These types of low compliance texts are most useful when the girl doesn’t have your number yet.

As a side note, it is generally a GOLDEN RULE that she should have your number in her phone too. Don’t just take her number, put yours into her phone. Often, you can put your name as something funny like, ‘Cute Oklahoma Boy With Nice Ass’ or something more specific to you. That way, she laughs and is in a better emotional state as soon as she gets a text from you.

The best types of follow up text are those which involve callback humor (i.e. relate to something that was said in the actual interaction between you and her). Here are examples of some follow-up texts that tend to work well:
“How’s my favorite little brat doing?”
“It’s me, your phone. I wanted to get out of your pocket. The smell in there is unbearable. Take care.”

When is the best time to text?

Selecting a good time to text is key for two reasons. The first reason is what it says about YOU! Cool, high value guys have busy lives. You go out often and you have a fun and exciting life. So the time that you text is crucial as it should indicate that you have an awesome busy life and you’re not just thinking about the girl you met in the bar the other day. You should generally avoid texting a girl on a Friday night unless there was some indication earlier during the day (or through the course of your interaction, whenever it was) that you may meet up during the night.

Consider it this way. Hot girls ALWAYS have something going on. If they’re hot then guys and girls are going to be calling them out all the time. Thus if you don’t catch them at the right time they may not respond to your text. For example, they may have received a text and just not replied in that moment because they are busy doing something else. They would then likely forget to reply altogether.

Therefore the best time to text is when she’s alone in her room or relaxing. The most likely times that this will be happening are:

1. 7pm Sunday. There is a good chance she’ll be alone on a Sunday evening.
2. 9pm any other day. Usually this is the period just after dinner but before she goes to sleep.
3. If you have to text during the day, then 12 pm – 2 pm is ideal (lunchtime!).

Texting at 7pm and 9pm also has an added advantage. These times lead to bedtime. If you are the last person that she thinks about before she goes to sleep and thus, likely the first person she thinks about when she wakes up, you will resonate in her subconscious mind (beware, she may also resonate in yours!).

How long should you wait before you text? If it was a direct day approach then text that same day or the day after at the latest. Alternatively – if you met her during the night time, a text the next day may be more appropriate (unless you want to employ the immediate follow up text or phone call as described above).

This needs to be calibrated depending on your interaction.

Opening texts

Your opening text should be congruent with your interaction and the image you portrayed. In general, it’s good to have a fun playful tone with your texts.
Here are examples of easy going and fun texts that you can use:
“What’s up poster girl?”
 “Hey goober/shrimp/whatever fits, I just saw the cutest little X and thought of you.
“You wouldn’t believe the dream I had last night.”
“I just met your twin”

Remember that the point of the opening text is to either bring her good emotions, make her smile, laugh or be intrigued and then compel her to write back. Most guys are too serious with their opening text and get to the invite to the date WAY too fast. The emphasis should be on being playful and fun and building or rebuilding the levels of comfort and attraction.

Situational Opening Texts – A Good Strategy For Subsequent Text Exchanges

Situational opening texts are a good strategy for the second to third times that you initiate text contact with her. They can work well to get a conversation going but you eventually need to transition them into your desired objective (which should generally be a date or meet up).
Here are examples of situational opening texts:
 “If nose hairs were a sign of masculinity, the guy opposite me would be the hulk.”
 “Maybe it’s the booze talking, but I want you to know that I love booze.”
These are best used when you have something fun lined up with friends already and then you can invite her out as part of the conversation.

The Structure of Messages For Setting Up a Date

If the interaction between you and her went particularly well, you may want to go directly for a date on your first text message. If this is the case, you can employ a certain structure (credit DaHunter):

1. Open with the Nickname – The purpose of the nickname is to set a fun and playful tonality to the text message.
2. Reason for text/response to their text – This is to ‘ground’ the text. You’re not just texting her out of the blue.
3. Suggested course of action/genuine question – this is what most guys text. They simply text stuff like “We should hang out”. This will cause her to react because she will basically be saying ‘yes’ to you asking her out. It will cause her to feel some small level of discomfort and she will feel like she’s on the spot.
4. Random statement to disguise weight of previous sentence – This is the key to disarming her. Put in something that is random that distracts her so she can have fun with her reply whilst still saying yes.

As an example:
NICKNAME
Hey cutie / shorty / rabbit / whatever name you called her

REASON FOR TEXT/ RESPONSE TO THEIR TEXT
I was thinking / What you doing?

SUGGESTED COURSE OF ACTION/GENUINE QUESTION
You know we should really hit [that place you spoke about in your interaction] / Have you ever been to a daytime nightclub? /  I’m busy Thursday and Friday but we should grab a drink on Wednesday.

RANDOM STATEMENT TO DISGUISE WEIGHT OF PREVIOUS SENTENCE
P.s. Do you like Dave Matthews Band? / P.s. what’s your view on Marshmallows? / Ever wondered who would win in a contest between a rabbit and a smurf? / More importantly, do you have a geeky side?

The principle is that by reading the last line of your text (the random/funny/intriguing statement) she’ll smile, laugh or at the least be interested in your text and then reply your text.

There are many other awesome strategies, techniques and gambits which can be used for Phone and Text Game. Braddock and I cover them and provide many real life examples of text exchanges in ‘The Definitive Guide on Text and Phone Game” eBook. It is over 180 pages of the best information on Text and Phone Game, including live scripts of successful text and phone seductions and advanced tips and tactics (including how to get her even when you think that she might flake).

The book will be released on January 21st, 2010. You can find more information about it by clicking here. The book will be released less than 24 hours from now and the first 1,000 buyers will get free bonuses with their purchase. The bonuses will include one audio download ($40), the Phone Game Interview Series ($40), and 3 eBooks ($97) on phone and text game! That is over $177 worth of bonuses and only available for the first 1,000 buyers.

Mr. M is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .

"Okay, what's that?"  I asked.

"Basically, we like walking up to random women, usually when
there's a group of them, and *INTENTIONALLY* try to get them to
make us go away."

I laughed

So then he walks off and starts talking to a group of women,
obviously saying some of the most messed up stuff they've ever
heard by the shear *SHOCK* that was on their faces.

Needless to say, even though he *TRIED* to get them to make
him go away, somehow... they became curious and infatuated with
him.

And when I looked at my watch 20 minutes later, he was still
talking to them, halfway keeping up the charade, halfway engaging
them on a deeper level.

This is how I finally met Christian Hudson when I was in Austin,
Texas.

Sure, we've talked before

... but seeing someone in person walk up to a group of women
with blistering confidence and calmly but seriously rip off
the most perverted and cheesy lines you've ever heard *ON
PURPOSE*...

... was a sight to see.

But does this make sense?

Yes, it does.

I've often said that it doesn't matter *WHAT* you say that
counts, it's how you confidently you say it.  And this was proof.

Of course, I had a sneaky feeling that he wasn't going to
get told to scram, or that the women were going to call security
on him.  After all, when you have a system of teaching men how
to have "Unbreakable Confidence" - you'd assume that he'd be
able to deliver in person.

And he did.

So here's the deal.  Christian is reopening his breakthrough course
on confidence and inner game NOW at

===> http://www.seductiontuition.com/becomeunbreakablenow

If this is an area of your life that you want to get handled,
I'd pick it up. And, at the ridiculous rate he's offering it at,
all the copies are surely going to be gobbled up very soon, so
don't wait.

Look, I witnessed with my own eyes how powerful this is
and not only that, Christian is a *GOOD DUDE*.

Fun, funny, confident, and solid.

You couldn't ask for a better person to teach you this.
And you can take that to the bank.

===> http://www.seductiontuition.com/becomeunbreakablenow

All the best,

NightVision

p.s.  I haven't had a chance to look at how many copies of
      this system are available, but seriously, he's asking
      you to trade him "chump change" for access.  A bargain in my
      book for sure.
         
==> Go here to claim your copy before they are gone
http://www.seductiontuition.com/becomeunbreakablenow

I've been doing a lot of reading on psychology and spirituality recently and I've developed an idea that's reduced my approach anxiety by about 90%.

The idea is surrendering to the moment.

I've never really bought into the idea that approach anxiety is hardwired into us. My thinking behind this comes from experience rather than theorizing.

As far as approach anxiety, after you've done about three approaches in a night it's usually gone. I've also met guys like Debonair Dave who don't experience the phenomenon at all. So, I've been actively looking at the reasons behind this anxiety, and it brings us back to surrendering.

To me, approach anxiety has always felt like a fight between wanting to get the girl and wanting to avoid embarrassment (a few years ago) or wanting to avoid doing a lot of work (more recently). So there were clearly two conflicting drives.

In "The Power of Now" by Eckhart Tolle, the author talks about letting go of both the past and the future and focusing purely on the present. This simple piece of advice alone reduced my anxiety considerably. If you truly do let go of the past, you will be unable to think about past failures. You can't think about your lack of success with women up to this point or all the reasons not to approach a woman, because none of that is occurring here and now. Here and now you have nothing but the moment.

In a bar, club, or on the street - or wherever you are - when you do the approach you only have the present moment. Nothing else matters. Her reaction is in the future, so there is no reason to worry about it. When you are in the field you need to be hyper-focused on the present. Don't think. Follow the strongest desire you have.

If you are reading this, then the strongest desire you have is to meet and have sex with new women. Don't be ashamed of this desire. It's the only desire that keeps us surviving as a species. A lot of guys hide their desires. A quick caveat here, don't approach a girl and ask her if she wants to have sex. That's not showing your desires, it's just showing your lack of social intuition. What I'm saying here is don't hide your desires internally. A vital step in becoming a man is to come to grips with the dark sides of your desires - mainly your desires to sleep with women, kill, and dominate. These are natural human emotions that have shaped the world. In a way, they are the only desires that actually matter.

The second part of my technique is to surrender to your feelings. Stop fighting them. Accept that you feel approach anxiety at the same time you feel the desire to approach. Stop trying to feel more confident, stronger or more prepared. Start focusing on what you want to do right now. In this moment, when you see that woman, what do you most want to do (that won't land you in jail)?

All that fighting in your mind, all that clutter, has nothing to do with reality. The present is all you have and, as it was said so well in Fight Club, "This is your life and it's ending one minute at a time." You can't do anything to change the past and the opportunity to change the future occurs in the present.

So, after you have come to the realization that the present is all we have and surrender to the fight between your emotions, you gain the power to approach almost without fear.

I think the final step to approach anxiety reduction is to let go of your outcome. The outcome is in the future and it's completely unimportant in the present.

Tony Robbins calls acting in the moment "getting out of your head and into your heart." I think it's more about gaining an element of control over yourself and not letting thinking or "the mind" get in the way of action. Action is what produces results, not thinking. Thinking without acting has never produced anything. Even philosophy led to the action of writing which is what produced the records of these thoughts.

So how do you actually start on the road to getting out of your head and acting?

The first step is to become aware of what you are feeling at any given moment. Reduce the amount of white noise in your head by shutting off the deductive thought process and focusing on bodily sensations. What do you feel right now from your head to your toes? Feel that and then slowly start taking assessment of your mood.

When you can start to identify your mood through feeling, rather than thinking, you are on your way to being fully present in the moment which allows you to act without filtering.

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My friend Christian is at it again.  We were talking about the last video he put out (you did catch it, right?  over 125 people have commented on it!) and he mentioned that a LOT of guys wanted to know how to 'instantly create attraction'.  So he put a new video together about it:

===> Instant Attraction Video

It's an important topic, because it's really frustrating to feel like you have to work hard when you approach a woman, just to get her to talk to you.  I mean, tell me if you've ever been in one of these situations:

- you don't know what to say to a woman when you see her across the room

- you're talking way too much, and she's just looking at you like "whatever"

- you run out of things to say and the conversation goes flat

I swear that's why about 90% of interactions that *could* be good don't get off the ground.  It's those first three minutes, just making them flow smoothly and getting her attracted to you. 

If you thought the implied investment technique from the last video was cool, then you're going to LOVE Christian's technique for getting girls instantly attracted, dropping their walls, and playing with you all in about 3 minutes.

===> Instant Attraction Video

And hey, if you like it (which I know you will) leave a comment and tell him I sent you :)  A lot of people are buzzing about Christian's new stuff and I want him to know that guys who read my site are cool, friendly and badass ;)

NightVision

I've been meaning to write this post for a while, so apologies for the delay. Some of the below is a bit detailed and may be a lot to take in for guys new to Day Game. Don't worry if it is, just read the newbie note at the bottom, get out there and do a few sets, then come back and read the full article.

Some background on me. I've been working on my game for a few years now (started with David DeAngelo in 2003, but got into Game proper in 2005). I concentrated very much on indirect club game when I started, but as I grew and developed I discovered a love for Direct Game and Day Game.

Where I stand now is that I like doing night game as well, but Day Game will always be my first love. I have met two of the most incredible girlfriends that I have loved most in my life through Day Game, have had countless dates as a result of daytime number closes, have taken girls home the same day I've met them, and brought a group of girls I've met during the day back to my place.

I've stopped using routines and now flow naturally from my heart. I have enormous respect for routines and I teach my students to use routines if I think they need them. Ultimately though, I have practiced so many routines that I now create them on the spot (which in a way is what being natural is about). I don't do takeaways, I don't disqualify, I don't neg. I escalate shamelessly, hard and fast, whilst simultaneously making sure the girl feels as comfortable and safe as possible.

Though I meet girls in night game, I enjoy the variety of girls you can meet in the daytime, the ease with which you can talk to them (bitch shields are WAY down in the day), and the way you can brighten up a beautiful woman's day unexpectedly.

In some ways, Day Game follows the same structure as any other type of game. But people are always asking me questions about how things are different. So here are the main differences and how to get around them:

    1. Guys generally get more approach anxiety approaching girls in the daytime than they do at night.

• People always think, "Isn't it weird to approach girls in the day? Aren't they busy? Aren't they going to tell you to get lost?" The truth is it's no less weird than approaching people you don't know to talk to them in a bar. I used to think girls were going to react really badly, when in fact, they probably react better in the daytime than they do at night. At night, they expect guys to be drunk and hit on them, but in the daytime, it happens to them much less often and thus they are impressed by your confidence and willingness to take risks. Like all approach anxiety, the only way to overcome this is to man up and go open them!

    2. Direct openers are much more necessary in Day Game than night game.

• There are a lot of venue considerations in Day Game (see below), but in many situations, particularly in street game, it can come across as really bizarre to stop a random girl and ask her opinion on something. In a bar, you could feasibly be having a conversation with your mates, and want to ask someone nearby their opinion, but in the daytime it comes across as less congruent. Direct openers work fantastically well on the street, e.g. "Excuse me, I just saw you walking past and thought you looked absolutely beautiful! I know this is really forward of me but I just had to say hello. How are you?" Direct Openers are also massively important for moving sets. Contrary to what most people think, it is ridiculously easy to stop moving sets (most of my sets are girls walking past me), you just need to be committed enough to your Direct Opener. When you open a moving set, stop, plant yourself right on the ground where you are and deliver the opener. Do NOT start moving as they are moving; wait for them to stop. If they don't stop, it will be creepy to follow them.

    3. Day Game involves a greater variety of venues than night game. These venues are mainly differentiated by the levels of Social Pressure they involve.

• You have the streets (my favorite), cafes, bookstores, art galleries, college campuses, etc. Every venue or situation is slightly different, so you will need to develop good social calibration so you don't creep girls out. The biggest factor to be aware of is Social Pressure. The more other people can listen to your interaction with a woman, the higher the Social Pressure will be, and the more potentially uncomfortable the girl will feel. In high social pressure situations, your job is three-fold. First, don't go too Direct, either open indirectly or tone down your Direct opener (e.g. "That's a lovely dress, how are you doing?"). Second, have a strong frame of feeling comfortable in the interaction. The strongest frame always wins: You feeling comfortable talking to her will make her relax. If you are nervous, she will start to feel uncomfortable. The truth is, feeling this comfortable only comes with time and practice. But remember, she can't see how you feel inside, only how you act on the outside. Third, make her laugh. If you can tease her or otherwise make her laugh within the first thirty seconds of the interaction, she will instantly relax - the interaction is then suddenly a fun bit of banter with a stranger instead of being accosted by some creepy guy on the subway.

    4. Super hot girls are MUCH easier to open in the daytime.

• You know how the super hot girls get hit on a lot in bars and clubs? There is one reason why: alcohol. It normally starts happening after everyone is liquored up. In the sober light of day (and without all their buddies to back up their testosterone levels), most guys are completely scared of the uber-hottie walking down the street. They will gawp at her, but God forbid they summon the stones to go up to her and say hello. Direct game works really well in the daytime with super hotties. You'll be surprised at how many of them will turn around to you and say, "Oh my God, that's so nice of you, no one has ever stopped me on the street to say that!"

    5. You can get into Comfort much more quickly in Day Game than night game.

• The fact that you have approached her in the daytime already demonstrates a lot of value; if you went Direct (good on ya!), then this is even more pronounced. Attraction building should happen in a matter of minutes. As soon as she's laughing and enjoying the interaction, stop thinking about attraction and start thinking about qualifying and building comfort. You'll need to escalate things as part of this. The easiest way to escalate the interaction on the street is to ask her which way she is headed, and suggest that you walk with her for a few minutes to chat. You can add in a, "I don't want to go dress shopping or anything like that with you though - that would be kinda gay - so I'll probably head off in a few minutes!" This works exactly like a false time constraint. You are reducing the pressure in the situation.

    6. Day Game approaches are often less expected by women and can take them by surprise.

• This is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, as mentioned above it causes guys to have more anxiety when daytime approaching, and they sometimes equate the surprise that girls will get with her being weirded out. On the other hand, because she is surprised, you have just spiked her emotions and therefore, if you run the interaction well, this turns into a massive positive for you. Not to mention the fact that very rarely do guys approach women on the street, so when you do approach her she will be more impressed and more likely to remember you positively (and therefore LESS likely to flake than a night game set). The best way to handle the surprise/shock factor she may experience (especially if you use a Direct opener) is to acknowledge the situation, e.g. "I know this is really forward of me... but I was going to regret it all day if I didn't stop you and say hello," or, "This is very bold of me, but I thought you looked absolutely stunning, and I don't believe in letting opportunities pass you by."

    7. It is harder to get a Same Day Lay than a Same Night Lay.

• The reason why this is true is because of logistics, not because of social conventions (which is what you might have expected). If your game is good enough, you can bend social conventions to your whim, but once you get good, the biggest problem you spend most of your time overcoming is logistics. The fact is, girls will tend to be more busy and in the middle of doing other things in the daytime, so often you will only be able to take a phone number, build some comfort, and then move on. However, this doesn't mean you shouldn't be on the lookout for Same Day Lays!!! In the ideal situation, you meet the girl and take her on a series of venue changes that end up back at your place. More commonly, there will be an "interrupt," where she has to go home to eat or meet friends, etc. In these cases you can still try to get her to come out to a party with you that night. Guys, you need to get out of the mentality that Day Game is just about taking phone numbers: You are trying to seduce these women, not just get their digits. Set up the instant date if you can (e.g. take her for a coffee, then a drink, then a walk, then your place), or arrange to meet her later that day if you can. As mentioned above though, this all depends on what else she has got going on that day. Welcome to the wonderful world of logistical management!

    8. You often have less time to demonstrate value to the girl than in night game.

• Some girls you open will be in a rush to get somewhere, just about to meet friends, or may not have the time or inclination to talk to a random (albeit fun and interesting) stranger in the middle of the day. Because you are not in a bar, chances are she is not going to see you talking to other people (i.e. no opportunity for social proof). In the daytime, therefore, you typically have a very small window of opportunity to make a good first impression: You must present yourself as well as humanly possible. Leave the house ready to meet women. Wear nice clothes, style your hair, and wear good shoes (don't wear your tatty trainers, homeboy). All of these things will encourage her to respond positively to you when you stop her in the middle of the street.

    9. Groups of women seem more difficult to approach even though they really are not.

• It is not true that you can't run Direct Game on groups of women, and it is not true that you can't open groups of women in the daytime. Your strategy with a group should be either to pull all of them to another venue with you (typically again, there will be an interrupt, but you can invite them somewhere later that night), or to open the girl you want, build some comfort with the whole group (so they approve of you and allow you to pick up the girl you want), and then start escalating with your chosen girl. Escalation in front of the group might be as simple as taking her number, finding out some stuff about her and qualifying her a little.

This of course is not everything there is to know about Day Game, but I've covered some of the most salient points here that I think a lot of people miss about this fine art.

The most important thing guys, is to take action. I have gone out with so many people who excel in night game, but choke in the daytime. You need to be willing to take action TODAY, not tomorrow, not the day after. Procrastination is the world's greatest sin. You will find that once you force yourself to open a few daytime sets, your skills and experience in other areas will rapidly transfer across. You must be willing to burst through that barrier.

Day Game for Newbies

Doing Day Game can be scary at first. Here are a few tasks to ease you into it if you're having trouble. These tasks are progressively harder, but will demonstrate to you that people are a lot friendlier and pleasant in the daytime than you might expect. Rather than complicate it with group sets at this point, start off with women who are by themselves.

• Ask 5 beautiful women, "Excuse me, do you know what the time is?"
• Ask 5 beautiful women, "Excuse me, do you know where the nearest coffee shop is?"
• Ask 5 beautiful women, "Excuse me, do you know where the nearest men's fashion store is?" [She replies]. "Oh thanks, I'm trying to get some new shirts. You're very well dressed, do you have any tips for me?"
• Tell 5 beautiful women, "Excuse, I just saw you walking past and I thought you were really cute, I had to stop and say hello. How are you?"

After you've completed these tasks, you are ready to move on to standard transitioning and attraction building etc.

Good luck fellas!

London Soul is a training instructor for Love Systems . Check out their flagship material Magic Bullets and the Routines Manual .