Note: Inside you'll learn attraction secrets I've kept under wraps until now. In my honest opinion, these skills are what separate a Jedi master at attracting women from average guys. So read this article very carefully.

We've all seen it before, my friend

A silver-tongued Casanova firing sound bite after sound bite at a shining example of female perfection. Each sound bite carefully crafted to induce cough-up-a-lung laughs.

Between the sound bites, he intersperses games and magic tricks tailor-made to suck her into his world by the eyeballs.

To the untrained eye, his game is on steroids: her generously sized melons jiggle with laughter, her heart-shaped lips form into a fuck-me pout, and her Lolita-esque eyes hold onto every word he utters.

But a few minutes later things start to stray off course

Giggles turn to silence and intrigue turns to boredom. In her eyeballs, two try-hard dancing monkeys reflected off him. His I'm-compensating-for-my-small-penis stench so foul she can feel it singe off the fine hairs inside her nose.

Her smile folds into the same grimace women make when a man unexpectedly sneaks his pecker into their poop chute.

So what went wrong?

If you've had some success in the single scene trenches you probably know exactly why things took a turn for the tragic.

Sprinkling your female interactions with interesting gambits, funny stories, jokes, and even magic tricks can pique womenís interest. Get your big toe in the door.

But

Bombarding a woman with entertainment without a letup reeks of a need for approval and attention.

Plus, it does nothing to fill her groin with lust.

So what puts the jumbo in a woman's mojo?

If you wanna move a female's intrigue from her eyeballs to her vajayjay, youíve gotta play hard-to-get. Not playing hard-to-get is like trying to drive a car without an engine.

Important: If you've ever struggled to play hard-to-get, it's imperative that you pay close attention to what Iím about to tell you

A cancerous belief causes most men to make at least one of three mistakes when playing hard-to-get (and there's a good chance this belief is stifling your potential success with women).

Before I divulge this belief to you, I wanna say a few words about these three mistakes.

Mistake # 1: Indifference Taken To The Extreme

Bars across the world abound with men oozing indifference. When in a social environment, they stand with their head tall, chin up, chest out, and lips contorted into a regal smirk.

But instead of taking the initiative and approaching women, they passively stand there and think to themselves: I'm the Prize, therefore, women will approach me.

They believe that putting themselves out there will sink their status from a noble prince to a groveling peasant.

While their ego may swell to the size of a hot air balloon, their down-below parts are destined for a lonely existence. Unless you happen to have rock star fame or sport model good looks, an I'm the Prize aura alone isn't gonna compel droves of women to jump your bones.

Mistake # 2: Trying To Get A Reaction Out Of A Woman

Oh boy. This brings me back to when I was first learning this stuff.

Years ago I believed, as long as my back faced the woman I was trying attract, I was playing hard-to-get.

Within a few minutes of meeting a woman, my torso revolved 180 degrees so my back faced her, my neck cranked my head towards her, and, like a puppy dog, my eyeballs eagerly awaited her reaction.

Did this work?

Sometimes.

But there was a problem: my body language telegraphed my throbbing desire to get a reaction out of women.

In women's eyes, I wasn't any less needy than a dancing monkey entertaining them into the wee hours of the morning.

Mistake # 3: Piquing A Womanís Interest & Then Walking Away & Desperately Awaiting Her To Reengage Him

You may be guilty of this one.

As for myself: if mistake # 3 were a sin, I'd have sinned more times than an Italian mob boss.

Here's how mistake # 3 usually plays out:

A guy makes a funny comment. The woman laughs and he walks away. Then he spends the rest of his night keeping his fingers crossed that sheís coming back.

His chances?

Unless he's really skilled, a whisker shy of 0, my friend.

If you're guilty of any of these mistakes, go here.

How To Play Hard-To-Get

The first step is having Prizability or value in the eyes of a woman.

You don't need to rope twenty gold chains around your neck, purchase a private jet, or levitate her martini.

In fact, less is more. A small chuckle. A dab of curiosity. A tiny whatever that glues her attention to you for a moment and makes her think "that's funny" or "that's interesting."

When she bites the bait, you'll feel the pressure to keep her on the hook. Resist the temptation to say something that holds her interest. This is where most men blow it. (More on this is a second.)

Instead, create a negative space.

Great artists and musicians know the importance of using negative space.

In Don Mackay's Spaces Between Moth the negative spaces between the moth reveal faces and arms and vice versa.

The jazz musician Miles Davis was a master at using negative space. The pregnant pauses scattered throughout his trumpet playing are almost hypnotic.

Hypnotists use negative space by pausing between their clauses to put their subjects into a progressively deeper trance.

Using negative space on women cranks up the sexual tension and pulls them into your reality.

Alas, using negative space frightens most men more than spiders frighten little girls.

This is probably because us guys are scared to death of a pregnant pause or an awkward silence. We worry that if we don't fill in every last smidgen of emptiness, women will stop liking us.

This fear of using negative space stems from the same cancerous belief that causes men to make the three hard-to-get mistakes. (We'll get to that in a second.)

To create negative space with a woman, you don't need to memorize any fancy lines. You don't need to walk away from her. In fact, your feet shouldnít move an inch.

All that's required is this

Once a woman sticks her canines into the proverbial bait, create a negative space by keeping your mouth zippered shut and moving your focus of attention away from her and onto something else.

If, for example, there's a person wearing a funny hat, two meatheads clamoring at one another, or a sexy vixen picking her nose, plaster your eyeballs on the freak show of your choice.

If you do this right, her heart will thud and throb and yearn for more time with you her bra will jut out a few extra inches to compete for your attention, her voice will fight to reengage you... and if she fails, like a bratty child, her needy hand might grab or punch your arm.

Let's break down what's going on inside that little noggin of hers.

First

By you creating a negative space, it gives her time to reflect on your value.

Have you ever had someone barrage you with stories, jokes, and their latest list of accomplishments?

Maybe bits and pieces of what they said perked up your ears and pulled your eyeballs a few millimeters out of their sockets.

But probably, all you remember is how try-hard they were.

On the flipside, if a person says something interesting and then shuts up, theyíve given you the negative space to contemplate how intriguing they are.

Second

You're utilizing a principle hypnotists call fractionation.

Hypnotists use fractionation by taking their subjects in and out of hypnotic states. Every successive time they put their subjects back into a hypnotic state, the subject goes exponentially deeper into trance.

Similarly, if you say something funny to a woman, withdraw your attention from her by putting it onto something else, and then say something much less funny, she'll laugh three times as hard.

Third

By averting your attention away from her, she feels that she's losing your interest.

This is confusing yet sexually titillating for her. For her entire adult life, whenever she shows interest in a man, he takes the opportunity by the boobies and works like mule to win her over.

But you've inverted her reality: while you've piqued her interest, she feels that she's failed to pique yours.

This whole experience builds sexual tension in her by creating tension loops. These tension loops emotionally drive her to seduce you.

When tension is sparked in a person, the mind seeks for release of that tension. Good movies keep us on the edge of our seat by exploiting this principle. The movie begins by introducing conflict or drama. This sparks tension in us. Our mind seeks release of this tension by some kind of resolution to the conflict or drama.

Using negative space creates two types of tension loops.

The first one is a need for your validation.

You've piqued her interest, giving her time to reflect on your value, and demonstrated your lack of interest in her. This sparks sexual tension by creating a need for your attention and approval. The only way she can release this tension is by proactively working for your attention.

The second one is a need to get back the good feelings you took away from her.

Putting her in a positive emotional state and then taking it away sparks sexual tension by creating a need to get those good feelings back. The only way she can discharge this tension is to step up to the plate and engage you in conversation.

Big warning: Earlier I mentioned a cancerous belief that cripples your chances at making this work. That's the belief that your value is below the women you desire.

If this diabolical thought virus infects your brain, you must supersede it with the belief that youíre the Prize.

You cannot fake believing you're the Prize. If you still believe women possess a higher value than you, you'll unconsciously communicate it to them in your body language and tone of voice. Without even knowing it, youíll commit at least one of the three mistakes to playing hard-to-get.

You may think you have the Iím the Prize belief harnessed to your brain.

But I gotta be honest with you...

Buckets full of men think they possess the Iím the Prize belief. As they jabber on about their female conquests, Iím-the-Prize confidence exudes out of every pore.

But as soon as they're plunged into interacting with an attractive woman, a paralyzing fear moves through their body and they think: Oh no the woman's value is higher than mine.

The trick to figuring out if you're the proud owner of the I'm the Prize belief is paying attention to what you think, feel, and do when youíre interacting with women.

What should I do if I don't have the I'm the Prize belief?

Good question.

Before you go out to meet women, I want you to rehearse the following affirmations.

1). I'm the Prize.

2). Women are trying to win me over

3). They want me so bad they are trying to get me to sleep with them.

4). I'll only sleep with them if they live up to my standards and expectations.

You don't need to bellow so loud your neighbors can hear you. (Do that and they may have the authorities lock you up in a padded room.) Saying them in your head will suffice. Say each one ten times.

Next, find a quiet place and close your eyes. Imagine the kind of woman you'd like to attract. Imagine her thinking you're a Prize she wants to win over. Visualize her trying to get you to sleep with her. Think of all things she'd be thinking, feeling, and doing.

These exercises tattoo the belief I'm the Prize into your subconscious mind.

The more you rehearse and practice these exercises before you go out, the stronger your I'm the Prize belief becomes.

Combining a strong belief that youíre the Prize with the use of negative space has an almost magical affect on women: they'll feel magnetically drawn to seduce you.

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How many guys on here have been doing approaches for awhile but aren’t getting laid like they should be? It reminds me of when back in the day I could go out and run 10 tight sets in a club – go home feeling all happy but then realise I didn’t actually pull.

Often this actually comes down to not wanting to risk the positive social feedback your getting and wanting to make a move. The problem with this is that in every social interaction a girl will want to know if you are for real or not. It could be a shit test – she says something to you that makes you uncomfortable and she realises that her saying something ridiculous to you meant way too much to you so she doesn’t feel attracted to you anymore. It could be she pauses for a second and looks into your eyes dead on – just to see if you really are for real. Lots of guys will have giveaway signs that they feel the pressure – so again the girls subconscious realises it matters too much to you and she loses attraction. My solution – which I’ve discussed previously is to make it into a challenge. Just like doing a 30 day challenge or a call all your numbers every day for 2 hours challenge.

So I suggest the following to anyone who can relate to this situation right now. Go out every night for a couple of weeks and ask for the phone number of the girl your talking to REGARDLESS OF WHETHER YOU THINK SHE LIKES YOU OR NOT – just to realise it is completely insignificant asking for a phone number and definitely not something you should invest time in worrying about. Call all of these girls MULTIPLE TIMES – leave messages and follow up on every girl to get over the fear of using a telephone and actually calling a girl (side note – a lot of guys will use text because they are scared of getting bad social feedback over the phone – if you notice this is happening to you call them – just to get over the fear of it). Being scared to call a girl up is ridiculous – yet I can’t remember the amount of times my heart was in my mouth just before I would call some girl I had just met. Try and MAKE OUT with and/or TAKE HOME every girl you talk to for a couple of weeks. Now I realise that long term you want to be coming from a more selective view point – but if there is any fear or hesitation with escalating with women its a great idea to do a short exercise like this for a couple of weeks to burn through this. You don’t have to be this person forever – but if your not a sexual guy in the way you communicate then you can’t suddenly expect to pounce on women after an hour of not touching them and expect not to creep them out.

Use the rule ‘IF YOU ARE TALKING YOU ARE TOUCHING – just to get comfortable touching women. If you scared to touch a girl – then obviously this discomfort is only going to become more apparent when you try and escalate further – so rather than learn a new gimmick to make a girl kiss you tackle it head on and realise it is ridiculous worrying about it. You can actually use this approach for any aspect of your game that you have any fear attached to. Just go out for a couple of weeks and repetitively target that issue until it becomes a non-issue any longer. Now when I did challenges like this a few years back guys would ask me ‘but did you actually ask for a girls number when she did appear to like you?’ and I did. Then they would say ‘did you really try and make out with girls after 30 seconds reagrdless of the social feedback you were getting’ and I did too. The thing I realised is that these fears we hold on to are ridiculous. Being scared to kiss a girl? I can’t even relate to a question like that any more but there was a time when I was the chode in a club who was scared to approach or try and kiss a girl. I remember so many cool social guys I have seen on RSD bootcamps that we have literally blasted away this fear attached to escalating with women and they can laid like a rock star. They already had big social circles and lots of people that liked them so just adding a touch of physcial dominance and letting them see it was ok to escalate on girls (and they actually like it – oftrn we would sit there and see girls crying for guys to make out with them and the disappointed looks on their faces when they don’t) was all it took for them to realise how much of pimp they are. The epiphany for them was not approaching a girl and just putting their personalities on the line – they could already do that to an extent but actualy realising what difference it made to actually lead interactions, touch girls and realise they liked it etc. If this sounds like you – cool social guy but not quite getting laid as much as you would like then man up – start pulling the trigger!

Bish

When I was a kid, I remember how teasing the girls at school was a very common thing to do. Almost all the boys would tease the girls, and the girls seemed to enjoy it. Overtime though, as I grew older I began to stop teasing girls cause I though it was a childish thing to do. Instead I tried to act more serious so I would look “cool”. BIG MISTAKE!

Some years later I realized that all the guys that were always successful with women, and continued to be successful with women had one interesting thing in common… They never stopped teasing the girls. It was the same kind of playful teasing that I remembered from when I was young, and the same girls still seemed to enjoy it 20 years later. It is a certain kind of teasing that builds comfort and attraction. So how should you tease women? I though you’d never ask…

How to Tease Women

Well guy’s, it ain’t rocket science that’s for sure! Simply watch kids in action and you will be able to pick up more than a few great teasing techniques you can use with women. A few simple teasing techniques I like to use with women are:

1) I like to call women punks or brats after they say or do certain things.

2) If a woman tries to kiss me or touch me I might quickly move away and say something like “ewww cooties!”

3) If I am eating out with a woman and she tastes something from my plate, or if any other opportunity of such sort comes up, I immediately call her a FATT ASSS (note: make sure the woman you are saying this to has a pretty nice body and is not actually fat).

Ben Ezra

I realized that each interaction with a woman had 8 or less crucial parts. And to be successful at meeting, dating, and sleeping with women, you had to become a master of all 8 parts.

So what are the 8 phases?

1) The Approach – Being able to walk up to a woman, or approach a woman in a confident, charming way that will immediately set you apart from 99% of all the other men in the world.

2) The Chitchat – To be able to immediately and smoothly transition from approaching the woman to opening a conversation that will subconsciously and consciously build her comfort level and attraction level towards you in just a few seconds or minutes.

3) Closing the Sale – Mastering the art of building a link with a woman in the shortest amount of time possible. This may include getting her phone number, getting her email, having her call you, setting up a meeting on the spot, or moving straight to the bed phase etc… True masters of pick up can already build enough comfort and attraction to have sex with a woman by this phase (meaning they can immediately advance from phase 3 to phase 7 or 8 within moments).

4) The Phone Call – The ability to use a phone as a tool to set a date or meeting with a woman under 1-2 minutes in a way that will continue to build enough comfort and attraction so that you can be sure that they will actually show up or follow through. Too many women end up breaking dates because of men who do not properly know how to go about this phase.

5) The Date – A period of time that will allow you to showcase your personality and skills while dramatically building her comfort level and attraction level in a 1-on-1 environment. In this phase, you will have to decide where you will take her, what you will do, how long you’re going to do it for, along with many more important factors that should be considered. This phase is usually the “make or break” phase for most men.

6) The Home – The technique of transitioning from the date to the “home” (or any other place you decide to take her in preparation for phase 8 – The Bed, aka the sex phase). This phase may or may not involve some strategic planning to take place.

7) The Kiss – Being able to make a woman melt in your arms and get her so turned on that she will begin to beg. Building anticipation is one of the keys to this phase, along with continuing to build comfort and attraction. There are secrets you must learn to become a master of this phase. Women find it a big turnoff when a guy does not know how to properly kiss.

8) The Bed – The ability to be bold and make your move when the timing is just right. Everything leads up to this phase. Her comfort and attraction levels are about to reach a peak as long as you continue to do the right things from here on. That is it in a nutshell…

If you can master each of those phases, meeting, attracting, dating, and having sex with women will be a walk in the park for you. It will become so easy that you won’t even have to think about what you’re doing anymore.

It will become automatic – like a habit, trust me… All you have to do is just keep on following those phases over and over again every time you meet a new woman!

Ben Ezra

Let me ask you something…My friend had a difficult situation on Valentines Day. He basically planned to take his girlfriend for an amazing dinner, but a few days before she said she had to work. That was fine, they had a great day the day before. But, on Valentines day, he remembered he needed to cancel the table, but while his girl was at work, he had a thought. He had a friend who was single, and she was his good friend, he thought it would be a really kind thing to do to take her since she had just split up with her boyfriend and was feeling down. He tried to call his girl but she was at work and didn’t answer. He went ahead and went to dinner with this girl, when his girlfriend came home from work, she went mad! They almost split up and still might. We were talking about it and disagreed on whether he was wrong or not, what do you think?” >

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The question to ask yourself is… Are you a victim of Premature Ejectulation?

What I am reffering to is leaving a set prematurely because you “feel” you have been blown out.

I have witnessed a wide range of students now some of them pretty well known amongst the community who will quite happily open a set, get them hooked, and run a decent number of routines generating a great deal of IOI’s and then eject, actually saying goodbye.

A key point here is that this should not be confused with capture – recapture. Wherebye you leave the set on a high note at the begining of the night, with a time bridge stating you will probably see them around later on, and maybe they owe you a dance/drink whatever. Just so they don’t feel trapped by you early on in the night.

I am talking about having a set hooked late into the evening, and leaving the set for a number of reasons which may seem valid in your head at the time, however upon further inspection you can see that it would have made more sense to stay in set.

The common reasons I have heard are as follows;

a) Run out of things to say b) I was about to get blown out c) It wasn’t going anywhere d) I don’t know why I did it

Each of these reasons are an assumption based on the ideas of the PUA in question and not the girls in set.

a) If you have run out of things to say, go quiet for a while… but stay in set. I have field tested this and it is amazing how long you can just sit there not saying anything without getting blown out. Try it yourself Catnap did a great game that illustrates this on my first ever meeting with the community where you ask a question and just freeze. The key point is that people are generally too polite to tell you to go away. So as long as when you do eventually speak you say something worth while you just look like you are enjoying the company.

b) How do you know this? if she will blow you out… let her do it. One of my natural friends once asked me if I had ever told the secret to attraction. I asked him what he meant and he said PERSISTANCE! Thinking back alot of the girls I have gone out with in the past before I got into game, I got by being persistant. Persistance can almost only ever exist with confidence. The more you persist the stronger your inner game can appear as long as you don’t get too freaky… Stalker stylee.

c) Again see point b above. The only way you will know is to try it out. We almost always only learn from negative experiences. The more you fail the better you become.

d) Again it is highly likely to be a reason from above, or something similar. The only exception i can think of would be a lack of attraction on your part, in which case fair enough. Why sarge a girl you don’t like.

So think about it next time you are in set, a little bit of practice and living in that uncomfortable zone and you to can put an end to Premature Ejectulation!

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Adam Lyons

For those of you who have been in the game for a while now, you will probably have developed your own style of play.

Whether you are following one of the more mainstream methods, or have developed your own sense of game the fact is typically we have a sense of sameness to our approach.

E.g. some PUA’s favour a more direct style, others prefere to use some form of dance game, whereas others may still use Routines, or Cocky funny spur of the momment lines. Whatever your style, there is one thing that does apply to many PUA’s esspecially those in areas populated with a strong community, sometimes you can’t avoid sarging in the same venue as other PUA’s.

You may have a different style to the other PUA’s in the area, but the fact is you are competeing with other PUA’s. Now I understand that some people are fortunate enough to be in areas where there are few PUA’s and so this wouldn’t really apply to them. However, having said this almost every area wil still have naturals, which can sometimes be as bad as their proffesional PUA counterparts.

The metagame is something that was first used in Mathematics as a descriptor for set interaction that governs subset interaction in certain cases. The term was then taken and passed through military and then political actions to describe actions or events that where outside the bounds of a normal situation. I suppose it could be described in Layman’s terms as “thinking outside the box” Though it’s apllications are much more specific than that.

A good example of metagaming could be one found in politics where a law was passed to placate a specific media sensation. The actual effect of that law however, may be used to further another cause. In this situation “the game” would be the passing of the law, but the metagame would be the bigger picture into which the passing of the law fits. For example; using the terroist act to enable police greater powers to invade privacy. (an extreme example, but it makes the point)

The idea is that you are playing to the bigger picture, you have a clearly defined set of goals, and will tailor your gameplay to acheiving that aim, typically by refining your standard set of decisions by using additional information, in order to acheive your goal.

For a simpler “game” related example we can use chess. (yes I know that wasn’t the game you had in mind) In chess there is a special set of 4 moves that can ensure you win the game. If you notice your opponent has used these same four moves in his last 6 matches in order to win, you could use this additional information in order to secure the victory by assuming he would continue to use them, and playing in such a way that they would not work.

SO how does this all relate to game? Well the fact is there are some PUA’s that flourish in an environment rich with other PUA’s and naturals, and those that see those venues as something to be avoided. Naturally everyone would prefere to work in a venue full of nothing but Hot Babes, but the fact is sometimes you just have to battle it out.

This is where it’s time to use the metagame.

You will not always be fortunate enough to have opened the hottest girl in the room first, which means that typically she will have been approached by a number of guys before you. If there are a number of PUA’s in the venue, or even some pretty decent naturals what will set you apart from them? If three other guys have used the “jealous girlfriend” opinion opener or made some form of C+F remark about something she is doing or wearing how will you be able to ensure you stand out?

It’s time to fight dirty. Remember the metagame is not a friendly way of playing. It involves using all necessary information in order to acheive the goal of getting the girl you want. Do Not use this on wings, friends or anyone else you care about. The fact is generally it should be Bro’s before Ho’s and that is something to consider carefully before using any of the techniques described below. You have been warned.

The metagame is big, really big. There is no-way I could mention every single possible eventuality as each style of metagame will have a metagame to counter it for an infinate number of eventualities. What you are looking to acheive is a mindset where you will be able to calibrate your game to take into account the wider game being played in the room.

You aren’t looking at a set as a group of HB’s, you are looking at the room and seeking the best plan of attack based on as much of the room as possible.

Lets look at this from a social Proof point of view. My personal favourite.

Imagine a 2 set of SHB’s (Super hot babes) being opened by absolutely every guy in the room. The guys, are naturals and just go in sharking or PUA’s obeying the 3second rule, they approach hit a bitch sheild and get blown out. (I’ll cover what happens if they don’t later) Opinion openers have already been used, and the girls “just want to be left alone” How can we break in?

Well we take a look at the bigger picture. This is a simple form of metagame that most of the community are well aware of, by simply opening a set to the side of the group we wish to approach we can then bounce from that group into the 2 set. By not going completely direct it doesn’t appear to be a pickup but rather a very normal form of conversation.

e.g.

You open a mixed set next to the SHB’s and get talking to them, vybe with the group, showing the room that you are adding value to the group, pretty soon into the conversation you can go around and introduce yourself to everyone in the group then literally continue introducing yourself into the 2 set, there’ll be a momment of awkwardness as they explain they aren’t part of the same group, Which you can then laugh at with them, and then continue introducing yourself to them anyway.

Nothing particularly new there, and obviously there are a million other ways to bridge sets, but the point is you looked at the room as a means of opening the set rather than working out which opener would work best.

This is the metagame at it’s simplest form, a way of dealing with average PUA’s and naturals, but what happens if the PUA didn’t get blown out of the set?

What if the natural was doing well?

Then we have to AMOG right? Go in and be friendly to the guy? Then we are looking at a situation where it is possibly PUA Vs PUA a true test of who has the best game? However that may not be a completely fair fight. What if they do have more skill than you? More routines? Maybe they can perform real magic and card tricks. What then?!

We need another way of playing something that will knock them down before they have even started. Lets look at how the metagame would deal with this. Well we understand from the community there are core principles that govern attraction.

These are;

Comfort Attraction Seduction

Managing these is a key part of secruing the girl. What if we messed with the other PUA’s game by altering one of these without them knowing?

Lets take the above example of the 2 SHB’s. Lets say the Natural/Pua didn’t get blown out.

As before we build up social proof by opening the same mixed set, (though in fairness we wouldn’t need to. Though why not swing things as much in our favour as possible?) Then we can lean over to the 2 SHB’s and casually remark;

“Hey looks like you’ve pulled there.”

I have used this countless times and will almost always receive the same response.

SHB: “I’m sorry what?”

Then all you do is simply explain what you said.

“The dude there, It looks like you’ve tagged yourself a new boyfriend”

Now what you have done is completely mess with his game, by making him appear completely available. Essentaily you have made him gain so much comfort with her, ideally at a point so early into the interaction that she will see the pick up for what it is, and then either blow him out, or store him in her pocket and continue looking for better options in the room.

Either way you’ve just opened the SHB in a very warm way and can begin trading knowing glances or “girl signals” with her as she continues to get picked up. Which will make her incredibly receptive to your future advances.

Remember there is a chance you may miscalibrate. The metagame isn’t 100% perfect, then again no form of game is. If it turns out that the guy is actually her brother then you could come out looking slightly worse. In which case all you will have to do is re-frame the situation.

The fact is these occurances are few and far between and hardly warrant avoiding the chance to use solid metagame.

As you can see all we are doing is using the knowledge we have of the game to affect the other guys chances by miscalibrating him.

This could also be done by altering any of the other factors in his game. For example if a guy was trying to isolate a girl and close, you could ruin his chances by destroying the mood joining the two of them. However that wouldn’t necessarily paint you in the best light, and may appear like you where trying so hard. You wouldn’t be using the knowledge you would be AMOGing.

However we are aware that her friends would be willing to cockblock if they felt the need. So by befriending the group you could show genuine worry as to “where their friend was, esspecially as you saw the guy earlier flirting with another girl and getting pretty friendly with her in the quiet area at the back of the bar where he just took her friend.”

As Mentioned earlier these aren’t techniques to be used lightly, they are deliberate and cutting, designed to ensure that the goal is acheived, based on the bigger picture, and definately not to be used on a wing or anyone you care about. However using them on a natural is most definately reccomended. Remember most guys that go out to a bar and chat to girls are trying to pull. They may not have the same knowledge of game as us and therefore the Metagame is even more deadly, as they won’t understand what is going wrong.

You can modify your game by using your knowledge of attraction and social interactions to acheive your goal. Whereas they will be left floundering. Even other PUA’s who do not understand or use the metagame will struggle to understand what is going wrong with their sets.

Lets take something as simple as opening.

In a particular venue if you are aware that a guy is opening a large number of sets, to build social proof for example. You can tailor your game and opening to use that as a means to hook the set. Simply wait for the guy to leave the set and move onto the next one, then move straight into the set he was previously in and open with a simple observationary statement.

“Hey did you see that guy that just spoke to you? He’s going around chatting to every girl in the room, weird eh?”

You can then sit with them and watch his behaviour with the girls, maybe even using your knowledge of game to explain what is going on. They are likely to be completey fascinated with the whole process of attraction, esspecially if you tell them when he is about to get blown out or eject before he does.

Using knowledge of game to talk to girls is something alot of people would completely avoid for fear of appearing weird, or giving the game away, however most girls spend alot of time reading about attraction and relationships in magazines. It’s likely to be one of their favourite topics, and something you are likely to have alot of knowledge about. By telling them you have a healthy interest in social behaviour and read up on it in your spare time, you will have more than enough justification to speak to them about attraction, also if someone opens them while you are in set, you cna have an in joke with the girls as to their behaviour. Again using the metagame to alter the chances of the other guy.

Essentially the metagame is fluid, it is used to adapt to every situation presented to you, utilising the information you have at your disposal and looking at the bigger picture to help acheive your goal. In fact, with solid metagame you should find yourself flourishing in Male rich environments as the only guy that stands out, even if they are all PUA’s. Because while 20 guys will be approaching with Opinion openers, you’ll be approaching asking why people are going around asking for everyone else’s opinion.

If used correctly you should be able to ensure that you can tailor your metagame to deal with a variety of situations where normal game would struggle and help you stand out in a crowd of naturals and PUA’s.

Adam Lyons

Ok We are all aware of the phrase. “Getting lucky”… well; Luck = Preparation Meeting Opportunity.

Well last night I made a decision that made me realise just how much that statement shouldn’t apply to us.

The phrase getting lucky implies that we have no control over the results… or little control at least. So the essence of game should remove this, right?

A good friend of mine described luck as preparation meeting opportunity. You can’t capitalise on a “break” if you aren’t ready for it.

e.g. HB comes over to sit with you (giving you proximity) yet your fear of approach stops you from talking to her. If you were prepared and had practiced you would be able to start the conversation after recognising the IOI and get the girl…

However this runs deeper. How many of you have been in the game for a while, yet still go home empty handed… are you missing something… Something other than IOI’s or conversation hooks.

Are you prepared to get laid?

Last night I took my brand new vespa (Which I love) to China whites nightclub. However… I took a spare helmet. Why? This was a conscious choice I made before going to the club. I knew that If i didn’t bring a spare helmet I couldn’t take a girl home. I would have allowed myself to fail. I realised that subconsciously I was weighing up the decision to carry it.

A part of my mind was actually convincing me to leave it at home as it “would be hassle to carry” Though on analysis I realised actually it was a form of AA. I was allowing myself to fail to get an F-close. So that if I did well in a set and wasn’t sure if I could get her home, I could always say to myself. “no point going to get her home, you only have one helmet”

So I made the decision and took it with me.

I played in the club, Chinas on a wednesday is kinda one of my haunts. Bumped into the PUA training crowd, said hi but didn’t really mingle with them as I wanted to do some lone stuff. So I moved from table to table mingling with the groups of girls I am on pretty good terms with. The key for me here was to build up masses of social proof without my own table. So I was using contacts to get introduced to others.

Anyway. It ended with me chatting to one portugese girl. As we go to leave the club she spots my second helmet.

HB: hey you didn’t tell me you had two helmets, you can ride me home. AFC AdamLondon: Oh man… I can’t be arsed. HB:Oh come on… we’ve danced and chatted all night it’s the proper thing to do. AFC AdamLondon: Oh man I really don’t want to HB: Come on you’re taking me home. AFC AdamLondon: Where do you live? HB: White City AFC AdamLondon: Oh no man that really is far. Seriously I don’t want to. Another night. HB: Come on… Show me your bike, be a gentleman AFC AdamLondon: Ok babe… fair enough I’ll take you…

So now I ask you… Stop reading.. Who’s frame is this? Am I in hers? Or is she in mine? (mwahahahahahaha)

So we get on my bike, she negs me for poor driving, I tell her she’s wrong and that she is drunk and so thinks the road is swerving.

And we ride…

To my house!

(Shocked)

HB: Where are we? AFC AdamLondon: My house. HB: Why? AFC AdamLondon: I’m tired HB: I thought you were taking me home. AFC AdamLondon: I am…. AFC AdamLondon: In the morning. I need mysleep first.

In we go, we get to bed, we cuddle … we don’t sleep.. We kiss… We F-Close.

Now the key here is that I couldn’t have done it if I had allowed myself to fail by not bringing the helmet. (Which ultimately got me the lay)

So beware… Be prepared. Have condoms, plan to come home with someone, and you will increase the chances of it happening if you do.

There are a lot of community guys I know that don’t prepare, they aren’t sure where or how they will take a girl home to F-Close her.

Plan yours.

How will you close them? Where?

Are you ready for success?

Adam Lyons

What makes me write this is that I think the community needs to get over it love of opening. Too, too often I get emails from guy saying things like ‘I beat my all time record and opened 1000 sets in a month’ and that’ll be the end of his story. So I’d ask him ‘oh yeah, and how did they go? How many closes did you get?’ and he’d be like ‘blah blah blah, not very many’. That’s exactly what I mean: the community is just obsessed with opening and delivering when it should be focused on closing.

Another example that just springs to mine: I remember talking to this guy the morning after a night on a boot camp and asked him what his favourite moment was. He said it was this opener he thought up on the spot ‘who lies more, geese or chickens?’ which is a funny opener and what should have followed it with is a story about how he was screwing the girl in the bathroom 5 minutes later.

Look, forget opening, what the community needs to be concerned with is closing: getting results. Anyone can open, all you need to do is walk up to someone and pester them with your line. Opening requires balls, sure, but it doesn’t require anything more. If you want to prove you have balls there are lots of other ways you can do it: take up boxing for example. In the community we don’t want to demonstrate bravado, we want to get laid, so let’s talk about closing!

Okay, logistics. 9 times out of 10, the reason you’re not able to take the girl home and sleep with her is logistics. We need to be real about this, logistics are a problem. One guy I spoke too said he had real problems getting laid and this puzzled me because he had great game, so I asked him about his logistics. He had his own place, it was big, it was clean, he had a car and could drive there so I’m really struggling to work out what’s the problem, so I ask ‘is there anything you haven’t told me about your place?’ ‘yes, it’s 2 and a half hours away’ boom, that was it right there. He was thinking that if he had tight enough game she would agree to come back with him after a night out. Sure, if he’d been gaming her for a month, maybe. The idea that logistics aren’t an excuse isn’t true: logistics a real problem so get them sorted. Good logistics won’t get you laid, but bad logistics will stop you getting laid.

Setting up your House for Sex

Here’s an idea for you. One thing I would do is prepare my house for sex before I went out. I’d get everything ready for bringing a girl home. That way, when I didn’t bring a girl home I’d feel like an idiot. So I tried harder to bring one back with me. One way I would do it is to set up the lighting: I’d have the first room of my house really light and it would get darker and darker towards my bedroom, which would be dark, mood-lit and ready for sex. If the whole house had been mood-lit then the first thing the girl would do would switch the lights on when she walked in and kill the vibe, but this way I could sneak her into a seductive environment.

Remember, you don’t want it to be easy to take a girl home. You do want her to object and question what you’re doing. Why? Because if she’s making it easy for you, then she’s probably not the first person she’s made it easy for and STDs are very contagious. So just beware.

To bring about the close you have to take control. If you’re not leading it’s not going to happen. Not only is the ability to lead an alpha characteristic which is, in itself, attractive, but to escalate the interaction you have to be taking charge. To do this you want to avoid giving her real decisions. Either you want to give her false choices or no choice at all. So instead of asking a girl is she wants a drink, ask her what her favourite drink is and then say ‘oh, I’m going to go and get a drink, come with me and we’ll get yours’ or something. Asking what her favourite drink has assumed that you’ve bypassed the ‘would you like a drink’ phase. Equally instead of being ‘would you like to come back to mine for food’ I’ll say ‘pancakes or waffles?’ and then say, whichever she chooses, that I make the best ones. Then it’s easy to say ‘you don’t believe me? Okay, I’ll show you’. Give reasons for everything you do, they don’t even need to be good reasons, or real reasons, or possible reasons. You just need to give the girl a rationalisation.

People always ask me what’s my best line and when they ask me I know they mean ‘what’s your best opener?’ but my best line isn’t an opener. My best ever line is ‘just trust me, it’ll be fine’. Anytime a girl objects you can just tell her that and you’re taking responsibility so it’s all on you. She doesn’t need to worry because you’re reassuring her and she’s not making a choice anyway.

I could go on but that is, basically, closing. Until next time

Adam Lyons

In the community you always here guys talking about their successes and their best moments, so much so that some PUAs are known as ‘that guy’ who did this one particularly spectacular pickup. What you don’t here people talking about are their failures although failures are what you really learn by. One particular failure was instrumental in my game and in my understanding of this topic in particular.

I was just starting teaching and the student I was with pushed me into a 15-set of 10s. At this stage I didn’t even game 9s but he put me up to the challenge and so I did it. I think I tried some lame ‘who lies more’ line and got totally blown out. I went back to my student and refused to admit I had failed so I went over and tried again. Yet again it was some stupid Mystery method line and I failed. I turned to look for my student and saw he was in-set with the very same 10s! He had just said ‘hi’ whilst I was trying my dumb openers. So I said to the girls ‘look, I teach guys about confidence and approaching women and I have literally no idea how to pick you guys up because you’re too hot. Can I just chill with you and see how other guys do it?’ So I sat down and joined them.

Next thing 5 other super-hot girls turn up and join the 15 (they were all models over from LA or something). I didn’t open any of them but they all came over, introduced themselves, opened me and gave me a kiss on the lips! I just didn’t understand why this happened for ages afterwards but eventually I figured it out. Think how it looks to them. They are socially savvy girls and they see me, someone they don’t know, as the only guy hanging out with all these other super-hot girls and must have thought I was someone pretty important – I could have been a model agent, a photographer, a celebrity they didn’t know, a rich guy – and they didn’t want to mistakenly treat me for someone insignificant. Later that night I made out with one of the 5 and a week later I f-closed her.

What is Frame Control?

So what is frame? Frame is your perception of an event. What is frame control? It is the ability to influence someone else understanding of an event. What you’re attempting to do in any situation is create frame resonance: where your perception and her perception are the same.

Frame resonance is a very powerful thing and their and 4 different ways to achieve it.

The first one is frame bridging. It’s called a frame bridge because it has a logistical problem that names to be solved so that two frames can connect. An example is you liking a girl, a girl liking you but her being the designated driver than needs to take her friends home. Now most PUAs would see this as a shit test and punish her, but actually the whole problem is solved by a £40 taxi fare to get all her friends home. Traditional game teaching you to see logistical issues are shit-test but you need to see things for what they are. In this case, it’s just logistics so stop crying about frames and just go fix it. As an aside: there are no ‘shit tests’ they are just objections. She’s not testing your manliness, she’s genuinely not convinced.

The second one is frame amplification. This is where you spread your frame around hers. Let’s say you ask a girl what her favourite position is and she says that she doesn’t have sex with someone unless there’s a bond. You think it’s a shit test so you could punish her or you could frame amplify. Instead you say ‘of course you have to have a bond with someone to have sex. So if you have a bond with them, what’s your favourite sexual position?’ You’ve simply increased your world to encompass hers.

Next is a frame extension. Here you add to what you said before to create resonance and build rapport. Let’s say you’re telling some girl you love scuba diving and rock climbing and she responds by saying ‘wow, I only go out clubbing’. Ordinarily you’d lose resonance because the activities seem so different. However you follow it up by saying ‘yeah, that’s what I mean, going out, doing stuff, having an active lifestyle. I do clubbing too as well as the rock climbing etc.’ And now you’ve extended your frame so that it meets hers and rapport is strengthened.

Last is my favourite: frame transformation. This is when what you’re thinking and what she’s thinking are so far apart that you can’t get to it. You’re in fundamental disagreement and there’s no way you’re going to be able to achieve resonance. I’ll give an example but the way to do it is to find a point in the future where your two frames could possibly meet and bring that scenario to the present. Okay, let’s say the girl sees you as a confidence alpha-male who all the women love and, as a result, thinks ‘this guy is trouble, I’m not touching him’. So you transform the frame and agree with her: ‘yeah, I know, it’s awful being seen as the alpha-male surrounded by pretty girls because no one takes you seriously. I’m looking forward to finding one girl who will see past all of the bullshit and really understand for who I am.’ Suddenly the whole situation is changed and you’re the guy who just wants love rather than the sexually conquering player.

What really makes the top PUAs stand out is frame control. I know this because I’ve taught it to most of them and they consistently tell me it changes, dramatically, and for the better, all of their game.

Adam Lyons

What is attraction? What makes it work?

Remember the days in school we used to watch the cute girls, the girls we spent lonely nights dreaming of, being with the bully’s and jerks of the school. Wondering why, why, why, they’d hang with them. Why they’d want to be with them after been treated badly, get teased and treated like nothing, these guys were so disinterested in them. I remember sitting in class and constantly thinking if I was that guy or if she was with me, I’d appreciate her, I’ve got so much to offer her.

But we just felt it was not in us. Not a part of your make up to treat women like that. You’d watch in awe and accept that some have it and some don’t. We did not realise we could actually do something about it, we had this mindset because; we just saw the external parts of the interaction between this type of guy and gorgeous girls, not the internal aspects, seeing the cogs move, not understanding the principles of the attraction. What triggers this need and want in a female.

Breaking these certain aspects down, teaches us something. And will flip the script for us forever and never live in fear of women again or a relationship ever again. You will never be lost or not know what to do. These 3 aspects of the interaction are the bedrock of the whole relationship, follow this blue print and allay all your fears, the hard work has been done for you, here are the guidelines to stick by.

WANT

Everyone of us, every single person breathing needs and wants things. We don’t feel the real want or desire for anything, until we get it pulled away from us, yanked out from under us, or when we realise we can’t have it anymore.

What makes yesterday good and today bad? Yesterday was only good because today is not as much. This theory applies especially with girls and how they perceive a potential partner. They want something they can’t have anymore.

The takeaway and realization that they can’t have you, creates a vacuum of thought and investment. Thus sparking attraction, this makes you want something more and makes you have to have it. Being temporarily unavailable is magic in getting and generating interest and investment by women. Once a woman invests in you, thinks about you. Half the job is done.

They will believe they need you and they will work for you and strive to get you, this will generate more investment and they will eventually believe they are in love with you

UNPREDICTABLE

If you watched the same movie every night for the rest of your life you’d hate it, find it boring and never want to watch it, you’d resent it and find reasons not to watch it. A relationship with any girl follows the same concept. If you were predictable and boring, why on earth would they want to see you?

Not knowing what to expect is exciting, alluring, scarily addictive and undeniably attractive. People who go through there lives like zombies, day after day doing the same mundane thing, following the same routine are boring people, and they are not interesting and are not captivating they are value seeking people and do not add anything to anyone. This leads to being unattractive.

In case you were wondering, this is not good. Woman want stability in a relationship, but not in there partners personality. They want to be captivated. People we can’t read or pin down, captivate us, they bring us into their world.

Once a girl has entered your world, then she will need you, she will be falling deeply and longing for you when you are not around, because she wants to be around you, to see what happens next.

This is because you are exciting and unpredictable and are making her life exciting and you are adding value to it.

BREAKING THE COMFORT

all women do not know what they want, they are emotional creatures and will never be logical, they will never think logically, and will never be understood. We mustn’t try to understand just know how to deal with it.

If you have a girl you want to date, don’t dare tell her! As wrong as it seems, just be counter intuitive.

She wants excitement and to chase for you, women love to chase. A women loves dreaming and working for things in life. They want to work for the comfort you’ve built up with them, give them a hint of it, almost like a new flavour Doritos, for a limited time only. Once they’ve tasted it and then you take it away. They will long for it. If you give in and conform too easily, displaying neediness, it’s game over!

But for this chase as in the 2nd principle to happen.

A certain amount of comfort need to be in place, she needs to want you and to fight for you. A solid relationship is like a mathematic formula. It’s an equation. You need to develop comfort, and then break it. Causing the girl to invest in you and igniting the attraction. C-R+In=Att (Comfort –rapport +investment=attraction)
It’s seems complicating but it’s not. You need to have a certain amount of comfort to break and create the vacuum that causes her to want to have you as a partner.

She needs that safety you once gave her to burn her inside and make her think about you and run after you and invest her time in you. These principles go hand in hand with one another, because they all lead into each other.

The 1st needs the 2nd which needs the 3rd, which needs both one and two to work.

Keeping your cool is essential and is following all the guidelines together.

Don’t break down, give in or give up.

Following simple steps like this is easy. Your head can give in with all info you can get your hands on, it will confuse you and drive you crazy.

But follow these simple steps as your guideline and you’ll always know what to do next, be in control and know where you stand.

Because they are principles, they are flexible and are not learnt like a book. Because people aren’t like books, all of us are different and all situations are different.

These are a guideline to help you express yourself with, and to give you the edge and when you have an edge. You have confidence, because you know that that you know how to deal with a situation and get the upper hand.

Adam Lyons

When I first started the game I had the pleasure of being able to devote all of my time to developing new ideas and theories based on my own experience in field and research which helped alter the way thousands of people around the world approached the game. Unfortunately I’ve been so busy teaching recently that I’m just not getting the time I wanted to write up all my new theories and findings. However there was a little something I’ve been researching recently which gives a slightly new perspective to an old game we’ve been playing.

Those who’ve studied with me will be aware of my method of starting from comfort and exploiting social proof for all it’s worth. Well it turns out that actually a lot of my methods are not only backed up in the psychological studies I’ve mentioned in my own works but also by numerous other studies that where to demonstrate something other than attraction, that of conformity.

This is an area I knew quite a lot about, though with my fixation on attraction I had kind of left those thoughts and ideas on a back burner whilst I concentrated on what I thought where more beneficial pursuits. However with the revamped puatraining blog it has given me an excuse to write up something which I originally put together to amuse myself. Essentially it is a re-working of Dr Robert Cialdini’s work on influence with a slight twist towards attraction. The similarities between his work and my own theories of attraction only went to further my own belief in the formula for why we get attracted to others, but also his work serves as a great lesson in teaching us how to influence the behaviour of girls we’re interested in and how to influence their decision over who they’re attracted to. Essentially it makes a great alternative to building attraction with someone.

Reciprocation

We’re brought up in a society where we believe it’s correct to give something in return for any gifts we receive. This concept of a token economy where everything is traded is almost hardwired into our brains. Doing something for someone else almost guarantees that they will feel a need to do something in return. Go out of your way to help someone and see how confused they get. They often don’t understand why you’ve done it and feel they should do something in return.

Some of the best openers involve helping girls take pictures of themselves in a nightclub, or helping someone find their way when they’re lost. Adding value in this way almost always insures an easy transition into conversation with someone. As once you’ve done something nice for them or added value in some way your target is almost assured to feel like they owe you good conversation and friendliness if nothing less.

Concession

We almost always feel bad for letting someone down. If asked to perform a large task and refused the chances that someone will accept a smaller favour has a much higher chance of being accepted. Randomly stopping a girl in the street and asking her to marry you will almost certainly get you refused. However if you then take the time to sit with her and talk instead you’re likely to find she accepts this concession as she feels bad for rejecting you in the first place.

As conversation with someone is far less of a commitment than marriage she is more willing to comply, which of course makes it easy to run your game. This principle applies to almost any area of game from suggesting a full on dinner date then reducing it to a coffee right down to a holiday away for 2 months which then reduces down to a fun weekend away.

Consistency

People like to be seen as reliable. If someone confirms they will do something they tend to follow through with it. Getting a girls phone number is one thing, getting her to reply to your messages is another. Try sending her the message in front of her whilst you’re still in set. This way she knows you’ve seen her receive it. Tell her to make sure when she replies she sends something witty as most people send you boring work texts. Once she confirms that she’ll send the message her chances of actually responding to you will sky rocket, and dramatically reduce your flake rate.

Social Validation

People follow others, countless studies have been done to show just how good humans are at conforming to a group. It’s easier to go along with a crowd than to try and stand in the way of a tide of people. If a crowd of people all began looking up at a building your urge to do the same would be directly proportional to the amount of people looking up. One person may not even get you to bat an eyelid in the direction of the rooftop, however once 100 people began doing it you’ld take the time to have a quick peek yourself.

The concept of Social proof and pre-selection couldn’t be more compounded by this fact. If you’re surrounded by beautiful women who think you’re interesting other women have no hope but to accept you must be doing something right. Therefore you must be interesting and attractive to beautiful women. Adding girls to your life will only continue to increase your attraction to the opposite s%x.

Likeability

Obviously the more someone likes you the more they are likely to… well to be honest like you. Build rapport with someone, don’t be afraid to be friendly or feel you have to be nasty to someone just because they’re hot. Once they are friends with you your ability to game them and wind them up only increases. Negging a hot girl may seem like a great idea, but if they don’t really like you you’ll only end up with them walking away. Do the same neg after they like being in your company and instead of walking away you’ll find yourself building some pretty deep attraction.

Authority

One of the biggest mistakes I hear students repeat in set is asking a girl what she wants. Whether it is asking if they would like to go back to your house, or whether they would like to give you their phone number. These kinds of questions show a lack of authority and often result in a simple no for an answer. Many studies have shown that we respond incredibly well to authority. Don’t ask her what she wants to do, tell her.

Replace would you like to give me your phone number with; just give me your phone number and I’ll send you a text. Replace would you like to come to mine with; lets go back to mine for a quick drink. By leading the situation you’re far more likely to find her conforming to your wishes.

These techniques have been taught for years as a means of influencing others decisions from sales people to politicians, however with a bit of subtle tweaking and thought it’s easy to transfer it to a simple system to breakdown how to guide your actions within the game and dramatically increase your success in areas that may have been lacking.

Adam Lyons

Success Story:

What's up man? I bought your book. I read it twice and have an excellent success story to tell you about...

My friend brought me to a bar in Scottsdale, AZ last weekend to meet up with this girl he's dating and her friend. Neither of us knew what to expect with "the friend" but when we got there, I had met her before. In fact, she was the girlfriend of a business partner of mine a few years back.

She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie.
I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a cool attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - a challenge! So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first.
I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl. After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by "recalling" things from the times we had previously met.

I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up and told her that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before.
I waited for her to lean into me and then I angled myself toward her a little more. I then did a perfect cold-reading:

"I know you come across as a cold-hearted bitch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right
here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it."
OMG dude. The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before. So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me. I walked in front of her.
Then I took her arm. Then I took her hand. Then I let go of her hand and walked in front of her again. Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away.

She told me I was "evil". (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book -- so I KNEW I was doing all the right things.) I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil".

She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have. I gave in for about 20 seconds, then gently pushed her away and told her that I am not a sex toy and I had no intention of sleeping with her. (The sausage with feet line didn't feel right, so I went with another version.)

Then I said that our friends were waiting for us and proceeded to start to walk back to where they were sitting. She followed. We went to the new Devil's Martini which is a swanky dance club/bar in Scottsdale.

I danced with her and just about every other woman in the club. I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me. I started dancing on a raised platform where all the chicks could check me out and my friend's g/f came up to me and told me that I was so hot and she could tell that every woman in the place wanted me.

Nice.

But that is my belief anyway, so she was just affirming what I already knew. Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed.

So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me.

I started turning away from her and said, "Ok, you're totally right. Never mind." But she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose.

Thanks for putting together such a great tutorial on how to be the prize. It really works great!

- J from LA

My Comments:

Wow! - this is some great stuff. Get out your notepad because we're about to pull apart what J from LA did.

"She's 5'9", 120 pounds, brunette with the greenest eyes you could ever imagine. In short, a total hottie."

J, don't hesitate to email me her phone number. LOL

"I wanted her then, and you better believe I wanted her now. I made a "cool" attempt at reminding her of who I was and she managed to pretend like she couldn't remember. Nice - a challenge!"

Notice J's mindset: even though he was probably lustier than a horny baboon, he didn't place an absurd amount of value on her.

When most men interact with a beautiful woman, they put a huge amount of value on her.

When she blows them off, they act like she ripped out their heart and stepped on it.

No ifs, ands, or buts about it, women feel attracted to men they perceive as the Prize.

It's a whisker shy of impossible to establish yourself as the PRIZE when you put heaps of value on a woman wanting, accepting, and validating you.

If you're guilty of this, stop it.

I know, I know, stopping this bad behavior is easier said than done.

That's why inside my book Real World Seduction 2.0 you'll get your hands on specific exercises and techniques that'll prevent you from committing this cardinal sin ever again.
If you haven't read my book yet, a mindset that'll help convey to women that you're the Prize is this: If a woman doesn't like me, it's her loss, not mine.

J obviously embraces this mindset.

As a result, in J's reality the possibility of her rejecting him doesn't exist. Instead, he interprets her ignoring him as a challenge.

"So we proceeded to sit down at a table and I ignored her completely at first. I paid particular attention to my friend and his girlfriend and angled my body language 45 degrees away from the other girl."

J did the right thing. She claimed that she didn't remember him. Why should he give an iota of his attention to her?

Think about it: if a 400 lb woman sporting facial hair, warts, and a mouth full of cheesy bread pretended to not remember you, you'd just ignore her, wouldn't you?

But when most men are in the presence of a piece of T & A origami, it's a different story.

Even if she hacked off their nut sack with a sledgehammer, their eyes would still be crazy-glued to her boner-inducing body and their heart would fret over how to get her validation.

But, alas, when a man continues to feed attention to an ice-queen after she's disrespected him, he, unknowingly, communicates that he places more value on her than himself.

"After about 15 minutes she attempted to engage me by 'recalling' things from the times we had previously met. I reframed her recollection as an attempt to pick me up, and that I don't associate myself with girls who aren't honest the first time. This got her REALLY interested, because I was increasing my prizability while basically calling her a liar for acting like she didn't remember me before."

Interesting. Notice the shift. She went from not remembering him to recalling events from the previous time they'd met.

When you refuse to tolerate bad behavior from a woman, you convey that you put more value on your standards, expectations of others, and yourself than on her beauty.

Oftentimes, as was the case with J, she'll end up perceiving you as a PRIZE she wants to win over.

"I then did a perfect cold-reading. 'I know you come across as a cold-hearted bi*tch to most guys. But that's only because you haven't met your match yet. You haven't met a guy that could keep you in your place and make you realize that the world doesn't revolve around you. Well let me tell you something, that has all come to end right here and right now. You are about to experience something for the first time, and you're going to absolutely love it.' OMG dude. The look in her eyes was like nothing I've ever seen before."

You might think this is a bit harsh.

But trust me - it's actually quite powerful! This woman is used to men putting a lot of value on her, doing things on her terms, trying to live up to her expectations, giving her all of their power, and letting her pull them into her reality. These types of men bore her to death.

The underlying meaning of his cold read was this...

I know you're used to men getting pulled into your reality, but that ends RIGHT NOW, honey! I'm unwilling to get pulled into yours. In fact, you're about to get pulled into mine and you're gonna love it.

No dout about it, this made her down-below parts tingle with lust.

"So I told her we were going for a walk. She followed me."

Of course she followed, she was in his reality - and, I'm sure, loved every second of it!

"Then I turned around, pulled her close to me and kissed her hard on the mouth. Then I pushed her away. She told me I was "evil" (I remember reading that in the final pages of your book - so I KNEW I was doing all the right things). I stood there with my eyebrow cocked just looking at her like she had some kinda nerve calling me "evil". She came over to me and proceeded to kiss me like it was the last kiss she would ever have."

J did an A+ execution of physical push-pull - one of the most effective techniques for getting physical with a woman. (If you aren't using physical push-pull, I'm willing to bet many female opportunities are slipping through your fingers.)

The sexual tension between J and his sexy vixen was so thick, you could cut it with a machete.

He did the right thing and thawed some of that tension by pulling her in and kissing her.

Then he sparked the tension all over again by pushing her away.

This back-and-forth motion between sparking sexual tension and then releasing it exponentially magnifies a woman's attraction for you.

He also kissed her on his terms...

Most guys nervously wait for the girl to signal that she's ready to be kissed. Then they make an awkward attempt at playing tonsil hockey with her. But, to their chagrin, she pushes them away a few seconds later.

Not J. He took charge. Replete with confidence, he went in for the kiss, and then, before she had a chance to end it, pushed her away.

When a man demonstrates that he can lead a woman, like J did, her vajayjay mutates into a human super soaker.
There is a lot more to physical push-pull than what I've discussed.

If you want to learn the ins-and-outs of physical push-pull, click here

"I even tried to make her dance with other hot guys, but she wouldn't do it. She kept coming back to me and grinding on me."

By encouraging her to dance with other guys he conveyed that losing her is no big deal. This made her see him as a prize and spurred her into coming back and grinding on him.

"Finally I left the platform and walked away. My girl followed. I went to the bar. She followed. I went back to the dance floor. She followed. I went out on the patio and yes, she followed."

Notice that J keeps up the strong lead. As I've already mentioned, taking a strong lead with a woman hurls her sexual arousal into overdrive.

"So I figured by now I could have anything I wanted with her so I told her we were going back to her place. She made a weak attempt at saying that I had told her she wasn't having sex with me. I started turning away from her and said 'Ok, you're totally right. Never mind,' but she spun me around, kissed me and dragged me out of the place, back to her Lexus and straight to her apartment where she proceeded to dance stripper style for me, give me some of the best oral sex ever and basically offer herself to me in any way that I chose."

I don't care if you are bald or short or fat or broke...or whatever it is you feel is preventing you from succeeding with women.

If you have the skills to build sexual tension in women's bodies and establish yourself as a sought after Prize they want to chase, like J does, you can author your own sexual destiny.

Real World Seduction 2.0 gives you practical psychology that quickly generates attraction in women and compels them to see you as a Prize they want to chase after - and these psychological principles work regardless of your age, looks, or income.
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Your Loyal Dating Coach,

Swinggcat

Important: What you're about to learn is extremely powerful. So once you finish reading this post, put some time aside to digest it and implement it in your life. You'll be glad you did - trust me.

Since I was a kid, I've worked in sales. My bosses always told me, "When talking to a prospect, spell out as many benefits as your mind can muster up about the product or service you're selling."

Back then, if I sold Sham Wows, I would have told my prospects:

A regular towel doesn't work wet. But the Sham Wow works wet or dry. You can use it on your house, your boat, your car, and your RV. It can hold twelve times its weight in liquid. It washes, it dries, and it polishes. It won't scratch surfaces. It lasts ten years... and so on.

But then... something happened that changed my whole perspective on selling...

Right out of college, I got a job selling private placements. My boss told me I sounded like one of those infomercial circus monkeys.

He said, "Instead of trying to sell your customers, make them sell you. Brutally qualify them. When you make them prove themselves to you, closing the deal is cake."

This struck me as strange considering that all the prospects I spoke to were already qualified.

But it worked. I racked up sale after sale.
"I wonder if qualifying women would work as well as qualifying prospects," I pondered.

Of course it does - duh.

Here's why...

In all human interactions, there's a subtext - an underlying meaning - that defines a role for each participant. This is what I call the Meta-Frame.

In our culture, the default Meta-Frame for male/female courtship defines the woman's role as the Prize and the man's role as the suitor desperately trying to win her over.

If you don't know how to change the Meta-Frame and a woman isn't automatically attracted to you, she'll slot you into category two. (To learn more about the Meta-Frame, click here.)

But when you qualify a woman, she feels compelled to prove herself and pines for your validation.

The Meta-Frame reverses: you become the Prize she is trying to win over.

This makes it impossible for her to ensnare you into category two.

But you're not at of the woods yet, my friend.

To succeed with a woman, her self-image needs to be congruent with your desired outcome.

To give you an example, imagine a man meeting a woman with a pillar-of-chastity self-image crazy glued to her brain.

Thoughts about manhandling her into a public restroom and doing the nasty circle around and around in his noggin.

But because her self-image doesn't match his fantasy, his chances of achieving it teeter on zero.

In a minute, you're going to learn a form of qualifying that changes a woman's self-image, so it's congruent with your desired outcome.

It does this by exploiting the psychological principle Commitment & Consistency. Commitment & Consistency shows that people have an obsessive desire to be consistent with the deeds, commitments, or choices they have already done or made. (More on this later.)

The first step to qualifying a woman is figuring out your desired outcome with her.

If you don't, she'll determine the outcome for you. Be honest with yourself about what you want. Don't let friends, family, and the media decide for you.

Next, think about what kind of self-image a woman needs for you to achieve your desired outcome.

If you desire a one-night-stand from a woman, she will need a self-image packed with a sense of adventure and spontaneity to follow through.

If you want a woman to be your loving and doting girlfriend or wife, she will need to see herself as loyal, responsible, nurturing... and so on.

The qualities comprising the self-image you want to give women are your standards.

You are going to use these standards as challenges or questions when qualifying a woman.

Let's look at a simple formula to qualify a woman:

1) Ask her a question or present her with a challenge that makes her qualify.

2) If she complies, give her a qualifier (A qualifier is a compliment that lets her know that she's - at least to some degree - lived up to your standards.)

3) Then put up a false barrier or qualify her further.

Here's an example:

Swinggcat: Are you fun? (Notice: I'm taking one of my standards and turning it into a question/challenge.)

Girl: Yes. Very. (She qualifies and commits herself to a fun girl self-image.)

Swinggcat: Good 'cause I like fun girls. (I'm giving her a qualifier. This lets her know that she's lived up to my standards.)

Girl: Thank you.

Swinggcat: What's the craziest thing you've done in the last year? (I'm qualifying her further.)

Girl: I had sex on a train. (She's compelled to qualify because of her need to stay consistent with her previous commitment - being a fun girl.)

Swinggcat: Oh my God. I love you. You're my new girlfriend. (I'm giving her a qualifier.) If you and I hang out, we'll get arrested. So we should never hang out. (I'm creating a false barrier.)

Qualifying is a form of Push-Pull.

Push-Pull is emotionally Pushing a woman away from you and then emotionally Pulling her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.

To get a sense of where I'm going with all this, think, for example, of your favorite junk food. Imagine going on a strict diet for several weeks that prohibits you from eating your favorite food.

What would it feel like to finally give in to your urge and indulge after weeks of dieting?

I'm willing to bet it would taste a thousand times yummier after dieting than before.

Push-Pull has a tension loop structure. Each time you push her away, it sparks tension...

... and each time you pull her in, it releases that tension.

The process of sparking and then releasing tension in a woman creates attraction.

If you'd like to learn more about Push-Pull, click here.

To get a feel for this, let's look at another example...

Girl: (Points her eyes at a heard of people parading around in their underwear and folds her mouth into a grimace of disgust) Those people are heinous.

Swinggcat: I think what they're doing is kinda cool. I'm an open minded person and like to surround myself with other open minded people. (I'm challenging her, insinuating that she's not open minded, and hinting that she falls a few hairs short of someone I'd hang out with. This pushes her away and creates tension.)

Girl: (As an attempt to release the tension, she qualifies to me) I'm very open minded. I just got into Zen Buddhism and Kabbalah.

Swinggcat: Awesome. We can be friends. (This pulls her in and releases the tension.) But I sincerely hope a few years from now you don't call me up and ask me to hang out with a bunch of shoeless hippies who force me to drink their "special" Kool-Aid. (I'm putting up a false barrier to push her away and spark tension all over again.)

You can use small almost trivial commitments from a woman to increase compliance for much larger and only remotely related requests.

Let's look at an example...

Swinggcat: You wanna come to my no pants party?

Girl: What's that?

Swinggcat: It's a party where people don't wear any pants.

Girl: Ew. That's gross. No way. I'm not a slut.

Swinggcat: I thought you were adventurous. But now I don't think you can handle me. (I'm challenging her.)

Girl: I am adventurous. (She commits to being adventurous. This may seem like an innocent concession. But unknowingly, she's bought into having an adventurous self-image.)

Swinggcat: I'm still not sure we can hang. What's something adventurous you've done in the last year? (I'm building on the previous commitment.)

Girl: I went bungee jumping in Costa Rica.

Swinggcat: Wow. That's awesome. But I'm still not sure I can take you around my cool friends. Are you spontaneous?

Girl: Very

Swinggcat: What's something spontaneous you've done in the last year?

Girl: I moved to California on a whim.

Swinggcat: That's good because I like girls who are adventurous and spontaneous.

Girl: Thanks.

Swinggcat: If you were in kissing school, what grade would your kissing teacher give you on your kissing abilities?

Girl: I'd get an A.

Swinggcat: Let's find out.

Next I kiss her.

90% of the time women comply with this last challenge.

"But why?" you may be wondering.

Because, as illustrated in the example above, I first make them commit to being adventurous and spontaneous.

Although adventurism and spontaneity only remotely relate to their kissing ability and willingness to kiss you, these commitments modify their self-image enough for them to live up to the kissing challenge.

If they didn't, they'd feel that they weren't acting consistent with their new self-image.

I've got an intuition about you...

You wouldn't have taken the time to read this far if you weren't interested becoming a more effective communicator with women and improving your success with them.

Am I right?

If so, then keep reading...

Over the years, I've worked with hundreds of guys running the gamut from virgins to bonafide Casanovas.

There's one thing that prevented all these men from taking their success to the next level: they didn't properly qualify women.

Qualifying women gives you the skills and confidence to meet, attract, and succeed with the women you want.

What you learned in this letter is extremely powerful - go out and see for yourself.

But...

What you learned in this letter barely scratches the surface of qualifying women.

If you'd like to master this skill and take your success with women to the next level, check out my band-new book Real World Seduction 2.0.

Your Loyal Dating Coach,

Swinggcat

P.S., If you enjoyed the attraction secrets in this post and would like to get more, click here.

Another year has passed and its time for us to find out who made it into the Top 10 Pick Up Artists of 2010.

1. Adam Lyons

In 2007 no-one had heard of him now in 2011 every Pick Up Artist knows his name. Over the years he's developed Metagame, Entourage Game, A Unique formula for attraction and is one of only a handful of pick up artists who has proven his abilities live on television. Regarded as the worlds best pick up artist for a second year running by many of the other top PUA's. The reason he deserves his position on this list this year is due to the incredible successes seen on his bootcamps in the last year. Boasting an incredible almost 100% close rate on day 1 for his students on his courses has caused many up and coming pus's to come running to train with him. A well known saying within the game is that the only way to win the game is to leave it, AFC Adam is the only top Pick Up Artist to not only successfully get into a relationship with a genuine beautiful woman but to manage to maintain it into a successful marriage. These successes truly secure him his position once again as the worlds number one pick up artist.

2. Richard La Ruina aka Gambler

Another PUA who is no stranger to the top 10 list. Richard Gambler is widely known for being a great Pick Up Artist but arguably in the last year no-one has been more influential in training PUA's all over the world than Richard with his Stealth Attraction product. This incredible training programme teaches a number of powerful techniques never before heard of fulfilling the criteria of being both effective and accessible. Richard Gambler is not just an incredible teacher however, he also practices what he preaches and you only need to look at his Facebook page to see page upon page of successful pick ups with a quality of girl most aspiring pua instructors would be lucky to get for themselves. Richard truly is one of the worlds greatest PUA's and has definitely secured his place amongst the halls of the truly great Pick Up Artists for the rest of time. A great PUA truly deserving of his position as one of the worlds top 3 Pick Up Artists.

3. Sinn

It almost seems that no top 10 list would be complete without the top 3 we've included here. Sinn is without a doubt one of the biggest names the PUA world has ever known. His name has grown to outlast many of the previous top PUA's such as Mystery and Style. Developing numerous techniques for daytime, same night lays, and more. Perhaps some of his most powerful techniques are his works on breakthrough comfort. His teachings are respected all over the world and he has spawned numerous new PUA's who follow in his footsteps. Sinn once again proves his skill to become recognised as one of the top 3 PUA's in the world once more!

4. Vin DiCarlo

Pandoras box was once only known as a device which held all of the worlds evil. Thanks to the wise words of Vin DiCarlo it is now also a superb system for analysing and breaking down the best way to pick up girls. Identifying 8 different types of girls and the best way to game each of them, he has taken a novel approach to an old Game. It is rare that we see real difference in the content taught in the community. So many are prone to just copy pre-existing ideas or rehash them as their own, to see such different ideas being used and taught is incredibly refreshing. This ingenuity definitely secures Vin's place as one of the best PUA's in the world!

5. Cajun

One of the few original PUA's left in the top 10. Cajun has consistently proven his skills as a PUA most notably in his performance on Keys to the VIP in Canada. His game is impressive and the results of his students speak for themselves. The only problem is that in the last year he doesn't appear to have developed any new content or performed anything of particular note, allowing his brethren to rise above him within his company. However his achievements still outshine many of the PUA's that currently work within the industry and few have yet to develop skills or feats that rival his past accomplishments which definitely secures his position within the top 5 of this top list of worldwide pick up artists.

6. Alex Prime

Alex has been in the community since 2007 and despite numerous successes in the field and being AFC Adam's right hand man it is only in the last 6 months that people are starting to mention his name. The best PUA's are often never recognised due to the fact that they spend too much time in the field picking up chicks as opposed to posting about it online. You have to look hard to find it, but with videos of Alex picking up girls within 2 minutes on a cold street approach and footage of him appearing in bed with two women at once, something that has seldom been seen with evidence in the PUA community he definitely deserves a position in the top 10 list. Lets hope this inspires him to share more of his training and advice in 2011.

7. Nick Sparks

The first thing you notice about this guy is the permanent grin fixed to his face. With good reason too, Nick Sparks has been taking the PUA world by storm. From same night lays to social game, Nick is a PUA with multiple skills in the game, something even more valuable in an age of micro-niche PUA's popping up all over the place. His talks are inspiring, his advice valuable and with an active training schedule he's far from being a Keyboard Jockey as many of the PUA's who sit behind their keyboards offering advice are in this present day. Hopefully we'll see more of his training in 2011 but he's already worked hard enough to deserve a place on this top 10 list.

8. Glenn P

Brad P's right hand man and until recently Glenn has had to watch while Brad gets the spotlight. During 2010 things have changed, it appears that Brad P has outsourced a lot of his training to Glenn. If you take the time to head out to Union Square in NYC or Saddle Ranch in Hollywood you may see this PUA training diligently in field trying to help his students in set with demonstrations, dedication and direct advice helping them get the best results they can, which gains him his position on the top 10 list.

9. 60 years of challenge

60 is a bit of an underground legend, unknown by the community at large but supported by an almost cult like following amongst those who've found his teachings. Preferring to concentrate more on sexual escalation over social skills in his methods of teaching, 60 has definitely become more well known of late and is being recognised on a number of different top 10 lists in 2011 as one of the new breeds of PUA to ascend to the ranks of the top PUA's in the world.

10. DJ Fuji

Since stepping out from the dark shadow of Mehow, DJ Fuji has done an incredible job at building up his own following. Too many PUA's forget the importance of spending time actually working with their Students. Not DJ Fuji however. He works diligently travelling from lair to lair, offering free advice, free content and helping as many upcoming pus's as he can. You may not have meet any of the other PUA's off of this list despite hearing of them, but if you've gone out and about to lair meets and other events you've undoubtedly seen this top PUA give his help in person, and that unfaltering desire to help is what gets him this place on the top 10 list.

So that wraps it up for our Top Ten PUAs of 2010.

NightVision

In the movie A Beautiful Mind the mathematical genius John Nash walks up to a woman, plops his tush on a barstool next to hers and says, "I don't exactly know what I am required to say in order for you to have intercourse with me. But could we just assume I said all that? I mean, essentially what we are talking about here is fluid exchange, right? We could just skip straight to the sex.”

Her eyes open wide, each one bulging almost out of its socket and simmering with anger. From behind her red painted lips she gushes a wry, “Oh, that was sweet.”

He smiles ear-to-ear and nods his head in a way that could only mean “that went well.”

Then she wallops him across the face with the palm of her hand and fires a harsh, “Have a nice night, asshole.”

If you want to try Nash’s “charming” pick up line on a woman, go ahead. Be my guest. But invest in some headgear to take the brunt of the fist she’ll swing at your skull.

Too bad.

If this gambit made women waft their eyes at your crotch and demand, “Bend me over and drill your notorious B.I.G into my pink taco,” you’d have a permanent smile plastered to your face.

Alas, only master woodsmen like Ron Jeremy and Lexington Steele live out post-pubescent fantasies of this ilk (and only while filming porn.)

If you want to get back inside the same warm hole you spent nine months struggling to escape, you’ll have to venture into the murky underworld of illogical mating games collectively called “flirting”.

All of us can tell when two people are flirting: you can almost feel the spark of electricity between them.

But few men know the essential features of flirting and even fewer can flirt with women at their whim. It’s just something that spontaneously happens between them and a woman once in a great while.

It’s not our fault. Most parents, teachers, books, and movies instill in us the belief that to get the girl of our dreams, we need to woo her over with expensive dinners, bankrupting jewelry, and lavish vacations. (As a side note, I remember the first time I squandered my money away on a fancy dinner for a woman. Instead of making her panties wet, it churned and bloated her belly.)

This belief not only cripples our chances with women but also blinds us from seeing these essential features.

But if you could somehow dredge up these essential features you could flirt with women at your will.

Well, you’re in luck. After years of studying social dynamics and purging every last morsel of this cancerous belief from my brain, I’ve unearthed these essential features. In this letter, I’m going to share them with you and teach you how to use them on women.

Essential Feature # 1: The Uncertain Possibility

“What Is Flirting? One might say that it is a behavior leading another to believe that sexual intimacy is possible, while preventing that possibility from becoming a certainty. In other words, flirting is a promise of sexual intercourse without a guarantee.”

-- Milan Kundera
Unbearable Lightness Of Being

To demonstrate Kundera’s lesson, let’s take an example from the MTV show Jersey Shore. Aspiring Lotharios Pauly and Vinny want to go on a double date with girls they met the night before at a nightclub.

Vinny calls up his girl and says, “Hey, it’s Vinny. What are you doing tonight?”

She says, “Tonight I have no plans.”

He says, “I dunno if you met my friend Pauly with the spiky hair but we might go to this little restaurant and then maybe out afterwards. He might call… um… some girl. I need a sympathy date. You know what I mean? I don’t want to be left out.”

She gives him a sympathy, “Aw!”

He asks, “Do you want to do me that favor?”

She cedes him a hesitant, “Alright.”

He feels confident that she is coming. Unfortunately, to his chagrin, she flakes.

Pauly takes a different approach. He calls up his girl and says, “I want to take out the girl I’m in love with.”

She says, “Aw!”

He follows up with, “But then I figured you could come too.”

She starts laughing like a hyena seconds before feasting on its prey and says, “Not funny. That’s so not funny.”

As you could probably guess, she shows up.

Why did Pauly’s girl show up and Vinny’s flake?

Vinny’s Casanova skills were as smooth as a grandmother’s butt strewn with grey stubble, dimpled with cellulite, and pocked with assne. His phone conversation was fraught with problems: from stuttering to beating around the bush and beseeching her for a “sympathy” date.

But the real culprit was that he didn’t spark sexual tension. He failed to flirt with her.

Pauly did the opposite. His flirtatious approach sparked sexual tension by leading her to believe that sexual intimacy with him was possible yet not certain.

If your interactions with women lack sexual tension, do yourself a favor and pick up a copy of my book Real World Seduction 2.0.

Essential Feature # 2: Temptation Without Satisfaction

The word ‘tantalize’ is a close cousin to ‘flirting’ and means temptation without satisfaction.

‘Tantalize’ comes from the Greek god Tantalus whom Zeus condemned for eternity to stand in a pool of water beneath a fruit tree.

Whenever he reached for fruit, the branches rose, preventing him from satisfying his appetite.

Whenever he bent down to drink, the water receded, thwarting him from quenching his thirst.

Each failed attempt at attaining fruit or water increased his desire.

The story of Tantalus resonated with the ancient Greeks because it revealed something endemic to human beings: temptation without satisfaction rouses desire in all of us.

To demonstrate this, I want you to try a little experiment: Lightly brush your fingers against your arm for a split second. I’m willing to bet you felt a slight urge to itch your arm.

Here’s an example of how you can use temptation without satisfaction to stir up sexual arousal in women…

When it’s time kiss a girl, instead of going for the gold and thrusting your tongue down her throat, graze your lips against hers for a few seconds. Then pull back and give her a knowing smile.

She’ll return your smile with the same pouty face children make when their parents refuse to buy them the toy they’ve been drooling over for months.

Do this to her a few more times and she will grab you tightly and kiss you hard.

Is it cruel and unusual punishment to torture a poor damsel in distress like this?

No no. Far from it.

This is flirting at its finest and the kind of torture women love.

That’s because temptation without satisfaction puts their sexual desire on steroids.

Moreover, it demonstrates to women that you know what you’re doing in the bedroom. Masterful lovers use temptation without satisfaction from the moment they meet a woman ‘til sex (and during) to stoke the sexual fire in her loins and precipitate orgasm.

If you want to master the ins-and-outs of creating temptation without satisfaction, giving you the power to whet a woman’s sexual appetite at the snap of your finger, pick up a copy of my book Real World Seduction 2.0.

Essential Feature # 3: Creating Obstacles:

“… I find myself in the torturous contradictory situation that I need an obstacle between my will and my goal. The more effective the obstacle is, the more overwhelming my desire becomes – provided the goal is in sight.”

-- Maria Marcus
A Taste For Pain

When you put up a barrier between a woman and something she wants, her desire for it increases a hundredfold. When done in a flirtatious context it sexualizes her desire.

To give you an example, a while back I chatted up this 22-year-old brunette.

She was obviously into me: each joke I made – even the ones that should make only retarded children laugh – hurled her into a paroxysm of giggles and compelled her to fondle me like a crystal ball.

So I told her, “The Aquarium of the Pacific has a new sea otter exhibit and I’m going next week.” (Later I learned that BP funded the exhibit. But that’s a story for another time.)

She exclaimed, “I love sea otters,” and then begged, “I wanna go. I wanna go. Take me. Take me. Please!!”

I teased, “I was gonna take you but you had to act all needy about going. So that’s just not happening anymore.”

She socked me on the arm and whined, “That’s no fair. You’re such a meany. I wanna go so bad.”

Let’s break down what I did…

She obviously wanted to go to the aquarium and hang out with me. So I created a false barrier.

The result: her desire to go to the aquarium and hang out with me burgeoned like a malignant tumor on a mission to take over a hapless person’s body.

But there’s a more subtle and powerful aspect to creating false barriers…

I discovered it at age six while driving to Palm Springs with my grandparents. From the backseat vantage point I witnessed my gluttonous grandma reach her hand into a box of See’s Candy, grab ahold of a piece of chocolate, stuff it into her mouth, and move her jaw around and around like a cow chewing on its cud.

After repeating the process ad nauseum, she asked me if I’d like a piece and I said, “No thank you.” (Chocolate has never been my thing.)

She responded with, “Good… because I wasn’t gonna give you any.”

All of the sudden I wanted a piece of chocolate. Her taking that option of having a piece away from me made the chocolate desirable.

The moral of the story: you can start with something a person has no interest in, create a barrier from her getting it, and – viola – she’ll desire it.

The most powerful application of this principle is when you use a barrier to turn yourself into the object of a woman’s desire.

More times than I can count, I’ve used this to transform myself in a matter of seconds from the bane of a woman’s nightclub experience into her knight and shining armor.

Here’s why…

Women like to think of themselves as attractive and desirable. For most women to maintain this self-image they need validation from men. In other words, even if they aren’t attracted to you, they want you to want them.

That’s why droves of happily married women go out on the town with their girlfriends and revel in men hitting on them – it validates that they’re still desirable.

I remember the first time I used this. A friend and I were at a small pub on Saint Patrick’s Day. As we were chatting with a girl, I noticed two ice-princesses roll their eyes at us. Then the blonde one said to the other, “Why is Suzy talking to those ugly losers?” (No ifs, ands, or buts about it, she was referring to us.)

Next, the blonde marched over to us and gave her friend the directive, “Let's go. We need to leave.”

I looked her directly in the eyes and delivered a cool and collected, “You’re very pretty.”

She hissed, “You’re a real charmer,” and tried to frown. But her frown was struggling against the pull of her rising cheeks and narrowing eyes. Her forced I’m-a-bitch façade was giving way to a genuine smile that said loud and clear, “I’m so happy you think I’m desirable.”

Then I continued with, “But too bad you’re a bottle blonde. Bottle blondes aren’t my type. I like my girls natural.”

Her genuine smile gave way to a genuine frown.

Then she started grinding against me and said, “You know I’m hot. You know I turn you on.”

I leaned back against the bar and said, “You are hot. You just don’t sexually do anything for me.”

She quarreled, “No guy in his right mind would turn me down. You must be gay.”

So I gave her a sarcastic, “If that would make you feel better about yourself, you can think I’m gay.”

She protested, “No you’re not and you want me,” and then planted her lippers on mine.

To spare you the needless details, we played tonsil hockey for the rest of the night.

Although she found me less appealing than the whiff of ass and foot combined, I became the object of her sexual desire by creating a barrier.

The bedrock for applying the three essential features of flirting is using a powerful seduction technology called “Push-Pull.

Push-Pull is the art of emotionally Pushing a woman away from you and then emotionally Pulling her back in. Each Push creates an emotional space for each Pull.

To get a sense of where I'm going with all this, think, for example, of your favorite junk food. Imagine going on a strict diet for several weeks that prohibits you from eating your favorite food.

What would it feel like to finally give in to your urge and indulge after weeks of dieting?

I'm willing to bet it would taste a thousand times yummier after dieting than before.

Push-Pull is the fastest way to spark sexual tension. Each time you push her away, it sparks tension...

... and each time you pull her in, it releases that tension.

The process of sparking and then releasing tension in a woman creates attraction.

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Men are simple creatures, give us women, sports, alcohol and zombie films and I think most of us are more than happy. In the past it is clear that anytime we can merge a few of these things together it’s fair to assume that the following creation is almost always a success.

Game night in the local bad with a group of hot chicks, movie theatre’s that show zombie flicks and allow you to drink alcohol at the same time, the movie Zombie Strippers featuring the porn star Jenna Jameson. Ok maybe not the last one so much, but still in general these are good combinations. So it won’t be surprising for you to learn that I had a massive celebration after I discovered one of my favourite tactics to help in the battle to understand the opposite sex, namely the art of Zombie Game or for want of a better description how to bring them back from the dead!

First of all lets take a look at the average woman and the way she handles a guy who gets her phone number. We can break it down into a simple format or system as shown below;

A) You exchange numbers and she likes you
B) You exchange numbers and she doesn’t like you
C) You exchange numbers and at first she likes you but then she doesn’t
D) You exchange numbers and at first she doesn’t like you but then she does

Four simple options, some have great outcomes some not so great. Lets narrow it down a bit, because some of them we really don’t have to worry about. A and D pretty much handle themselves. At the end of the day he result of these two is that you end up with the girl, in the case of D it may have taken a bit of “game” on your end but the simple fact remains you managed to pull it off. With regards to this particular article we can ignore those two.

What we’re interested in are the two that don’t go anywhere. B and C these two options share one incredibly simple characteristic. The girl doesn’t like you. It’s simple and plain. You send a few more messages to her and attempt to “game” her, but for whatever reason you’ve just managed to fail and she’s lost interest. Soon enough she gets bored with replying and stops. Then you stop messaging her and for all intents and purposes she is considered “dead” to you.

Normally you would leave her number in your phone as a “ghost” of the memory of the relationship that could’ve been. If only you’ll said “this” instead or perhaps you should have done “that” whatever it doesn’t matter, she is lost, dead to you…Or is she?

What if there was some kind of magic voodoo that we could perform that would bring her back from the dead?

Some kind of magic ritual that would enable us to once again take a chance at “gaming” her and perhaps getting her to realise that we aren’t the tool bag she initially first thought. After all sometimes in the cold light of day the “funny” text message you sent at 3am when half drunk may actually seem pretty lame now.

The good news for you is that women are not like men. They don’t enjoy keeping ghosts in their closets as reminders of all the weirdos that have hit on them. They do something very rational in their minds. To ensure they never have to deal with that person again, and so they don’t have to have the temptation of calling they decide to put them out of their life for good.

They delete the number.

So what we have here is a girl who you’ve been attracted to, met only once in a bar, made a pretty lame first impression with and who has then after a few simple text exchanges grown bored/lost interest and deleted your number.

This gives you the ability to work some incredible social voodoo.

You see after 3 months or so she is unlikely to remember who you are. However you can be sure that any girl’s number that is sitting in your phone is someone who you were attracted to enough to at least get her number. Over a period of 3 months of going out “gaming” its fair to assume you’re going to have a good solid collection of girls phone numbers for people who for whatever reason just didn’t go anywhere. All you have to do is BRING THEM BACK FROM THE DEAD!!!!

The idea is simple, you send a text message designed to trigger a great deal of curiosity due to it being interesting/funny enough to attract her attention. When she realises she doesn’t know who has sent it she should be curious enough to reply and voila you’ve successfully gotten into a position where you can speak to her all over again from scratch making a brand new first impression and in video game terms gain a second life so you can attempt to succeed where you failed last time.

So lets lok at possible messages that could trigger a response. (Remember you’re going to have the best results with your own personalised messages. If everyone reading this simply copies it word for word people are going to work it out REALLY quickly)

So lets look at some examples;

Quirky
“OMG I’ve just come home to my house to discover an infestation of smurf’s what should I do?”

Funny
“So I’ve got this problem I need help with what’s orange and sounds like a parrot?” (a carrot – almost any joke would work here)

Interesting
“So if you came home to find someone’s sex toys on your sofa how are you supposed to react?”

These are just a few quick examples, of course from these it’s pretty easy to see what you’re looking to do. Don’t make the mistake of trying to personalise them for each person.

Just mass send them out to every number in your phone book who hasn’t been texting you recently. Not all will respond, but you’re going to find that a good bunch of them do, more than you’ll be able to realistically be able to meet up with at least, which is going to keep you busy for a while.

The response are going to range from funny response which will be easy to reply to down to;

“Do I know you?/Who are you?”

The easiest catch all response I’ve found for this is to reply, either;

a) Actually I’ve no idea how we know each other, I sent that message out to a few friends and accidentally added you too it LOL. Still you must be cool if I’ve got you in my phone, I’m curious what’s your answer?

or

b) I think we met a while back and you wanted to take me to coffee but I never got back to you because I’ve been up to my eyeballs in work/travelling. I seem to remember you seemed pretty cool I’m curious, what’s your answer?

Though of course you may need to improvise the answers if they vary too much from this, though that’s probably not a bad thing as it’s going to help you relate to the person a lot easier.

Zombie game is a very powerful tool and one which shouldn’t be abused. You really want to stick to doing these mass texts sporadically no more than every 3 months or so, (otherwise you’re going to end up spamming them) Still if you are going out and actively practicing then you should find that you have a good lump of numbers to send this out to. This is one of the best methods I’ve found of bringing dead interactions back to life, and helping you get a second chance with a girl you may have blown it with in the past.

Finally remember, this isn’t a replacement for doing things correctly in the first place, it is simply an effective way of giving yourself a second chance with a girl you may have met previously and want another chance with once your skills at game have improved. After all your skill’s with women should have significantly improved over a 3 month period.

Feel free to reproduce this article and share it with your friends. Especially with those who have a habit of talking about the “girls that got away”, who knows it may be just what they need to give them a solid second chance with her.

The best thing about this particular method is that it doesn’t involve you having to go out to a club or coffee shops to hit on girls, you can do this from the comfort of your sofa with the sports results over the radio a nice brew in your hand whilst watching Jenna Jameson strutting her zombie stuff on stage in a bad B Movie Zombie Horror Flick.

by Adam Lyons

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